Remember that cold winter night?
At about 22 o'clock, Xiaoli wandered alone on the street.
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The wind was biting, but she had nowhere to go. Her parents had just had a big fight with her and kicked her out of the house.
The reason turned out to be because her grades were not as good as her classmate Wang Xiaoming.
"Look at Wang Xiaoming, so good, why can't you get such a high score? You shit, you should get out of here!" Her father's angry voice still echoed in Xiaoli's ears. Her mother also kept blaming and humiliating her, saying that she could not even meet her parents' expectations.
Helpless Xiaoli curled up on a roadside bench, tears streaming uncontrollably. She felt like a complete loser, nothing in the eyes of her parents.
Is this what is called "good education"?
We have to admit that tragedies like this happen from time to time in real life. Many parents, because of their own narrow-mindedness and bigotry, often instill some extremely harmful ideas in their children, which eventually cause physical and mental trauma to their children, and even ruin their children's lives.
Today, let's uncover the true colors of these "worst" parents and see what dangerous ideas they will instill in their children!
Concept 1: Constantly compare your child with others
For many parents, their children's education is an endless "race". They always pay attention to the performance of their neighbor's children and constantly compare themselves to their own.
"Look at Wang Xiaoming, you scored 98 points in the math test, but you only scored 80 points, it's really bad!"
"Aunt Li's daughter can play the piano, why can't you learn it?"
"Look at you, you can't even compare to Xiao Ming, it's a shame!"
This "comparative" education method will undoubtedly bring huge psychological pressure to children. In the eyes of parents, children are never good enough and always need to continue to catch up in order to gain the recognition and satisfaction of their parents.
In the long run, children will inevitably develop low self-esteem and frustration. They feel that no matter how hard they try, they will never be able to meet their parents' expectations. As a result, some children choose to give up, or even completely lose their enthusiasm for learning; Others will have various psychological problems such as anxiety and depression.
We can't ignore that every child is unique. They have different interests, hobbies, strengths, and challenges. Parents should learn to appreciate what makes their children unique and not blindly compare themselves to others.
The right thing to do is to help children discover and develop their own potential, rather than making "compulsory" comparisons with others. Only in this way can children truly build self-confidence and the ability to think independently, so as to have their own life trajectory.
Concept 2: Complain to your child often
Some parents always like to complain about all kinds of unsatisfactory things in life in front of their children. For example, high work pressure, meager income, and high living expenses.
"Oh, you know what, I'm working late today again, I'm so tired!"
"The money is all gone, how can I buy you anything extraordinary."
"Your dad has been having a weird temper lately, probably because of his work."
We need to understand that the world of children is simple and beautiful. They have not yet come into contact with the dark side of society, let alone understand the hardships of life. In the eyes of children, parents are reliable backing and harbors in life.
If parents complain to their children from time to time, it will not only be difficult for them to understand, but may also cause them to feel helpless and powerless. They may feel that they are a burden to their families and that they are useless.
Over time, the child is likely to develop low self-esteem and think that he is unable to help the family. The formation of this kind of mindset will not only affect a child's self-confidence, but may also hinder their future development.
Therefore, parents should try to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude in front of their children. Even if you encounter some difficulties in life, you must learn to self-regulate and not let your children feel the instability of the family. After all, what children need is a warm and safe environment to grow up in.
Concept 3: It's annoying to cry
Some parents are extremely impatient with their child's crying reactions. Whenever the child cried, they would yell loudly and even start scolding.
"Why are you crying again? Annoyed, shut up!"
"I'll beat you up if you cry again, shut up for me!"
We need to understand that crying is the main way for children to express their emotions. They have not yet learned to express their feelings accurately in words, and can only seek attention and comfort from their parents by crying.
If parents lack patience and scold or punish their children, it is likely that the child will feel helpless and neglected. Not only does this behavior not solve the problem, but it can also lead to psychological trauma in the child.
Studies have shown that when children encounter difficulties or troubles, if they do not get the understanding and help of their parents, they are prone to negative emotions such as anxiety and depression. In the long run, this can affect your child's mental health and even jeopardize their future development.
Therefore, parents should learn to patiently understand their children's needs, listen patiently to their children's complaints, and give appropriate comfort and guidance. Only in this way can children feel cared for and valued, so as to establish a good parent-child relationship.
We need to be wary of the behaviour of these "worst" parents and remember not to indoctrinate these harmful ideas in our children. Instead, we need to learn to appreciate our children's uniqueness, establish good communication, and give them a loving and supportive environment to grow up in.
Only in this way can our children grow up healthy and happy and embrace their own future.
Ending: Open your heart and talk to your child
Parents' words and actions can indeed have a profound impact on their children. We must be wary of the mindset of the "worst" parents and remember not to instill it in the next generation.
Instead, we should take the initiative to communicate with our children and listen genuinely to their thoughts and demands. Only in this way can we truly understand the inner world of children and give them appropriate guidance and support.
For example, when you find that your child's grades are compared to those of their classmates, you can patiently ask the reason and guide them to discover their own strengths and potential. When your child cries, put yourself in their shoes and give appropriate comfort and help.
At the same time, parents should also learn to manage their emotions and not easily complain to their children about unsatisfactory life. On the contrary, we should face difficulties with a positive and optimistic attitude, so that children can feel the stability and warmth of the family.
Only in this way can we truly become a reliable guide for our children, help them grow up healthy and happy, and embrace their own bright future.
Let's educate the next generation with love and understanding and inject more positive energy into this society! You are welcome to share your thoughts and insights in the comment area, and we will work together for the future of our children.
#揭示: These three concepts may be the "worst" parents often instill in their children!