文丨子月
Editor丨Ziyue
Preface
In ancient China, the status of women was not high, especially for widows, who were under heavy pressure and loneliness. In the social context of the time, it was a matter of desperation for widows not to marry, but they needed to learn how to endure loneliness.
In such a situation, the ancient people also had some corresponding methods to help widows survive their lonely days, including some "local methods".
Why did the widow stop marrying?
In ancient China, it was a very common phenomenon for widows to no longer marry, and it was also closely related to the social customs of the time. At that time, the status of women was not high, and once their husbands died, they were subjected to great stress and pain. In such a situation, if a widow chooses to remarry, she is likely to be ostracized and discriminated against, and even treated unfairly.
Therefore, in order not to cause trouble for themselves and their families, and to continue to guard the protection of their ancestors, many widows can only choose not to marry and endure loneliness for a lifetime. In the social perception of the time, widows were generally considered "unclean" and were reprimanded for "wearing the clothes of their dead husbands" and "eating their dead husband's food", so it was difficult for them to remarry.
How do widows endure loneliness?
For widows, not marrying means that they will face a long period of loneliness, which is undoubtedly a great torture and test for them. So, how did the ancient widow endure loneliness in such a situation?
Develop hobbies
In order to keep their lonely days from being too pale and boring, many widows will take the initiative to cultivate some hobbies, such as learning embroidery, calligraphy, music, etc. Through these activities, they can find some fun and solace, and they can also let their emotions out, thus relieving their inner loneliness.
Make friends
In ancient China, the range of communication of women was relatively narrow, but widows also had their own social circles, and slowly made some like-minded friends in life. Through communication and interaction with them, widows can get more support and encouragement, and get a certain degree of spiritual nourishment and comfort.
Belief in religious doctrines
In addition, in the rural areas of ancient China, many widows still held certain religious beliefs, such as Buddhism and Taoism. In the teachings of religion, they can find some thoughts and arrangements for life and death, and they can also alleviate their inner fears and constraints through faith, so as to better face their own destiny.
A local method works very well
In ancient China, people had their own unique views and ways to deal with various problems in life, so many colorful folk cultures were formed. When widows needed to endure loneliness, the ancients also tried all kinds of ways to help them get through the difficulties.
In traditional culture, there is a local method that works very well, that is, "Fu Lu Shou Sanxingzhao", which is usually used to dispel bad luck and bad luck in the home. For widows, the "Fu Lu Shou Three-Star Photo" can not only give them spiritual comfort and support, but also bring them a touch of luck and joy.
"Fu Lu Shou Three-Star Photo" is usually played by three close friends or relatives who come to the widow's house on a specific day to bring them some gifts and good wishes. Through such blessing ceremonies, widows can feel the warm care and love of those around them, and can also gain some positive energy and courage to face all kinds of difficulties and challenges in life again.
Although the ancient social customs were full of endless suffering and torture for widows, they still had a strong and optimistic side in loneliness, and they learned how to endure loneliness under such a special fateful arrangement, and to some extent, they also gained inner growth and improvement.
Nowadays, in contemporary society, the spiritual connotation of "Fu Lu Shou Sanxingzhao" still has a very important significance, it tells us how to care for the people in need of help and love around us, give them more care and support when others are lonely and helpless, and play an active role in creating a warm social environment.
Therefore, in the eyes of our modern people, "Fu Lu Shou Samsung Zhao" is not just the existence of traditional cultural forms, but more of a positive spiritual force and value guidance, how we should interpret it at the moment, and how to inherit and promote it.
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