Preamble:
Recently, an article titled "83-year-old mother is sick, other brothers and sisters avoid responsibility, leaving a daughter alone is distressed and sad" has been widely spread on the Internet, causing heated discussions and attention from many netizens. The article tells the story of a woman named Yang Hongmei, when her mother was sick and needed to be taken care of, the other siblings chose to evade their responsibilities one after another, but she was the only one who resolutely shouldered the burden of taking care of her mother.
Such things are not uncommon, and in real life, there are many children like Yang Hongmei, who do not hesitate to give up their time, career and even life in order to take care of their elderly parents, paying a huge price. At the same time, there are also families who have a situation similar to the one described in the article, when their parents need help and care, other siblings choose to avoid and be indifferent.
This phenomenon undoubtedly brings great harm and distress to the parties, and also reflects some social and family problems to a certain extent. Next, let's dive in.
First, the mother has worked hard, but she has not received the care and help of other children
In this article, Yang Hongmei's mother is over eighty years old, and at the age of retirement, at a time when she should be enjoying Qingfu, she suffers from an illness that requires long-term treatment and care.
As a mother who has worked hard to raise four children, her illness has undoubtedly brought a lot of impact and pressure to the whole family, and at this time, what the mother needs most is nothing more than the companionship, care and help of her children, but the reality makes people feel cold.
In the face of her mother's illness, the other three siblings chose to escape one after another, some on the grounds of busy work, and some directly ignored it, but Yang Hongmei stayed alone without hesitation, interpreting her filial piety and responsibility to her mother with her own actions.
As a child, she should know how to honor her parents and accompany them, especially when they are old and frail and in need of help, and the indifference and avoidance of other siblings undoubtedly gave her great hurt and pressure.
Second, Yang Hongmei was distressed, sad, and helpless to take care of her 83-year-old mother
In the face of her mother's illness, Yang Hongmei did not choose to escape, but resolutely stayed, took care of her mother with her own actions, and accompanied her through the difficult moment of illness.
However, taking care of the sick is a very hard and energy-consuming thing, especially when taking care of elderly parents, it requires more patience and care, and facing such a burden alone, Yang Hongmei will inevitably feel distressed, sad and helpless.
In order to be able to take better care of her mother, she gave up her work and life, and spent most of her time accompanying and taking care of her mother, even going on a continuous basis, day after day, paying indescribable toil and fatigue.
This scene also makes people sigh, filial piety to parents is certainly due, but in real life, there are many people who do not hesitate to pay a huge price to take care of their parents, can such a payment get due attention and help?
3. How should such problems be viewed and resolved?
1. Pay more attention to the pension of the elderly
With the development of society and the change of demographic structure, more and more families have begun to face the challenge of providing for the elderly, and in this process, it is often the children who have assumed the responsibility of caring for and supporting their parents.
Therefore, the society should pay more attention to the pension of the elderly, provide more support and help, whether from the policy or the system, should provide more protection and help for the elderly pension, to avoid children like Yang Hongmei to pay a huge price for taking care of their elderly parents.
2. Build closer family ties
In addition, family members should also establish a closer relationship, support and care for each other, whether it is in daily life or major holidays, there should be more companionship and care, instead of choosing to escape and be indifferent when problems and difficulties arise.
Only when sincere emotions and close relationships are established between family members can they support each other and face them together in the face of various difficulties and challenges, and can they make the family full of warmth and happiness.
3. Establish a fair and transparent mechanism
At the same time, in terms of the distribution of family property and pensions, a more fair and transparent mechanism should also be established to avoid conflicts and disputes between family members due to monetary problems, and the distribution of property can be made more fair and reasonable through notarization or family trust, and the legitimate rights and interests of the elderly can be better protected.
Epilogue:
Whether it is in the pension problem or family relationship, such cases have brought us a lot of inspiration and reflection, I hope that in the future life, we can pay more attention to family relations, more care and accompany parents, but also at the social level, to establish a more perfect pension system and mechanism, so that every old man who has worked hard all his life can enjoy the happiness and warmth he deserves.