Xia Guo, a girl from Leshan, and Yu Jian are childhood sweethearts, and the two have a relationship for more than 20 years. Xia Guo wanted to go to Shanghai to develop, Yu Jian originally preferred the life of a small city, but for Xia Guo, he was also willing to give up his existing job to accompany her to Shanghai.
However, just when they were ready to go to Shanghai, Yu Jian's father had an accident, and Yu Jian had to stay to take care of his father, and Xia Guo was faced with a difficult choice - to go to Shanghai for his own pursuit, or to stay for Yu Jian.
The TV series "I Live Elsewhere" takes Xia Guo's choice as the main line and deduces two different plot directions. Xia Guo, who went to Shanghai, later broke up with Yu Jian, experienced stumbles in career and love, and finally came together with Xue Yuming. Xia Guo, who stayed in Leshan, had a child with Yu Jian, no wedding, no bride price, and his life was mixed.
In life, no matter how you choose, there will be regrets.
Belated wedding.
In the finale of "I Live Elsewhere", Xia Guo, who stayed in Leshan, finally waited for the wedding she was missing, at this time, four years have passed since she made her choice, and her children have been babbling.
Yu Jian chose to stay for his father, but later his father was disabled, and his sister was far away in a foreign country, Yu Jian became the pillar of the family, and the family that was not wealthy, all the pressure fell on Yu Jian alone.
Xia Guo's company soon went bankrupt, Xia Guo was unemployed and looking for a job when she found out that she was pregnant, and the child came at an inopportune time, but after entanglement, Xia Guo still decided to keep him. Fortunately, the new company was open-minded and agreed to accept pregnant women, and Xia Guo got a job as scheduled. But later, for the sake of her children, she still quit her job when she was facing promotion.
After quitting her job, Xia Guo experienced that she was sent to the hospital to the delivery room alone, and signed the surgical consent form alone, when her stomach hurt and her water broke, her husband and mother-in-law were busy taking care of her sister-in-law who had committed suicide because of divorce, and they couldn't even answer the phone.
After the child was born, Xia Guo was taken home by her mother, and her mother helped her invite a confinement sister-in-law, while her mother-in-law was in a hurry to take the child back, for fear that Xia Guo's mother would take the child for herself.
After the confinement, Xia Guo wanted to ask her aunt to take care of the children and find a job by herself, Yu Jian said that even if Xia Guo found a job, the salary may not be enough to pay the aunt's salary, so it is better to take care of the children by herself, for this reason, Xia Guo and Yu Jian had a dispute.
Under Wen Ya's persuasion, Yu Jian tried to consider the problem from Xia Guo's point of view, and agreed to find an aunt to take care of the children, but Xia Guo didn't seem to be satisfied with every aunt, and they would change to a new aunt every few days.
In this frequent change, Yu Jian's job has also been affected, and her income has decreased a lot, and Xia Guo's new job is also because she is a novice mother, afraid that she will affect her work, so he politely dissuaded her.
In the midst of all these trivialities and dogs, Xia Guo found that Yu Jian had reconnected with Wen Ya and suspected that Yu Jian was cheating. But in fact, Yu Jian asked Wen Ya to help him plan a wedding, which he owed Xia Guo.
In this way, Xia Guo ushered in her belated wedding.
Such a wedding is not romantic.
When I was young, when I heard those illusory and unrealistic love stories, I would always be moved to tears. After experiencing this, I realized that not all the shortcomings can be made up.
The greatest happiness in life is to do the right thing at the right time, and to know how to cherish it when you have it.
When Yu Jian married Xia Guo, he couldn't give her a wedding because of the conditions, and he did say that he would make up for her later. But for Xia Guo, the wedding four years ago is definitely different from the wedding four years later.
Four years ago, she was a little girl, and all the women who turned from a little girl to a bride dreamed of a romantic wedding. Four years later, Xia Guo is a mother who brings her children to her wedding, which is not something every mother is willing to do.
What's more, after giving birth, even the wedding dress she wears will be two sizes larger, which is not to make up for regrets for a woman, but to make up for greater regrets.
What's more, their financial situation at that time was already very poor. When a wife, not long ago, her husband said that her salary for finding a job was not enough to pay her aunt's salary, and it was better to be a full-time mother, but now she was pulled to hold such a belated wedding, I really can't understand where this romance is.
With this money, it is more practical to spend it on the edge of the knife and relieve a little pressure on life.
After this wedding, what impact and changes can be made to Xia Guo? She didn't have to go back to revolve around the family and children, anxious that she couldn't find her aunt and no company willing to accept her, and worried about the trivial things at home.
The current situation that makes her miserable is no less.
And her husband found her former rival to plan such a wedding for her, which may really make her feel a little moved, but more importantly, it was Yu Jian who moved herself.
Sometimes, we have to admit that men and women are never on the same channel in the direction of their thinking.
Regret of choice.
As we said earlier, no matter how you choose in life, you will have regrets.
For Xia Guo, when she went to Shanghai, she lost her relationship for more than 20 years, and her childhood sweetheart's first love was a pity. She stayed in Leshan, living a life of chicken feathers, and it was a pity that she didn't have her own career.
But the former is for what you want, and the latter is for what others want.
Yes, there will be regrets no matter how you choose in life, but some regrets will make you willing, and some regrets will become endless hidden dangers.
Xia Guo, who stayed in Leshan, had nothing when she married Yu Jian, and Yu Jian's mother tried every possible way to calculate Xia Guo's mother's house for her son and daughter-in-law as a wedding room, and almost caused the two of them to break up.
Xia Guo faced a mother-in-law who couldn't carry it, a paralyzed father-in-law, and a sister-in-law who had a love brain that was about to die or live, such family pressure, even Yu Jian sometimes couldn't help but lose his temper with his family, but Xia Guo always enlightened him softly.
Isn't such a daughter-in-law good enough? But when the sister-in-law encountered an emergency, her husband and mother-in-law were still so nervous that they forgot that she was about to give birth, and after having a child, her husband still wanted her to be a housewife on the grounds that her salary was not enough to pay the nanny fee.
Can you say that the brother is worried about his sister and the mother is worried about her daughter's fault? Can you say that it is wrong for a husband to think about his children? No. It's just that in the face of more important people and things, she only occupies a secondary position.
You can't even take the moral high ground to tell your grievances, because this is human nature in many people's eyes.
But Xia Guo will be wronged, because she changed her life choices for them before, but in exchange for such a life and such treatment.
In relationships and marriages, under the premise of equality between the two parties, we will regard the grievances we encounter as a necessary grind in life. But if you encounter a situation where you are not valued and treated well on the premise of your own sacrifice, the grievances will be magnified by tens of millions of times.
And Yu Jian's family is destined to be on the road in the future, and there will be no fewer such grievances. This is a huge hidden danger on the road to their happiness.
Of course, we discourage people from thinking only about themselves when making certain choices, but we also discourage sacrificing oneself for the sake of others, especially those who are not related to oneself by blood. Because you have sacrifices, you will want to ask for something in return from elsewhere, and once the return does not meet expectations, there will be resentment, and over time, no matter how deep the feelings are, they will be consumed.
People can only love others better if they don't give up being themselves.
Therefore, when we make a choice, we must also take not giving up on ourselves as the principle and bottom line, so that even if we have regrets, we will not regret them.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.