Preface
Family is the most important part of everyone's life, and the relationship between family members is often accompanied by various contradictions and emotional entanglements. Especially when it comes to issues involving interests and property, it is easy to cause contradictions and disputes, and people are in a dilemma.
1. Family conflicts, the house under the daughter's name has become the focus of entanglement
Su Hui is an ordinary rural retired worker, ordinary and simple, living a stable life. She and her husband have a daughter, and the daughter has been well-behaved and sensible since she was a child, and she has also become the heart of her parents.
A few years ago, Su Hui's husband unfortunately suffered from a serious illness and couldn't afford to get sick, which brought great shock and distress to the whole family. During this time, Su Hui's daughter gave them great support and help, and became the strongest support in their lives.
And when her husband was seriously ill, Su Hui's mother-in-law also suffered from dementia because of her advanced age and needed long-term care and attention. Faced with such a situation, Su Hui and her husband had a plan, they wanted to leave the property in their name to their daughter as a care and compensation for their daughter's life.
Now, her daughter has started a family and has her own small family, and Su Hui and her husband have also transferred the property to their daughter's name according to the plan, hoping that their daughter can have a stable home when she is old.
However, during this time, something happened in Su Hui's house that she didn't expect. It turned out to be their brother and sister-in-law, who needed to use a property because of their marriage, but they found Su Hui's daughter and wanted to borrow the house in her daughter's name as the destination of marriage.
At the beginning, the daughter didn't know the true purpose of her brother and sister-in-law, and she was hesitant and entangled in this matter. However, when her daughter understood clearly, she immediately refused her brother and sister-in-law's request, and also deliberately found her brother, making it clear that she would not lend the property, hoping that her brother would be considerate and understanding.
2. Stick to the principle, we will not borrow
Unexpectedly, the daughter's answer made the brother and sister-in-law very dissatisfied and angry, they felt that their daughter was making things difficult for them and did not give them face at all. So, at a family gathering, my brother and sister-in-law deliberately mentioned this matter, and openly questioned her daughter in front of everyone, which made her feel very embarrassed and embarrassed.
In the face of her brother and sister-in-law's verbal ridicule, her daughter also felt aggrieved and angry, she felt that she was principled and moral, not that she was unwilling to help her brother and sister-in-law, but that this matter involved great interests, and it was inconvenient for her to make a commitment.
After learning about this incident, Su Hui and her husband also strengthened their minds, they felt that their daughter's idea was correct, and they should not lend the property without authorization because of their relatives.
Although the brother and sister-in-law found all kinds of excuses and reasons to convince Su Hui and her husband to borrow the house, they still firmly believed that the family's real estate was their lifelong savings and the only thing they could give to their daughter, and they couldn't lend it easily, let alone for such a special reason.
III. Thinking
Perhaps, for the brother and sister-in-law, they have a sincere heart, hoping to be helped and understood, and they also want to take this opportunity to get closer to each other.
However, they ignore one point, that is, whether it is family affection or morality, it should not be used as an excuse to harm the interests of others, let alone a tool for unreasonable and coercive demand.
In family relationships, especially when it comes to property and interests, everyone should know how to respect and understand the choices of others, and not force others to support and help.
At the same time, we must not bring harm to the lives and emotions of others because of our own impulsiveness and negligence, otherwise, even if the superficial contradictions are resolved, it will be difficult to repair and repair the emotional rift between each other.
epilogue
Every family will have a variety of conflicts and problems, and how to communicate and deal with these problems is also a process that requires wisdom and patience.
When dealing with family conflicts, whether as a person or a bystander, you should learn how to listen to and understand others, how to stick to your own principles, and be able to grow and progress together with each other's support and help.
I hope that every family can be full of warmth and understanding, no matter what difficulties and challenges they encounter, they can face them bravely, and they can also feel each other's love and companionship with their hearts, and go through the ups and downs of life together.
Write at the end
Through this story, we may be able to think about how family affection and morality should be balanced and chosen, and how we should deal with family conflicts and entanglements in order to make the most appropriate decisions and choices.
Perhaps, everyone's answer will be different, but only on the basis of equality and respect can we find the best answer, and can we make the various emotions of the family richer and deeper.