Text/Mo Ran
It is said that no matter how good the relationship is, there will be times for quarrels. Many times, quarrels are the best test for a person.
A good relationship is not that you don't quarrel for a lifetime, but that you can live a lifetime after a quarrel.
Actually, the quarrel itself is not a problem, the problem is the attitude of the other party.
If a person really loves you and cares about you, he will naturally do this when they quarrel.
After a quarrel, they will calm down and communicate
For a relationship, it is not a quarrel without going through a few arguments.
Good feelings are the more noisy the better, on the contrary, the kind of quarrel that breaks up is not true love.
Many people, after a quarrel, are cold and violent, do not know how to back down at all, and are unwilling to reflect, and naturally will not have good feelings for such people.
For the kind of people who may be emotional for a while, but will think calmly after the quarrel, and take the initiative to admit their mistakes, such people really care about you and your feelings.
A person who is unwilling to bow his head and compromise, and always asks the other party to change, only sees himself.
Sometimes a quarrel may be a very small thing, and it's okay to bow your head and be soft, but the other party is always unwilling to do it, such a person only loves himself.
In any relationship, the most hurtful thing is not the fierce quarrel, but the attitude towards the problem.
It is normal for two people to have conflicts together, but how to resolve the contradictions and solve the problems in time is the most important thing.
When you are arguing, be honest about your feelings
Sometimes, feelings need to be vented and expressed.
Everyone has their own ideas, if you don't say it, I don't ask, and naturally I don't understand what the other person wants.
When a person really cares about you, he will be honest with you and will express something sincerely.
The kind of person who doesn't move, doesn't want to tell you anything, and turns his head and complains about you, doesn't take you to heart at all.
Love is sincere, and it is necessary to express the true feelings and needs of one's heart.
If a person doesn't even have the desire to communicate, it's obvious that he doesn't love you, and your relationship will become stranger and stranger.
A little more sincerity, a little less complaining, love will last.
Listen carefully to each other's inner thoughts, understand and express more, and treat them gently, in order to better maintain the relationship with each other.
When you quarrel, don't argue about winning or losing
In these long years, everyone will have their own emotions, and there will be times when they are in a bad mood, and they may quarrel at this time.
You must know that when two people have been together for a long time and everything is exposed, they will naturally inevitably quarrel.
For quarrels, they are all sparse and ordinary things, not a big deal, but quarrels have to fight for estrangement, so it is not interesting, but will push the other party farther and farther away.
A good relationship needs to be more understanding and tolerant, if you win the quarrel and lose the other party, the gains outweigh the losses.
The person who really cares about you will not quarrel with you too much, but will let you.
Sometimes, an occasional sentence or two can also regulate each other's feelings, but people who don't know how to back down don't need to continue.
Love is not about defeating each other, but about facing problems together.
Summary:
Quarrels are something that any relationship will experience, it is difficult to avoid, but it is not terrible.
It's all about how we deal with it.
In many cases, the other party's attitude towards the problem has already exposed his true emotions.
The person who really cares about you will never worry too much about you, but knows how to back down, properly solve your problems, and make each other's feelings stronger and deeper.