The loneliness of the elderly, the children will never understand, what is it like to have no one to talk to you? Mobile phones and TVs have become the only companions, but what can you do when you are sick?
Narrator: Zhang Dewang
I'm 63 years old and have been retired for several years. Since my wife left, in the past 6 years, I have always felt empty in my heart.
My wife and I are in free love, we have a good relationship, I am a school teacher, and she takes care of the family at home full-time. In the past, the two of us used to buy vegetables and cook together, and our life was simple but warm. He has a daughter.
One winter, my wife suddenly left due to illness, and I seemed to have lost the focus of my life, and I lived every day. I'm not used to it, especially at night, when I feel very lonely. As time passed, I managed to slowly move on from my grief.
Now, I pick up my little grandson to and from school every day and help with the cooking. Watching my little grandson grow up day by day, I am also quite happy. But in the dead of night, I always think of the days I spent with my wife, and I wonder, should I find another suitable person to spend the rest of my years with?
The people around me saw that I was alone every day and persuaded me to find another one. My daughter disagreed, she said that I was so old, what kind of wife was I looking for. She just needs to provide for me. However, in line with my original intention, I still tried to go on a blind date.
The first blind date was at the activity center of the community. The other party was an old lady who seemed to be quite kind, but as soon as she sat down, she began to ask me how much my pension was, whether she could manage the money after I got married and retired, and whether my house was big. Even though I had a pension of eight thousand, I didn't tell her that I didn't want to take money too seriously and feel like I was talking about business rather than looking for a partner.
The second blind date was introduced by a friend. This person was quite enthusiastic, but her request was a little difficult for me to accept. She wanted me to go back with her to live in her hometown, still in the countryside. I told her that I was used to living in the city, and it was really not comfortable to go back to the countryside.
When she heard this, she had a disappointed look on her face and said that her son was also in the countryside and hoped that I could go over and live with her. As soon as I heard this, my heart was half cold. I got married to live with you, not with your son.
The third blind date surprised me even more. As soon as the aunt met, she said bluntly that if she got married, could she take 300,000 yuan to support his son to buy a house. I was stunned at the time, thinking that this is a blind date, I just came to ask for money.
After these three blind dates, I began to feel a little discouraged about finding a wife. I found that it is more realistic for the elderly to find a wife than for the young, and it is all about interests when they open their mouths and close their mouths to talk about money.
I didn't expect it to be so difficult to find the right blind date, I think if it's all for the sake of interests, make do with it, it's better not to look for it, sooner or later you have to go your separate ways.
In fact, people are old. It's hard to get old, find a wife, it's nothing more than to have a support, and someone to help call 120 when you're sick, and you can chat a few words when you have nothing to do. But in reality, there are always people who don't understand, such as my daughter, my only daughter always thinks that I will be deceived by others.
Actually, the conditions for me to find a wife are very simple. First of all, I like to cook, there are dozens of meat and vegetarian dishes, as long as my wife likes it, not picky, I am willing to share the food with her. But my daughter was worried that after I found a wife, I would ignore her and my little grandson. With a new home, forget the old one. I told her that family affection will never change. My daughter is always my dearest person.
Secondly, I wash my own clothes by myself, and I don't want us to be at our age and have to carry a task list of housework every day, and try to do my own things by myself, without the need for the other party to take care of them. But the daughter is worried that the wife she is looking for will be a lazy person and unwilling to share the housework. I'll be tired later.
In addition, I do not interfere with any of the woman's living habits and hobbies, as long as she does not smoke or drink. But my daughter was worried that the wife I was looking for would have bad habits, which would affect my life.
Finally, I suggest living expenses, not to mention the AA system, I don't require the woman to pay all, I pay eighty, and the woman has to pay some living expenses. After all, they all live together, and they always have to have some responsibilities and obligations, so that they can get along for a long time.
To be honest, I patiently explained these conditions to my daughter, and my daughter can accept it, my daughter's biggest concern is about the distribution of property. In fact, it is not unreasonable for my daughter to be worried, and I suggest that you can sign a prenuptial property agreement or do a prenuptial property notarization. In this way, you can test whether the other party values love and character more, or value money more. It can also give your children peace of mind. No worries.
In short, it is difficult to find a wife, and you have to consider multiple times, not only to meet your own needs, but also to take into account the feelings of your children. It is always important to untie the knots in the hearts of children, and to give them the necessary understanding and consideration so that everyone can benefit from old age.