Text: Summer of Roses
Disclaimer: The story comes from life, and there are some fictional plots in this article, please read it rationally.
Some time ago, the eldest sister and her brother-in-law had a conflict, the couple quarreled fiercely, and the eldest sister cried and called her parents. But the eldest sister is married far away, and it takes more than ten hours to drive from her mother's house to her house, even if she takes the highway. I'm a little closer to my eldest sister's house, just over three hours by car.
My mother was in a hurry and couldn't eat, so she hurriedly called me and asked me to drive to the eldest sister's house, pick up the eldest sister first, and if the eldest brother-in-law didn't admit his mistake, the big deal would be to let the eldest sister divorce, and she raised the eldest sister. As for the two children, both to the brother-in-law.
I persuaded her not to be so arbitrary, but the eldest sister just felt wronged and called her to complain, saying that the divorce was just angry talk, maybe they would be reconciled in a few days.
My mother shouted on the phone: You little conscienceless, that's your own sister, she was wronged, can you sit idly by and ignore it?
I know that my mother feels sorry for my eldest sister, and I understand her feelings, but I don't support her approach. In the midst of my mother's accusation again, I asked: Mom, do you remember what happened to my sister-in-law? Do you want my sister to follow the same path as my sister-in-law in the future?
My mother was stunned, my sister-in-law was a wound in my parents' hearts, and since the two families broke off contact, our family has never mentioned the title of sister-in-law. Suddenly, I mentioned it, and my mother was stunned on the other end of the phone for a few seconds before she said slowly: I know, hang up first.
My parents have 5 brothers and sisters, my dad is the second, and he has been naughty and difficult to manage since he was a child. Uncle writes homework every day when he comes home from school, even if he doesn't have homework, he plays at the door of his house, my dad is out of school, throws down his schoolbag and runs out, and when it comes to dinner, if grandma doesn't go out and call him, he can play until it gets dark before going home.
Uncle has good academic performance, people are also honest, although my father's grades are better than uncle, but the ability to cause trouble is also higher than uncle, today is not a fight with others, parents come to the door, the day after tomorrow is to kick the pot that people feed the dog to flatten.
My dad has been beaten by grandparents since he was a child, my sister-in-law is well-behaved and sensible, sometimes my dad is punished for skipping dinner or kneeling at the door, my sister-in-law quietly gives him food, and also pleads for my dad in front of my grandparents.
Although my dad is naughty, he values love and righteousness, and he remembers his sister-in-law's kindness to him. During the summer vacation, I went to the mountains to pick wild fruits, kept the sour ones for myself, and gave the sweet ones to my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law went to the mountains to herd sheep, and the sheep lost one, and my father was worried that my sister-in-law would be punished and take all the blame on himself. On that day, my father was not only punished, but also searched the mountains for more than three hours with a flashlight alone to find the lost sheep.
When I was a child, many siblings grew in the friendship of you helping me cover and I helped you intercede, and the same was true of my father and sister-in-law's brother and sister-in-law.
After my dad got married, my sister-in-law and my mom got along like sisters, and the two often went shopping together and worked in the fields together.
On the day of my sister-in-law's wedding, my parents cried more sadly than my grandparents, and when my uncle came to pick up my relatives, my father called my uncle aside and said: Be good to my sister, if you let him be wronged, I will not be finished with you.
My uncle knew that my father felt sorry for my sister, and promised again and again that he would treat my sister-in-law well and not let her suffer any grievances.
My sister-in-law and my uncle met by relatives, my sister-in-law was very beautiful, she went to the street to catch the market, and my uncle fell in love with her at first sight, so he asked a matchmaker to come to the door to talk about matchmaking. My uncle is handsome and can speak, and my sister-in-law also has a good impression of him.
After the marriage, the sister-in-law returned to her parents' house, and the uncle was worried that the sister-in-law was too tired from riding, so he would take her back by bicycle, and the two handlebars were hung with things for the grandparents. Everyone in the village envied her sister-in-law for marrying well, and her husband was considerate and thoughtful.
