Text: Jing Ma
Two days ago, there was a scene at the entrance of the elementary school, which was a jaw-dropping picture. We say that we kneel to the sky and kneel to the parents, but at the gate of this elementary school, it is the mother kneeling and the son. #头条创作挑战赛#
It turned out that the son was reluctant to go to school, and now the mother hopes that the child can transfer to this school, and finally pulled the child to the door of this school, but the child is reluctant to enter the school gate, the mother has no choice but to kneel down on her knees, she uses the action of kneeling, hoping to pray for the child to study well.
There was an uncle next to me who said that it was enough to admit your mistakes and study hard with your mother, but in fact, I could see this mother's helplessness and incompetence and powerlessness......
Children are reluctant to go to school, it may be because of various reasons, parents are forced to be able to do so, we say that the cow does not drink water, you force its head, it will never drink, do not go to school children, often like this.
The mother's kneeling will not be exchanged for the child's schooling, but will be exchanged for the child's reckless behavior, and even pride.
Two years ago, there was a 9-year-old child in Shenzhen, who was unwilling to go to school for various reasons, and the mother was very anxious and angry, so she knelt in front of the child in order to let the child go to school, and knelt for almost an hour.
When the mother knelt, the child was indifferently playing the game, and then took a photo of the mother kneeling, posted it on the Internet, posted it to his circle of friends and wrote: Happy every day. Such a blatant show off really makes parents very chilled.
Parents work hard to raise their children, because the children are reluctant to go to school, and the parents are worried about affecting their learning, so they kneel down to move the children, but instead of moving the children, they will make the children feel that my mother is so humble, and my mother is like a servant, even like a slave, prostrate in front of me......
A kneeling mother can't raise a standing child, she can only raise a white-eyed wolf!
The reason why these mothers will please their children is because they are not confident enough, they don't know how to love themselves, they always feel that they are very bad, and the children are unwilling to go to school, and the mothers feel that it is because they have not done a good job, and it is their own fault, so they hope to be able to kneel down to make their children willing to go to school.
But it is actually useless for a mother to do this, a mother who does not know how to love herself, a mother who has no energy, is actually difficult to teach her children well.
Being a parent should be like a diamond, because the diamond has many faces, each side can refract the light, when the child can see the light on the parents, he will pursue, he will surpass the parents, so that the child can stand up to the sky.
As a mother, you have to be a diamond with six sides of brilliance in order to raise a promising child
Side 1: Be a caregiver
Take care of the child's diet when the child is young, take care of the child when he is sick, and provide the child with living expenses when the child is in school.
The second side: parents need to learn to be teachers
We say that parents are the first teachers of children, teaching children to dress in life, coordinate their own learning, do housework, and complete their studies independently, only under the guidance of parents, children can learn to be independent.
Side 3: Parents should be role models
Psychologist Bandura thinks that children's growth is actually imitation, and children will grow up slowly by imitating role models, so as parents, they must first live their own lives brightly, so that children will be confident and bright.
If you hope that your child is not a picky eater, then your parents should not be picky, and you hope that your child will love sports, and your parents will exercise regularly.
The fourth side: Parents want to be fans
Children like to chat and share when they are young, and parents should not interrupt their children, or think that children are very naïve, but be children's little fans.
For example, if the child sweeps the floor today, he can praise the child for sweeping cleanly, which is actually a reinforcement of the child's positive behavior, and the child's good behavior is praised, and he will work harder to carry forward this good behavior.
Side 5: Be your child's friend
Especially when children enter adolescence, only when parents are friends with children, children will be willing to talk to their parents and tell their parents if they encounter any problems.
For example, if the child is in early love, if the parents can be the child's friends and the child is willing to share with the parents, the parents can understand the progress of the child in a timely manner, and how to let the child learn to protect himself.
Children's early love is not terrible, what is terrible is that parents do not know their children's early love, do not know how far their children have developed, and only by being a friend of their children can they understand the real-time progress of their children.
Side 6: Be the ceiling for children
Parents are the direction of the child's progress, if the parents are 100,000 meters high, then the child is an eagle when he flies, if the parents are only 10 meters high, then the child is just a fly no matter how hard he tries.
Therefore, it is better for us to roll our children than to roll ourselves, only if we live well, then our children can have a better example and live a better life.
As a parent, what you have to do is not to humble and pray, but to live yourself, and I will be good for the world.
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