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I agree with this sentence:
"Marriage is a woman's second reincarnation, and marriage is an important opportunity for a woman to choose 'acquired relatives'."
When we were born, we were just helpless crying babies who could not choose our parents and loved ones.
When we become adults, we choose who to marry is to choose who to become our "acquired relatives".
Many girls will focus on the other person's appearance and financial conditions when looking for a significant other.
But only after marriage did you know that if you want to maintain a high-quality marriage, you can't just look at the man's appearance and money.
The handsomeness of the appearance may bring you a momentary pleasure, and the extravagance of spending a lot of money may make you obsessed.
But the inner qualities of a man are the things that will accompany you throughout your life.
Marrying the following three men with their own "prosperous wife" physique, the woman's state is likely to get better and better, are you marrying the right one?
01 The husband is happy and encouraged, and the wife grows rapidly
Choosing who to marry is really different.
A good partner can help you alleviate half of the suffering in the world.
A bad partner may make you suffer from the rest of the world.
In the hit TV series "Flowers" some time ago, the husband of Lu Meiling, the proprietress on the Yellow River Road, always brought her the biggest wind and rain in her life.
Lu Meiling worked hard every day to run her family's restaurant, racking her brains in order to do a good job.
And her husband not only gambled money, but also planned to elope with Xiao Jiangxi, the waiter in the store.
When Lu Meiling embarrassed Miss Wang, Mr. Bao stood up and blocked Lu Meiling in the face for her.
It just so happened that Lu Meiling glanced back and found that her husband was comforting the crying Xiao Jiangxi, completely ignoring what happened to her.
At that moment, Lu Meiling's heart seemed to sink deep into the sea.
Later, Lu Meiling's husband secretly mortgaged the family's restaurant to others, and because the principal could not be repaid, the store was taken away by the creditor.
Lu Meiling eventually lost everything and could only leave the Yellow River Road in tears.
As the saying goes:
"Time knows people, but it is difficult to know the heart. Without a single thing, I don't understand a person. ”
Lu Meiling's fierce personality and full of anger are certainly related to her own personality and mentality, and it also has a lot to do with the other half behind her.
If family is a boat, then Lu Meiling is the one who tries to row forward, while her husband is the one who keeps digging holes in the bottom of the boat.
No matter how hard the rower tries, the boat will eventually sink to the bottom as the hole in the bottom of the boat grows bigger and bigger.
Only when two people who love each other work together to row in one direction, can the family boat ride the wind and waves and reach the other side of happiness.
Women, you must remember not to marry such a person who digs a hole, otherwise your life will either constantly fill the hole for him, or accept the consequences of the ship being completely submerged and you will be homeless.
In the TV series "South to North", Wang Xin is a lover who always supports his partner.
As a salesperson in a state-owned enterprise, Ma Yan is bent on quitting her stable job, selling buttons at a stall, and trying to start a business.
But her father was adamantly opposed, feeling that after leaving the state-owned enterprise, her life would be insecure.
Wang Xin saw his wife tossing and turning in order to resign, so he tried every means to help her win her father's support;
When Ma Yan first started to set up a stall to sell buttons, she was embarrassed to shout, and Wang Xin accompanied her to shout loudly;
When Ma Yan ran away from home in order to start a business, Wang Xin took out his savings and gave Ma Yan as start-up capital;
With the support of Wang Xin, Ma Yan's entrepreneurship gradually got better and became the first female entrepreneur in the compound to drive a car.
Later, Ma Yan became a 10,000-yuan household by selling buttons, and co-founded her own factory.
The two have always been in love for many years after marriage, and they have lovely children.
Oswin once said:
"Wives also have needs. She needs love, care, and protection. She feels safe when she feels that her husband cares for her, bringing her security and happiness. ”
Ma Yan's career take-off is related to her own intelligence, but it is also inseparable from the support of her husband Wang Xin.
A man who is comfortable with a woman supports his or her other half to work hard, but does not force her to change.
And women will also develop more potential with the encouragement of their lovers, so as to become a new and upgraded version of themselves step by step.
