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It is said that the right person and similar age are the basis of marriage, but in Hunan, there is a newlywed couple with an age difference of 45 years.
In 2012, Zhang Feng, who was only 26 years old, married a 71-year-old Chinese medicine man, during which she was unmoved no matter how her family persuaded her, and insisted on marrying him.
Usually, a 20-year-old difference between husband and wife will attract everyone's discussions, not to mention that Zhang Feng is married to an old man with a difference of 45 years.
What's even more shocking is that the two gave birth to a son a year after marriage, but this love that spans age only lasted for ten years.
So now 36-year-old Zhang Feng, with a son who is only 10 years old, does he regret his decision to go his own way?
(The information in this article is from official media, and it has been repeated at the end)
insisted on marrying a 71-year-old man
Since Zhang Feng confessed to her mother that she liked Wen Changlin, a barefoot Chinese medicine doctor in the village, her mother began to arrange all kinds of blind dates for her.
It's not because Wen Changlin doesn't like his mother, but because his age is really unacceptable.
Not to mention the difference of 20 years old, my daughter is looking for a 45-year-old difference, and half of her legs have stepped into the ghost door, is this looking for a "burden" or a "burden"?
In fact, Zhang Feng was able to confess to her family, and she had already mustered up a lot of courage, and she could understand her mother's abuse.
After all, what mother doesn't want her child to marry well, but since she has already said it, it proves that she has made a decision.
No matter how her mother accused her of being "crazy", Zhang Feng still insisted on marrying Wen Changlin.
So when facing various blind date bureaus, she either deliberately made trouble, or she confessed her true thoughts.
During that time, Wen Changlin often brought gifts to the gate of the Zhang family, and several times Zhang Feng's mother felt very uncomfortable when she faced this old man who was older than herself.
cried several times and begged Wen Changlin to persuade Zhang Feng, but Wen Changlin had persuaded her several times since he learned that Zhang Feng was interested in him, but he couldn't change her mind every time.
And Wen Changlin has always endured his liking for Zhang Feng, after all, he also knows that the marriage between the two does not seem to be in line with the scope of the world's acceptance.
It's just that this time he saw Zhang Feng so persistent, and he no longer flinched, and wanted to face the worldly rumors with her.
For this reason, Zhang Feng also said cruel words to her family, if she didn't want to marry Wen Changlin, she would never marry again in her life, and would rather die alone.
After tossing for more than half a year, Zhang Feng's family finally relented, thinking that she was just too young, let her experience it herself, maybe she would regret it.
In 2012, 26-year-old Zhang Feng married 71-year-old Wen Changlin, but this marriage, which is 45 years apart, has never been favored by anyone.
The people in the village took them as a joke, but Zhang Feng's family always waited for the day when their daughter regretted it.
It's just that the most puzzling thing is that Zhang Feng is still so young, why does he insist on marrying an old man, not to mention that Wen Changlin's family background is not much better.
Behind Zhang Feng's stubbornness, he has a touching story with Wen Changlin.
The Grace of the Father: A Promise to Himself?
Wen Changlin is an old Chinese medicine doctor in Ningxiang, Hunan Province, and most of the Chinese medicine doctors in the village do not have medical qualifications, so most of them open small clinics in their own homes.
And Wen Changlin is also one of them, he studied medicine not only to support his family, but also to save lives.
Because almost all of them went back and forth in several villages, everyone knew each other, and it was very difficult to treat those families, so he almost only charged the cost of medicinal materials, and did not charge the rest.
Even sometimes he doesn't even charge money for medicinal materials, after all, he doesn't need to rely on treatment to support his family now.
His children had grown up, and his wife had died of illness, so he focused on healing others.
I also met Zhang Feng because Wen Changlin heard about her family's situation from the villagers, and her father suddenly suffered a stroke and was partially paralyzed.
At that time, Zhang Feng was only 15 years old, and the sudden collapse of his father made it difficult for the whole family to function, and it was even more difficult to support his mother alone.
For most of the year, the money spent on my father has already left the family in debt.
Zhang Feng is the youngest girl in the family, because her brothers and sisters go out to work to subsidize the family, and her mother also wears many hats for the family, she has become the only person to take care of her father.
Wen Changlin had also treated stroke patients, and after he got to know Zhang Feng's family, he decided to help them.
When Wen Changlin acupuncture and even prescribed medicine for Zhang Feng's father, Zhang Feng lowered her head and didn't dare to speak, she was afraid that as soon as she said that she had no money to pay, Wen Changlin would be cured.
But Wen Changlin simply said that he would not charge money, and he would only need to change a meal for medical treatment in the future.
Wen Changlin's words, Zhang Feng listened to it but his eyes were red, and it was this contact that made her feel very reliable about Wen Changlin.
It seems that every time I see him, I feel very relieved, and for a long time in the future, Wen Changlin will come to Zhang Feng's home almost every day for his father's acupuncture.
And her husband's father is also gradually changing, Wen Changlin's dedication to his father, Zhang Feng also sees it.
Wen Changlin insisted on seeing a doctor for six years without asking for anything in return, as long as Zhang Feng's father was unwell, no matter how far away Wen Changlin would come over quickly.