When my sister-in-law mentioned her uncle, her face was also full of happiness. Later, when he had a child, his uncle went to work in other places, and he and his sister-in-law lived separately. A few years ago, my sister-in-law often called my sister-in-law and sent money home, but later not only did she send money less and less, but she also didn't want to go home during the Chinese New Year.
The sister-in-law asked him when he would come back, and he said that there were too many people at the New Year's Pass to buy tickets, and he would talk about it after a while. The sister-in-law missed him and wanted the child to meet him, and when he was about to take the child to find him, he came back by car, but when he got home, he either went to sleep or went out to drink with a few friends in the village, and he was at home very rarely.
The woman's intuition is still quite accurate, and the abnormality of the little uncle is seen by the sister-in-law, she doesn't know what to do, and she cries and goes back to her parents' house to complain to her grandparents. Everyone in the family knew about this matter, and the grandfather persuaded the sister-in-law to divorce, and the grandmother felt that the divorced child was the most pitiful, so it was better to give the uncle another chance, as long as he was willing to change, forgive him this time.
After the sister-in-law went back, she asked the sister-in-law to cherish this small family, and the sister-in-law agreed, but two years later, the sister-in-law came back with a woman from other places and filed for divorce from the sister-in-law.
My sister-in-law couldn't swallow this breath and refused to leave anything. When my sister-in-law cried and went back to her parents' house, my grandmother was angry and distressed, but she didn't know what to do, so she called my father and uncle to the house to discuss.
Uncle is the kind of person who doesn't care about himself, he hasn't fought since he was a child, and he doesn't want to be nosy. My dad couldn't sit still, he felt sorry for his sister-in-law, so he immediately rode a bicycle to my sister-in-law's house to reason with my uncle.
My uncle didn't admit that he was wrong, and said that my sister-in-law was unwilling to divorce, and my dad couldn't swallow this breath and scuffled with my uncle. Grandma and sister-in-law were worried that they would make a big deal out of it, so they also rode their bicycles to the back foot.
My uncle is not my father's opponent, and when my sister-in-law saw that my uncle was injured, she persuaded my father not to do anything while protecting my uncle. Seeing this, my uncle hid behind my sister-in-law and fought back a few times while my father was not paying attention.
When my dad wanted to fight back, my sister-in-law desperately held him and didn't let him fight back, and my dad kicked my uncle a few times.
When my dad and grandmother saw my sister-in-law like this, they hated iron but not steel. Grandma glanced at my sister-in-law in disappointment, took my father's arm and said, "Second child, let's go home, we won't care about their family affairs in the future."
On the way back, my dad didn't say a word, and my grandmother looked at the dirty footprints on my dad's body, helped him dust it, and said softly: Son, the fourth child is not sensible, don't worry about her. She doesn't know that you are good for her now, and her brain hasn't turned around, so she will know that you feel sorry for her later.
My dad was still silent, and when he got home, he didn't eat, so he went to work in the fields with his hoe. Grandma went to the hall and told her mother what had happened, and asked her mother to persuade him, but her mother thought it would be better for my father to be quiet for a while, and he would just want to open it himself.
After this scene, my sister-in-law's mother-in-law also came forward to persuade my sister-in-law to fulfill my uncle, but my sister-in-law still did not agree to divorce my uncle. The uncle sold the family's old house and land and took his mother to live in a foreign country, leaving only the sister-in-law and the children to live in the two houses they built when they got married.
My sister-in-law had no money to live on, so she worked in a nearby brick factory while taking care of her children. In the third year, the little uncle came back with his mother, all the money on him was spent, his mother was sick and needed someone to take care of him, the woman in the field was unwilling to serve, and quietly left, and the little uncle had no news of her, so he could only take the old mother home to find the sister-in-law.
The little uncle knelt on the ground and admitted his mistake and promised to be good to the sister-in-law in the future, the sister-in-law relented, tried her best to take care of her mother-in-law, and gave her and urine, when the grandmother quietly went to visit her, she lost weight in order to take care of her mother-in-law, and looked haggard.
Grandma burst into tears and asked her aunt why did she bother? My uncle now has a change of heart, and he just wants to find a free nanny for his mother.
