In today's society, there are often some contradictions and troubles in money and emotional relationships. Some people may use their feelings to ask for money, while others may be blinded and give blindly.
A case in Wuhan vividly reflects a microcosm of this contradiction. The protagonists of the case are a Wuhan boy Ah Ming and a woman surnamed A Fang.
In 2020, 26-year-old Ah Ming met 24-year-old Ah Fang through a blind date. At the beginning, the relationship between the two was quite normal, and Ah Fang would hint that Ah Ming would buy her some small gifts for reasons such as "", "", etc. Amin was also satisfied one by one.
Soon, however, the situation changed dramatically. Ah Fang began to unscrupulously ask for all kinds of items and money, from tens or hundreds of yuan of daily necessities, to brand-name cosmetics, luxury bags, and even Apple mobile phones and other valuables that cost tens of thousands of yuan.
She often uses "festivals" and "comparisons" as excuses to specify goods to be purchased or transferred directly by A. What's even more unbelievable is that Ah Fang often asks for some special "" when asking for money, such as having to transfer a specific amount of money, and having to note the text of "love theme" in the message.
It is not difficult to see that she is consciously creating an illusion of "" and preparing for possible disputes in the future. In the face of Ah Fang's unreasonable and shameless demand, Ah Ming would resist at first, but he was often quickly suppressed by the other party's abuse.
Chat logs show that as long as Ah Ming hesitates, Ah Fang will send dozens or hundreds of voice and text messages in a row, including a lot of insulting profanity. Under the pressure of this verbal bullying, Amin eventually gave in.
In three years, his total contribution to Ah Fang was as high as 330,000 yuan. And the number of times the two have actually met is only no more than 5 times. It can be said that Ah Ming has completely reduced to Ah Fang's ATM.
After the case was disclosed, public opinion was in an uproar, and many people were deeply indignant at Ah Fang's naked "" behavior, thinking that she was completely using emotional hostage and coercion to squeeze Ah Ming's money. At the same time, Amin's ""and" has also aroused widespread discussion and criticism.
Some analysts have pointed out that the reason why Amin made mistakes again and again and fell deeper and deeper is probably because he has been suppressed by the spirit of "" for a long time. Ah Fang often humiliated Ah Ming with words such as """", and nailed the two labels "" and "" to Ah Ming.
Under long-term mental pressure and self-doubt, Ah Ming almost lost the ability to think and judge independently, and gradually became supple and obedient. It is this distorted psychology and attachment that makes him pay money again and again, trying to exchange money for Ah Fang's "forgiveness" and "recognition".
From a psychological point of view, the relationship between Ah Ming and Ah Fang has become completely unbalanced, evolving into a deformed and pathological interdependence. Through verbal violence, Ah Fang destroyed Ah Ming's self-esteem and subjective initiative; And Amin, out of overkill, used money to make up for his inferiority complex and anxiety.
This kind of distorted and pathological relationship will eventually inevitably be judged by law and morality. In December 2023, the local court ruled that Ah Fang needed to return 270,000 yuan of unjust enrichment to Ah Ming. However, due to various reasons, the judgment has not been enforced.
This case has aroused widespread concern in society about the "" issue. Some experts pointed out that there is a general deviation in the values of young people at present, and there is a lack of correct guidance on emotional issues, which is an important reason for the frequent occurrence of such incidents.
Some counselors also call for us to learn to be rational and sober in the face of emotional entanglements. You can't be blinded by short-term feelings and do something hurtful. At the same time, when encountering "", we must also have the courage to expose and defend our rights, and use the weapon of the law to defend our legitimate rights and interests.
This distressing case warns us that when dealing with emotional problems, we must keep a clear head and an independent personality, and we must not blindly superstition and dedication, still less do some things that violate laws and disciplines. Although money and emotions are inextricably linked, they are ultimately two different levels and cannot be completely equated.