It's just that in the sixth year, Zhang Feng's father still passed away regrettably.
It was also from this time that the fate between Wen Changlin and Zhang Feng seemed to be broken, and they would not see each other for almost a whole year.
It was probably this separation that made Zhang Feng see her psychology clearly, and when she couldn't see Wen Changlin, she was always uneasy and even thought of him often.
Later, Zhang Feng fell ill, and Wen Changlin felt by her side as soon as he heard the news without saying a word.
After many years of separation, seeing each other again, there was a different kind of affection in the hearts of the two, Zhang Feng has always regarded him as his dependence, and it seems that only he is at peace by his side.
But Wen Changlin has been suppressing the thoughts in his heart and dare not express them, but only he knows his heart.
It was also this reunion that made Zhang Feng determined to be with Wen Changlin.
For her, she has always remembered the kindness of her father's care for six years, and the feelings in her heart for her have been clear.
Therefore, this decision, firstly, is to repay "the kindness of saving the father", and secondly, to follow his own heart.
It's just that after they got married, they faced not only gossip from the outside world, but also anxiety between ages...
Married life
After Zhang Feng married Wen Changlin, except for Wen Changlin's children, who didn't have much opinion, the rest of the people almost couldn't understand her decision.
Some people say that it is "a flower stuck in cow dung", but it is a pity for such a young girl.
Some people also say that Zhang Feng is divorced from his father, and he has a "father-lover complex" for Wen Changlin, so he will have a different kind of affection for him.
Anyway, they have heard all the ugly rumors, and Zhang Feng and his wife had already thought of these before they got married, but when they faced these voices, they were still a little sad in their hearts.
But more concerned about these than these, Zhang Feng is more concerned about whether he can stay with Wen Changlin, after all, he is indeed a little old.
Although he is still very healthy at the moment, he can indeed be regarded as an old man after he is over seventy, so he is afraid that Wen Changlin will suddenly leave him one day.
And Wen Changlin is also worried about this problem, he can still run, eat and sleep, and lift heavy objects, but every decade after seventy is a hurdle.
If it suddenly disappears, leaving Zhang Feng alone to face, it will be difficult for him to accept it in his heart.
In this regard, Zhang Feng had the idea of giving birth to each other's children, but Wen Changlin disagreed at first, because he was so old, what if the child left before he became an adult.
Zhang Feng has a different opinion, she thinks that with a child belonging to each other, this marriage will be consummated, even if Wen Changlin leaves, she at least has a bond.
About a year after marriage, Zhang Feng successfully conceived a child, and this news also made her family completely dead.
In the tenth month of pregnancy, Wen Changlin didn't want Zhang Feng to do anything, for fear of tiring her, and in the face of various problems during pregnancy, Wen Changlin also took care of her very thoughtfully.
This time, 72-year-old Wen Changlin got a younger son, and he was very fond of this son when he was old.
Because he also knew that when his son grew up, he might listen to the ridicule of others, so he wrote many letters to him.
I hope that when I grow up, my son can understand his parents' decision, and also tell him that his parents' love does not touch the law, and it is also in line with moral norms.
The meeting of parents is fate, the union is because of love, if he is not there in the future, he must love his mother well.
Wen Changlin also knew that his remaining days would not be long, so he cherished every day with Zhang Feng.
On weekdays, he will continue to practice medicine, and Zhang Feng has also found a light job, and in the evening, the two will hold hands and take the children for a walk together.
Day after day, no matter where they went, this combination, which others called "strange", always held each other's hands.
Even if everyone is not optimistic about them, their relationship is still the same for ten years, and the child is sensible and well-behaved.
When other people's families were still arguing over money, rice, oil and salt, there were often laughter and laughter in their houses, and the two had hardly quarreled for so many years.
In such a loving family, their children are also extraordinarily sensible.
It's just that this happiness came to an abrupt end one day in 2022, when 81-year-old Wen Changlin passed away due to illness.
Zhang Feng, who suddenly lost her husband, broke down and cried in her heart, although she had expected such a result many times, she still couldn't help crying when it came.
But at this time, she also has a nine-year-old son, and although life will become more difficult, she still needs to live strongly.
Today, Zhang Feng still has the habit of walking in the countryside after dinner, but at this time there is one less person by her side.
In order to earn more for his family, Zhang Feng will learn from young people on weekdays and share his daily life on social platforms.
Occasionally, I will sell goods live on the platform, although the income is not much, but at least there is still an income.
Zhang Feng still has a long way to go, but there is no longer Wen Changlin's company on this road.
Resources:
Ten years ago, a 26-year-old woman in Hunan married a 71-year-old man, and her husband has recently passed away.
10 years ago, a 26-year-old woman in Hunan married a 71-year-old man, and her husband has recently passed away Jimu News
Red Star News: A 26-year-old woman married a 71-year-old man and had a son, and her husband died after 10. Woman: He saved my father, and we have a relationship: "Link"
The account of the protagonist of the event: The beginning of Sister Feng's new life
https://www.douyin.com/user/MS4wLjABAAAAUH8wqGxhHF5HEnlRQV5WGhnL3YQlEd4hRq9JJC0L1Ig
Zhang Feng's personal account