A male member of the Love Heart Reading Book asked me: "Teacher Li, now girls have high requirements for finding a partner, and they all want to find rich people, rich and handsome, how can we ordinary people get married?"
Li Zhenfang:
Having money, in fact, represents the person's quality, cultivation, IQ, and wisdom. Rich people are not stupid, and fools are not rich. So everyone likes to measure a person with money, which is the easiest, quickest, and most cost-saving way to save time and cost.
When a girl marries a rich man, she is not only marrying money, but also the things behind the money.
This is the same as us men like to marry young and beautiful girls, we are not actually marrying girls' youth, but what is behind girls' youth.
It's not just girls who have to find a partner with good conditions, but we men are also looking for a partner, everyone is looking for advantages and avoiding disadvantages.
It's not a problem of one person, it's everyone, group behavior, it's human nature, humanity.
The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit. The poor in the downtown no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.
When a girl gets married, she wants to have a child, she wants to raise a child, she wants to buy milk powder for her child, if you don't have money, the child can't be raised, what should I do?
It's a very simple truth, in love, we can talk about it however we want, we talk casually, and it's like that when we break up, everyone goes their separate ways.
But marriage is not good, marriage is a realistic thing, we need to solve the problem of food, clothing, housing and transportation, this is very realistic, and it must not be false at all.
Then many people engage in some false things when they are looking for a partner, and when they get married, they will be exposed, and they will get divorced.
So, if we want to have a happy marriage, we have to be authentic. Fake, sooner or later, will be exposed, and the later it is exposed, the greater the damage.
For example, if we are sick, we have to pay to go to the doctor. We can't talk to the doctor about feelings, but it's not realistic to talk to the doctor and let the doctor see us for free.
As we get older, we will understand more and more the reality of society, the reality of marriage.
Many people don't understand this truth, and the logic of his brain is confused. He always thinks that love comes first, and I tell you, such people's emotions are very miserable.
The probability of getting married because of love is very high, and it is easy to be happy if you get married because of the conditions.
We must understand that feelings will always disappear, and there is a gap between people, which is unequal.
We will see a lot of older girls looking for rich and handsome, they want to find, but they can't find it, although they are in good condition, but the problem is, they are older, can you understand?
It's one thing to find it and whether we can find it, it's related to our cognitive positioning of ourselves, others, love, and emotions.
A good object, it doesn't mean that everyone can find it if they say they can find it, we have to work hard, we find an object that is one or two levels higher than ourselves, which is already very good.
After all, in marriage, no one wants to suffer, everyone is the right person.
The conditions are too poor, no matter how much you pay, the other party looks down on you. Especially men, you don't have money, you are an ordinary man, you don't want to find a beautiful woman, just honestly find an ordinary girl.
The fate of ordinary men looking for beautiful women is generally miserable. Especially the appearance of girls is not so important, I have talked many times in "Love Heart", how a man should choose a wife, you must watch it several times.
Men in love, don't be too stupid to pay, don't spend a lot of money when you fall in love, the relationship in love is very unstable, break up when you say break up, after breaking up, your previous payment is not good, in fact, you are just strangers.
In love, everyone pays about the same, this is a good love.