Yesterday I went back to my hometown, and saw the second uncle in his eighties, the second uncle is in his eighties this year, in good health, deaf and blind, in good spirits, driving an old man's music, very chic, according to him, this old man's music is expensive, more than 20,000 yuan to buy.
The second uncle is different from the general rural elderly, he is very happy, he eats and drinks without worry, and his health is very good, the main reason is that the old man has a pension, the second uncle retired in the Water Conservancy Bureau, and the salary was very low when he first retired, and now after 20 years of pension rise, he has nearly 5,000 yuan per month, and he is richer than young people in the countryside, which is already very arrogant.
The evening scene of the elderly in rural areas is generally not good
老头退休后苦尽甘来
The second uncle was widowed in his early years, his wife died of cancer when he was young, he was not retired at that time, everyone was not rich in that era, although the second uncle had a job, he had two boys, two girls and four children, and the pressure was also very great, he did not dare to slack off, and he was tired of suffering for the children to become a family, and he also ushered in retirement, and his life was finally stable.
Once the days in the countryside were hard
When the second uncle just retired, he was also an old bachelor in the countryside, he was still young at that time, and his health was very good, so he had the idea of remarrying, but the children disagreed, and the children also had their own little Jiujiu, afraid that the money would be taken away by the woman after the father found a wife. The children ended up with nothing.
The old man couldn't resist the children, so he thought of a compromise solution, finding an old lady to live with, having a companion to take care of each other, and being able to relieve loneliness. The children had no choice but to go with him.
There are many elderly people who provide for the elderly in partnership
In the countryside, there are many old ladies who are helpless, some of them are not early, or they are divorced, and the children are in difficulty, so the old man can easily find the old lady, the old man gives the old lady living expenses, and the old lady takes care of the old man's diet and daily life, and each takes what he needs, which is very good for both of them.
In this way, the old man's retirement days are also tasteful, very beautiful, usually the two of them buy an electric car to go shopping in the park, dance and play chess, the days are very beautiful.
好景不长，家庭矛盾爆发了
Although the old man's life is very beautiful, his children are not very good, his children are ordinary people, they don't make a lot of money, they live by working in a small business, and they have to raise children, which is not a small pressure.
The children feel that their father has a retirement salary, and their own family is miserable, and the old father should help and subsidize himself, but the father spends all his pension on the old lady, and he is not his own mother, so he should not.
Several children have this opinion, and they have complaints about their father's behavior, coupled with some difficulties that everyone has in life, and slowly the contradictions become superficial.
Life is still difficult for people in the countryside
The old man means that I am old, and I don't have a few years to live, and when I was young, I worked hard to pull you to grow up and start a family, and not only did you not give back to me, but also thought about my retirement salary, which is too unacceptable.
Finally, when the eldest son failed to go on a blind date several times in the past few years, the eldest daughter-in-law completely broke out, and there was a huge conflict with her husband, scolding the street on the street, the two generations tore their faces, there was no father-son relationship at all, and several children also had the same psychological state, and the relationship with the father was completely cold, and there was no longer a father-son relationship, and the relationship was completely severed.
如今老头依然坚持自己的活法
After the relationship with the children was stiff, the old man simply stopped going back to his hometown, he had an old lady who lived together, the old lady was also a child who had already become independent, and had a house in the county, the old man lived with him, and provided the living expenses of the old wife every month, and gave him a salary of 1,000 yuan a month, and the old lady cooked and washed to take care of her. Continue the wonderful world of two.
The daily routine of the elderly
The children have bulldozed and rebuilt the old house, and there is no place for him at all, his end is doomed, there is no place for him in his hometown, and a few children will give him a funeral after a hundred years, and the father and son are broken.
农村老人有钱也难，没钱也难
I don't know how to evaluate this matter, everyone thinks the old man is doing the right thing. I don't think people will have a one-sided view on this matter, and the view on this issue is very divided.
Personally, I think that mutual aid is our traditional culture, because we were poor in the past, and everyone needed mutual help to survive, so there were too many obligations and responsibilities tied between relatives, and these responsibilities and obligations were kidnapped with traditional morality, making everyone very tired and painful.
Personally, I think that people should not involve too many responsibilities and obligations with each other, and everyone is unhappy with these. It also makes people unable to distinguish whether things between people are love or responsibility, which is really bad.
Fathers should have their own lives, and their children should not be tied up for a lifetime, and it is understandable that fathers do not help their children. Of course, it is reasonable for a father to help his children if he has love for them, but what people love most is themselves. There's nothing wrong with loving yourself.