The sister-in-law said with tears: Mother, I don't care if he comes back for any reason, as long as he can come back and the child has a father, I will be content.
The work in the brick factory was hot and tiring, and the uncle was unwilling to follow the sister-in-law to do some hard work, so he pondered about doing some business. He and a few friends from his hometown are ready to open a restaurant in the town together. But my uncle has no money in his hands, and my sister-in-law has saved tens of thousands of dollars over the years, but it is not enough.
My sister-in-law couldn't bear to worry about the money, so she rode back to her parents' house and asked us to borrow money, but my grandparents had no pension, and the 20,000 yuan in my hand had to be kept for the elderly, and my sister-in-law didn't have the face to take it all, only took 10,000 yuan.
Since the last time my father was angry for my sister-in-law, the brother and sister have not been in touch. My sister-in-law didn't know how to face my dad, so when my dad was out working, she went to my house and told my mother about borrowing money, and my sister-in-law borrowed 80,000 yuan as soon as she opened her mouth. That's all the money we have in our family.
My mother can't be the master, so she naturally has to discuss with my father, so I let my sister-in-law go back first and reply to her the next day.
Early the next morning, my sister-in-law came. My dad didn't go to work, so he waited at home for my sister-in-law to come. After the sister-in-law entered the door, she didn't know what to say, so she went straight to the point and asked about the money.
My dad said, "If this money is lent to you for business, I'm willing to help." But lend him business, don't even think about it. If he treats you well, forget it, if he treats you badly, why should I help him?
My sister-in-law heard my dad say this and left my house crying. Later, my sister-in-law went to my uncle's house, and my uncle lent her 30,000 yuan.
The little uncle asked his relatives again to scrape together and opened a restaurant in the town. Regardless of whether the three of them didn't know how to operate, the restaurant closed in less than a year, and the money borrowed by my sister-in-law was all wasted.
The sister-in-law had no money to repay the debt, and the aunt was angry with the uncle because of the 30,000 yuan. Although my uncle's work is unreliable, my sister-in-law's son is very competitive, not only has good grades in school, often gets scholarships, but also starts his own business and becomes a boss after graduating from college, buys a car and a house, and pays off the 30,000 yuan of the uncle's family.
The year before last, the land in my hometown was expropriated, including two pieces of land for my sister-in-law, and the compensation was 60,000 yuan. The sister-in-law's land is next to the uncle's land, and she is grateful to the uncle for helping her and giving the 60,000 yuan to the uncle. Uncle was worried that my dad would be angry, so he asked my sister-in-law if this money should be shared equally with my dad?
My sister-in-law refused, because my dad didn't lend money to my sister-in-law at the beginning, and my sister-in-law complained in her heart, and she didn't talk when she met my dad.
My sister-in-law once said to my uncle that although my dad is affectionate, he is too lenient, and she wants to make her own decisions about some things, and she is alienated from my dad, and she doesn't want my dad to ask about her again.
My sister-in-law's matter also taught my dad a lesson, between brothers and sisters, no matter how good the relationship is, don't make decisions for each other, especially in some major life events. Because we seem to be good for her, but the result is not what she wants.
This is the case with my sister-in-law, and the same is true with my sister, if my sister makes up her mind to divorce, we will fully support it, but if she just complains, we can be listeners, and we can't make decisions for her.
My mother listened to me and did not persuade my eldest sister to divorce again. The day before yesterday, the eldest sister and the eldest brother-in-law reconciled, and the two came back for a special trip and had a meal with their parents. The eldest sister said that when she called to complain, first, she wanted to confide, and second, she wanted her brother-in-law to know that she had the support of her mother's family and had never thought about divorce.
My mother secretly rejoiced, fortunately she didn't persuade the eldest sister to divorce, otherwise the matter would not have ended, affecting the relationship between the eldest sister and the eldest brother-in-law, and the eldest sister might really alienate her.
It is understandable that parents love their children, and it is understandable that brothers and sisters help each other, but everyone is an adult, and it is better for them to handle their own family affairs, otherwise it will be thankless.