Marriage, like a flat boat, sails in the long river of life, and middle age is the most turbulent sea. When the dust of the years obscures the brilliance of the first meeting, when the daily trivialities wear out the spark of passion, the middle-aged marriage crisis will quietly come. However, whether people want to change their daughters-in-law after middle age is a question worth pondering. In this article, I will explore this phenomenon through three short stories of friends, colleagues, and acquaintances, in the hope of enlightening and thinking for readers.
Story 1: Flowers in the mirror, moon in the water
There is a couple who have a rift in their relationship in middle age. The husband feels that his wife is no longer gentle and considerate, and the wife thinks that her husband no longer cares about the family. One day, my husband accidentally flipped through an old photo album in the study and saw a group photo of him when he was young, and their eyes were full of love and vision for the future. He suddenly remembered a famous saying: "Marriage is the grave of love, but if there is no marriage, love will die and have no place to be buried." He realized that their love had not disappeared, but was only covered by the dust of life. So, they began to communicate again and found their former tacit understanding and warmth.
Story 2: Broken mirror reunion
Another couple, because of long-term work pressure and lack of communication, the marriage came to an end. On the eve of signing the divorce agreement, they decided to take a walk together and reminisce about the past. In the moonlight, they talked about the dreams and promises of their youth, and the wife burst into tears and the husband felt deep guilt. They remembered the old saying: "A husband and wife for a hundred days." "(Chinese proverb) they decided to give each other a chance and start over. After a period of hard work, their marriage was repaired, like a "broken mirror reunion", and it was shining again.
Story 3: Another village
The third couple, after many years of married life, felt deeply tired and bored. They begin to wonder if all marriages will end like this. By chance, they attended a marriage counseling course. There, they heard the phrase: "Marriage is not about finding a perfect person, but about learning to appreciate an imperfect person with perfect eyes." They began to try to change the way they looked at each other, to learn to appreciate each other's strengths and tolerate each other's shortcomings. Their marriage gradually rejuvenated, as if "another village is bright".
These three stories tell us that midlife marital crises are not inevitable, and the key lies in the attitudes and actions of both spouses. As the saying goes, "Husband and wife are of the same heart, and their profits are golden." As long as both parties can work together, the boat of marriage can ride the wind and waves and sail to the other side of happiness.
Marriage is a long practice that requires the wisdom and patience of both parties. As the Tao Te Ching says: "The good is like water, and the water is good for all things without fighting." "In marriage, we should also learn to be like water, gentle and tolerant, nourishing each other and growing together.
Finally, end with a famous quote: "True love cannot be expressed in words, deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness." (Shakespeare) May every couple be able to walk hand in hand on the journey of marriage, through the wind and rain, and share the rainbow.