Writer: Easter Egg Dad
If there is anything more important than the college entrance examination, then it must be the high school entrance examination.
Because, the proportion of the diversion of the high school entrance examination is too high.
Almost half of the children are able to enter high school to have the opportunity to take the college entrance examination and be admitted to the university of their choice.
What if you fail the high school entrance examination?
There is not much time left until the high school entrance examination, are your children anxious?
01 "Mom, what if I don't get into high school?" The textbook answer is worth learning from
The daughter of my friend Xiao Gao's family is going to take the high school entrance examination, and the closer she gets to the high school entrance examination, the more irritable her temper becomes.
Originally, Xiao Gao thought that his wife was putting pressure on his daughter, but his wife said: "No, I don't dare to come out recently, for fear that she will be unhappy." ”
I don't know what level of my daughter has a problem, so Xiao Gao chatted with her daughter.
After asking, I found out that my daughter was worried: what if she couldn't get into high school?
My daughter is in school, and through the teacher's direct statement and the chat of other classmates, I also know that if she can't go to high school, then she will be the group of children who will be "abandoned" in the future.
Although Xiao Gao's daughter has average grades, she is also a motivated little girl.
It is precisely because the grades are average and just stuck in the middle position that the risk of the high school entrance examination is also relatively large.
Subsequently, the father's textbook answer made the daughter open her heart.
Dad: "Dad thinks that if you can't get into a good high school, can't go to a good university, and can't find a good job, then you will stay with your parents in the future, and my mother and I don't need to worry about whether you will live well outside alone!" ”
Daughter: "Really? Don't you think I'm not good enough? ”
Dad: "How come, excellent is only relative, there are better than you, some are not as good as you, this school and scores, can not determine anything, the important thing is that in this high school entrance examination, your frustration and learning ability have been improved, which is the most important thing." ”
Daughter: "Then I'm not afraid." ”
Dad: "Dad said this, it's all true, but it's not for you to mess up, but Dad wants to tell you that all you have to do now is to go all out, and we will face the result together, you don't need to be afraid." ”
The daughter smiled happily and thanked her father.
In this textbook response, parents pass on two messages to their children:
What you have to do now is not to think about the result, but to work hard;
No matter what the outcome, your parents will always be behind you.
After the child does not panic about the outcome, the knot in his heart naturally opens.
02 Before the high school entrance examination, parents should do three things
During the high school entrance examination, the children are particularly sensitive.
First, the child at this time is in adolescence, so he may not be very good at talking;
Second, at this time, the child's frustration and psychological quality are not very stable, and the outside world has a great impact on the child.
Therefore, before the high school entrance examination, parents should do three things to "stabilize" their children.
You must know that at this time, it is more important to "stabilize" the child and "improve the child's grades".
After all, there is only a few months left, and it is basically impossible to get a significant improvement in grades.
Only by "stabilizing" can there be the possibility of "super play" and "stable play".
The first thing is to pay attention to and guide the child's emotions and psychology
It is adolescence, and with the high school entrance examination approaching, children's psychology is more or less prone to some changes.
It is common to start worrying about your high school entrance examination.
At this time, parents must pay attention to their children's emotions in time and provide psychological counseling to their children.
Just like his friend Xiao Gao, he found that his usually well-behaved daughter had become a little irritable, so even though he communicated with his daughter.
Children are emotionally stable and psychologically normal, so that they can perform stably in the high school entrance examination.
The second thing: less nagging
I have to say, some parents are really nagging.
The original intention of parents is for the good of their children, and maybe children do not pay attention to these aspects.
But one thing to say, is it useful that parents have been nagging for so many years?
What should have been done, it was done;
If you can't do it, you still can't do it.
After the neighbor's child entered junior high school, he paid more and more attention, even though he caught a cold many times because he wore clothes, but when his parents asked him to wear a coat, he still didn't wear it, feeling that he was not cold.
This nagging makes the child annoying, and he never listens.
So, be less nagging, and even if you have something to remind, control the number of times you say it, and the length of your speech.
When you are a parent of an adolescent child, you really have to learn to shut up!
The third thing: what to do
This last point is also quite important.
Why are many children very nervous when they are approaching the high school entrance examination?
Not only because they are going to take the high school entrance examination, but also because of the pressure, some parents are not important to their own affairs at this time, and they will pay attention to their children, and the children can actually feel it, which will bring a lot of pressure to the children.
So, don't focus too much on what you have to do.
A colleague of the easter egg father, the couple was afraid that because of their worries, the child's mood would be affected by the high school entrance examination, so they simply went out to travel for a period of time a month before the high school entrance examination, and the child lived with his grandmother.
The child said: "My parents are so nervous, you two are still traveling, do you care about my high school entrance examination!" ”
The father said, "Yes! But we can't take the test for you, and your mother and I can't do what we want to do! ”
Gain......
However, after this stubble, this child is not so nervous, and his performance in the exam is relatively stable.
03 Easter Egg Dad's Message
Although the high school entrance examination is very important for a child, it is even more important than the college entrance examination.
However, parents should know that there are many important moments for children, and it is better to regard them as children's experiences than to keep staring at them.
Every time the experience is guided, the child will really grow a lot, and will have greater energy to face greater difficulties in the future!
Finally, I wish the children all the best of luck!
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