Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In a relationship, every woman wants to be the special existence in a man's heart.
So, what can you do to make a man stick to you all the time and feel inseparable from you?
In fact, the answer is very simple, it is to "understand".
Knowing is not just about knowing what he likes to eat and what colors he likes. You have to get to know him deeply, know what he thinks and wants, feel his emotions, and read his mind.
When he feels that you are the one who understands him best, he will naturally be inseparable from you.
01
Know his heart
In order for a man to be inseparable from you, you first need to understand his heart.
Although men are strong on the outside, they also have a soft and fragile side on the inside. They also want to be understood, supported, and have someone who can listen to them.
There is a concept in psychology called "empathy", which is the ability to put oneself in the shoes of others and understand the emotions and emotions of others.
When you can "empathize" with a man's heart, he will feel that you are the one who understands him best, and his dependence on you will be deeper.
For example, when he is under pressure at work and in a low mood, your sentence "I understand you, you have worked hard" will touch the soft place in his heart more than simple comfort.
Because, this sentence makes him feel that you really understand his feelings, and you are facing everything with him.
02
Understand his needs
In addition to the heart, you also need to understand the needs of men.
In fact, men and women are completely different in terms of emotional needs. What men need more is to be respected and recognized.
So, when getting along with a man, you have to learn to respect his opinions, his habits, his choices. Give him enough freedom and space, instead of meddling in everything and giving advice.
Moreover, men also need to be affirmed, encouraged, and praised.
So, when he suffers a blow and is discouraged, you have to support him, encourage him, and get him back on his feet. Not just words, but also actions, such as "fighting side by side" with him.
When he encounters something happy or achieves a small achievement, you have to affirm him and praise him without hesitation. Fully satisfy his vanity, and he will value you more.
03
Know how to communicate
Communication between couples is essential, and in order for a man to be inseparable from you, you need to know how to communicate effectively with him.
First, you have to learn to listen.
Listening is not just about listening to him, it's about understanding the emotions and needs behind his words.
When he confides in you, don't interrupt him and don't rush to make an evaluation. Instead, listen patiently to what he has to say, and then give him a response.
Second, learn to express your feelings and needs.
What you want him to do for you, don't always let the man guess, but tell him directly what you need and expect. In this way, men will understand what you mean better and will be more active in paying for you.
04
Know how to maintain a sense of mystery
Mystery is always a big "magic weapon" to attract men. When you maintain a certain sense of mystery towards a man, he will be more curious about you and more willing to get closer to you.
For example, you can occasionally experiment with different hairstyles, makeup, or dressing styles to give yourself a new look.
Or, you can share some of your little secrets with him to make the man feel the richness and colorfulness of your heart.
In addition to mystery, you also need to know how to run yourself.
An independent, confident, and attractive woman is often more likely to hold a man's heart.
For example, you have to learn to love yourself. It is only when you truly love yourself that you can exude the charm of self-confidence.
You can try fitness, skincare, study, and other ways to improve your external and internal attractiveness.
Another example is to maintain a positive mindset. A woman who is positive, optimistic and cheerful, and does not have so much negative energy, will make a man feel more relaxed and more willing to get along with you.
As Leo Tolstoy said, "We love each other as equals, because we know each other and respect each other." ”
When you really understand a man, you will become an indispensable presence in his life, and you will be able to hold his heart tightly so that he can never leave you again.