In the journey of love, we always have a vision for a better future, looking forward to spending our lives hand in hand with someone who has a common heart and is trustworthy.
However, the complexity and changeability of reality often make us encounter some twists and turns on the road to true love.
Some men, in love, show behavior that not only disappoints, but also exposes their character problems.
When encountering men with the following three behaviors, no matter how much love there is in our hearts, we should be vigilant and stay away in time, because such love is not worth sticking to.
01
Frequent weaving of lies and lack of sincerity
Sincerity is the most solid cornerstone of love, and love without sincerity is like a castle in the air, which will eventually collapse.
However, some men are used to lying in love, whether it is a small or big thing, they always use lies to cover up the truth.
Such a man not only can't give women a sense of security, but also makes people doubt their character and integrity.
Shakespeare said, "The road of sincere love is never smooth." ”
But on this path, if even the most basic honesty cannot be guaranteed, then this love is destined to be bumpy. Xiaohui once loved a man deeply, but the other party often lied to her.
Whether it's a mistake at work or an affair with another woman, he always uses various excuses to cover it up.
In the end, Xiaohui discovered the truth by chance, and she felt extremely disappointed and sad.
She realizes that how can a man who can't even give her honesty bring her true happiness?
Therefore, we should be vigilant when we meet a man who lies frequently.
Such a man not only lacks sincerity, but is more likely to be a selfish person who only thinks about himself. We are not worth the sacrifice of sincerity and youth for such a man.
02
Ignoring your feelings and lacking respect
Respect in love is mutual, and a man who truly loves you will respect your thoughts and feelings.
However, some men are used to ignoring your feelings and forcing you to accept their ideas even if you explicitly dislike or don't want to.
Such a man not only lacks respect, but is more likely to be a domineering and selfish person.
Xiaomei's boyfriend is such a person. He always arranges Xiaomei's life on his own initiative and never asks her wishes.
If Xiaomei is unhappy or refuses his arrangement, he always uses "I'm all for your good" as an excuse to force her to accept.
What's more, he often laughs at Xiaomei's dress and dress in front of outsiders, which makes her feel very embarrassed and embarrassed.
Xiaomei reminded her boyfriend many times to respect her feelings, but her boyfriend ignored her. In the end, Xiaomei chose to break up. Because she understands that a man who doesn't respect herself can't bring her happiness.
Schopenhauer once said, "Respect every man, no matter how humble and ridiculous he may be." ”
How can a man who can't even give you basic respect give you true happiness?
In love, what we need is mutual understanding and support, not the ignorance and oppression of one party to the other.
When we meet a man who doesn't respect you, we should stop the loss in time and stay away from this wrong love choice.
03
Selfishness only considers oneself and lacks the heart to give
Love requires the dedication and effort of both parties to sustain it for a long time.
However, some men are accustomed to thinking only about their own feelings and needs in love, and ignoring the feelings and needs of the other person.
Such a man not only lacks the heart to give, but is also likely to be a selfish person who only cares about himself.
Xiaoya once met such a man. When they are together, their boyfriend always only thinks about his own preferences and needs, and never asks Xiaoya what she likes and where she wants to go.
Whether it's eating, watching movies, or traveling, he only chooses the way he likes and doesn't take into account Xiaoya's feelings.
Xiaoya expressed her dissatisfaction many times, but her boyfriend always perfunctory her for various reasons. Over time, Xiaoya felt that she was becoming more and more passive in this relationship, and she was less and less valued.
In the end, Xiaoya chose to break up because she understood that a selfish man could not give her true happiness and satisfaction.
Rabindranath Tagore once said, "If you love her, let your love surround her like sunshine and set her free." ”
A selfish man will not be able to give you sunshine and freedom, it will only make you fall deeper and deeper into compromise and eventually lose yourself.
When we meet a man who only thinks about himself, we should keep a clear head and stay away from this wrong love choice in time.
In short, when we meet a man who often lies, disrespects you, and is selfish, we should be wary of their character problems and stay away from such love choices in time.
Because true love needs to be based on sincerity, respect and giving, not one-sided taking and sacrifice. We deserve a better person, a more sincere love.