Preamble:
When discussing the crucial topic of children's education and development, we are often faced with the collision and reflection of many points of view. The two sayings "children are forced to be excellent" and "bad children are habitual" have sparked extensive discussion and controversy in the field of education. They are like two mirrors, reflecting different educational philosophies and practices. In the process of in-depth research and understanding of these perspectives, we can more clearly understand the complexity and diversity of children's development, and can better grasp the proportions and scales of education. Let's walk into the in-depth analysis of these views with deep love and expectations for children.
On the road of children's growth, we often hear two completely different views: one is that children are forced to be excellent, and the other is that bad children are habitual. These two views seem to be opposites, but they both contain certain truths, which are worthy of our in-depth discussion and consideration.
Let's start by saying that "children are forced to be excellent". It is undeniable that in many cases, moderate persecution can bring out the potential of children, allowing them to break through and reach heights that may not otherwise be possible.
Imagine that a child may initially withdraw and hesitate when faced with a difficult task or a new challenge. But if parents or teachers give them the right pressure and guidance to persevere, they may gradually develop the quality of perseverance in the process. For example, learning a musical instrument may be a temporary hobby at first, but to really reach a certain level, you need to practice day after day. In this process, the child may feel bored, hard, and want to give up. However, it is the "persecution" of parents that allows them to develop the habit of practicing every day, and over time, their skills have been improved, and they have also gained a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. This kind of persecution is not blindly forceful pressure, but based on the understanding and trust of the child's ability, giving them a direction and motivation to work hard.
The same is true for learning. Children may have a certain inertia in their nature, and they may be easily distracted or lack self-discipline when faced with heavy academic tasks. At this time, the strict requirements of parents, stipulating study time and homework completion standards, etc., can help them develop good study habits. By forcing them to complete their homework on time, listen carefully and think positively, children gradually learn to manage and self-discipline, qualities that are essential for their future development in life. Moreover, in the process of persecution, children will continue to challenge their own limits, break through one difficulty after another, and become better.
However, persecution also needs to be measured, and excessive persecution can be counterproductive. If you do not consider the actual situation and psychological tolerance of the child, blindly forcing it may make the child rebellious and even lose interest in learning and growth. Therefore, while persecuting children, we should also pay attention to their inner feelings, give them enough love and support, and let them understand that our expectations are based on love and concern for them, not just demands and commands.
Let's look at "bad boys are used to it". There is also a profound truth in this sentence.
When a child has a bad behavior for the first time, if the parent does not correct it in time, but instead lets it go or forgives it easily, then the child may think that the behavior is allowed, and thus worsen it. For example, if a child lies for the first time, if parents do not pay attention to it and do not let the child realize the seriousness of lying, then the child may feel that lying is an easy way to avoid responsibility, and will often lie in the future. Similarly, if parents always use the excuse of "the child is still young" to not correct some small problems of the child, such as selfishness, willfulness, and impoliteness, then these small problems may gradually evolve into big problems, and eventually affect the child's interpersonal communication and future development.
Habitual childing is not only about indulging in behavior, but also about material over-satisfaction. Nowadays, many families have better living conditions, and their children's requirements are almost universal. Children will give what they want, and over time, children will become selfish and do not know how to cherish and be grateful. They take everything for granted and lack respect and love for others. Such children are prone to contradictions and conflicts when dealing with others, because they only think about their own feelings and interests, and do not take into account others.
Therefore, parents should not blindly get used to their children, but should set rules for their children so that they can understand what can and cannot be done. When children break the rules, give appropriate punishment so that they realize their mistakes. At the same time, it is also necessary to cultivate children's sense of responsibility and empathy, so that they can learn to care for and respect others. Only in this way can the child become a moral, quality, and popular person.
However, we can't blame parents for all children's problems. A child's growth is a complex process that is influenced by a variety of factors. Family environment, school education, social atmosphere, etc., all have an effect on a child's personality and behavior. Sometimes, children may be affected by external undesirable factors and have problems, and parents need to find out in time and give correct guidance, instead of blindly blaming and complaining.
So, how to find a balance between "forcing children to be excellent" and "not getting used to children"?
First of all, parents need to know their children. Every child is unique and has different personalities, interests, and talents. Parents should formulate educational strategies according to the characteristics of their children, and cannot generalize. For those children who have potential but lack self-confidence, you can force them appropriately to help them tap their potential; For those who are more sensitive and vulnerable, more encouragement and support are needed to allow them to grow up in a relaxed environment.
Second, parents should lead by example. Children have a strong ability to imitate, and every word and deed of parents will have a profound impact on children. If parents themselves can't be self-disciplined, diligent, and polite, how can they ask their children to do it? Therefore, parents should be role models for their children and influence their children with their own actions.
Furthermore, we should pay attention to cultivating children's inner qualities. Excellence not only refers to good academic performance and outstanding talent, but more importantly, it is necessary to have good moral character, a healthy attitude and a positive attitude towards life. Parents should cultivate their children's kindness, honesty, bravery, perseverance and other qualities through the bits and pieces of daily life, so that their children can become a well-rounded person.
Finally, give your child plenty of freedom and space. Children also need to have their own time and space to explore, to experiment, to make mistakes. Parents should not interfere too much in their children's lives, and let them play freely within a certain range, so as to cultivate children's independence and creativity.
In short, there is a reason for both the idea that a child is forced to be good and that a bad child is used to it. In the process of children's growth, we need to force children moderately and let them continue to improve; At the same time, we should not get used to children, so that they can develop good behavior habits and morals. Only by finding a balance between the two can we raise truly excellent, healthy, and happy children. Let's work together to lay a solid foundation for our children's future so that they can spread their wings on the road of life.
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