On Zhihu, those questions about betrayal of marriage are like unsolved mysteries, which make people think deeply.
In the dead of night, I always think of the mistakes I made, the decisions I made on impulse.
Now, I, a former betrayer, stand here and use my personal experience to tell you what kind of bitter fruits a man who betrays his marriage will eventually taste.
Shakespeare once said, "Be faithful and honest, and do not lie, for whoever lies will be punished severely." ”
This sentence has now become the deepest pain in my heart. I used to think that by escaping the marriage that bound me, I could find true happiness.
However, when I actually left, I realized that I had lost my most precious thing.
My marriage to my ex-wife was originally a plain and warm life.
We met at the arrangement of my parents, who were hardworking, kind, and took good care of my parents, which made me very grateful.
However, with the busyness of work and the temptations of the city, I gradually lost myself and fell into the quagmire of extramarital affairs.
At that time, in order to pursue the so-called "true love", I resolutely filed for divorce from my ex-wife.
I have forgotten the vows we once made, and I have forgotten her dedication and sacrifice. I was obsessed with a new romance and thought there was the happiness I had always dreamed of. However, reality gave me a hard slap in the face.
Life after remarriage is not as good as I imagined.
My new wife, Liu Wei, and I don't have the same personality and often quarrel over trivial matters. She was cold to my parents and didn't show a trace of care even during my mother's illness.
Her family was in a miasma, and I lived in quarrels and depression every day.
In the dead of night, I always think of my ex-wife. She had given so much for this family, and I abandoned her for a so-called "true love".
I began to miss the days I spent with her, those bland and real happiness.
The moment my mother died, I was completely devastated. Before her death, she always advised me to cherish my family and cherish my ex-wife.
However, I insisted on going my own way and chose betrayal. The death of my mother made me feel deeply guilty and remorseful. I realized how stupid and selfish I had been.
At that moment, I was reminded of Rabindranath Tagore's famous quote: "Love is another name for understanding and thoughtfulness." ”
I realized that true love is not a short-term passion, but a long-term companionship and understanding. It is this deep and sincere love that my ex-wife gave me.
I began to reflect on my mistakes and try to win back my ex-wife's heart. However, it was already too late. She already has a new life, and I can only bear this regret and pain alone.
Today, I am no longer the young, impulsive and ignorant man I am. I learned to cherish and be grateful, and I learned the importance of family and love. I hope that through my experience, I can give some inspiration to those who are still confused and hesitant: cherish the people in front of you and cherish the existing happiness.
I want to tell those who are still teetering on the verge of betraying their marriage: don't give up long-term happiness for the sake of a fleeting passion. Marriage needs to be managed and maintained, and only mutual understanding and tolerance can go further.
I also want to tell those who have already been hurt: don't give up on yourself, don't dwell on the pain of the past. Everyone has a chance to start over, and as long as you take that step bravely, you will definitely find your own happiness.
Finally, I would like to conclude my story with a quote from Romain Rolland: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life even after recognizing the truth of life." ”
Everyone can become such a hero, bravely face the challenges and difficulties of life, and cherish every happiness and warmth around them.