In the long river of love, infatuated men and women often fall into deep confusion, whether each other's hearts are closely connected, and whether the love is sincere enough to withstand the baptism of years and the tribulations of life.
Everyone wants to find a partner with whom they can spend their lives, but how to tell if this love is real is a difficult puzzle to solve.
When the two hearts begin to get closer, the spark of first acquaintance makes people excited, as if the whole world is better because of this love.
However, as time goes by, the trivialities of life and the pressures of reality gradually become apparent, can those vows and promises that were once made as strong as they were when they first met?
At this time, we need to calm down, observe and feel carefully, and look for the answer from two details.
First of all, true love requires both parties to be willing to take responsibility and face the problems of life together.
For example, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions", although they are from illustrious backgrounds, their road to love is full of ups and downs.
In the face of family pressure and worldly prejudices, they always have firm beliefs, support each other, and resist external pressure together.
This spirit of courage and responsibility for love is the most direct embodiment of true love.
Another example is Jane Eyre, the protagonist of "Jane Eyre", although she came from a poor background, she won the love of Mr. Rochester with her tenacity and courage.
When Mr. Rochester faced a difficult situation, Jane Eyre did not hesitate to choose to go through it with him and face the challenges of life together.
This kind of love that never gives up and supports each other in the face of difficulties is true love.
On the contrary, if two people are always passing the buck to each other and avoiding problems when they are together, then even if they have had a passionate love, it will be difficult to stand the test of time.
Because true love requires both parties to work hard and sweat together, and face the hardships and challenges of life together. Only in this way can love become more tenacious and precious in the long river of time.
Secondly, true love requires both parties to actively give to each other in the minutiae of life.
This kind of dedication may not be spectacular or spectacular, but it can bring each other's hearts and minds closer together.
For example, Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai in "Liang Zhu", although they are under the shackles of feudal etiquette, their love for each other has never diminished.
Liang Shanbo gave up fame and fortune for Zhu Yingtai, and Zhu Yingtai did not hesitate to sacrifice his life for Liang Shanbo. This spirit of being willing to give up everything for the sake of love is the deepest embodiment of true love.
In real life, we can also see many similar examples.
Those couples who are in love with each other, they may not have gorgeous words and romantic actions, but they can convey endless love in the bits and pieces of life.
They will hand the other person a hot cup of tea when they are tired, give a warm hug when the other person is sad, and provide firm support when the other person is confused.
These seemingly insignificant actions can bring each other's hearts closer and make love more precious in ordinary life.
As Shakespeare said, "True love cannot be expressed in words, but deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness." ”
Therefore, judging whether two people are truly in love is not only based on what they say, but also by what they do.
It is only in the details of life that we can truly feel the warmth and strength of love.
In short, whether a man and a woman are together is true love needs to be answered from two details.
First, whether both parties are willing to take responsibility and face the problems in life together; The second is whether both parties actively contribute to each other in the minutiae of life.
True love can only be possessed if people are good enough in both of these areas.
Let's cherish the person around us who is willing to give everything for you! Because in this world, there is nothing more precious and beautiful than true love.