02 The husband is considerate and caring, and the wife is radiant
There's a good saying:
"If you want to see a man clearly, it's enough to have a baby with him."
Because after giving birth to a baby, a woman is likely to face a "miserable" situation of weakness, deformation, and reduced income.
And at this time, what their attitude towards their wives is, you can see the geometry of this man's character.
Not long ago, I saw a video posted by blogger @朱嘉伟 on the Internet.
After giving birth to a baby, his wife slowly became less confident because of spots on her face, deformed figure, and small social circle.
So the man tried his best to help his wife return to her previous confident and cheerful state.
In order to let his wife take care of his qi and blood, he fried steak and boiled chicken soup for his wife, so that his wife's qi and blood slowly recovered;
In order to allow his wife to rest early, he took the initiative to do housework after work, sitting on a rocking chair to coax the baby to sleep;
In order to make his wife more confident, he changed the dresser and wardrobe at home, and encouraged his wife to buy more new clothes and dress herself;
In order to let his wife relax, he took his wife out on a trip after the holiday to free her from trivial housework......
Later, the wife became more and more beautiful, and the whole person became more and more confident and cheerful, and the tiredness and old-fashioned spirit on her body were swept away.
Marrying a man who doesn't know how to be grateful and giving, even if you give it all, he will always take it for granted.
And marrying a man who knows how to take care of his partner, even if you have children and grow old, you still feel like you're celebrating Valentine's Day every day.
John Gray confessed in his book "Men from Mars, Women from Venus":
"When women feel valued and cared for, they feel extra confident, optimistic and vibrant."
Yes, we often say that women are like flowers, and lovers are like flowers.
A good gardener will water his flowers patiently, take care of them carefully, and often weed and fertilize the flowers.
A good husband knows how to take care of his wives in their daily lives and make them radiant.
A man with a "prosperous wife" is not necessarily handsome and makes a lot of money.
But they can nourish a woman like a good fertilizer, so that a woman becomes more and more "prosperous" from her body to her fortune.
03 The husband is tolerant and generous, and the wife is calm and self-consistent
Nowadays, more and more women have become a landscape living their own life.
They can go up to the halls, they can go down to the kitchen, they can afford to get a job, and they can beat the hooligans.
They are no longer willing to be 100 wives, 100 mothers, and 0 selves, like the previous generation of women.
They prefer to be a 70-point mother, a 70-point wife, and a 90-point self.
If a woman gets married and has children, she can still do a prosperous career.
Behind her, there is a good chance that there is a lover who fully supports her.
The owner @ Liu Xiaonian who wrote the story is like this.
One day, Liu Xiaonian won a professional award in the industry and was very happy.
She drank a few more drinks at the celebration banquet in the evening, and when she came home, she simply washed up and fell asleep.
In the middle of the night, she was thirsty and wanted to drink water, and found that her husband was not in the bedroom, and the light was on in their son's bedroom.
She walked over and found that her husband was taking care of her sick son.
Only then did she know that her son had a flu A fever at school during the day, and was later taken home by her husband.
She was both guilty and moved, and blamed her husband for not telling her son about his illness earlier.
But her husband told her that she could handle this little thing by herself, and told her to rest early, because she still had to speak at the meeting tomorrow.
It was only at this moment that Liu Xiaonian understood that her husband was her biggest background.
Because of the silent support of her husband behind her, she was able to make a bold career and continue to expand her career territory.
In the last century, we often praised a woman as "Wangfu".
Because there were not many job opportunities for women at that time, most women were firmly tied to their families and units.
In this day and age, there are more and more job opportunities for women, and women's incomes can be equal to or better than men's.
More and more men choose to support their partners to make the choices they want and be a man who is a "prosperous wife".
If the wife wants to fight hard in the workplace, they take care of the family and run the rear of the family;
If the wife wants to take a back seat and have children, they will do their best to support the family without complaint and be a pillar of the economy;
With such a man behind her, a woman can attack and retreat, with light in her eyes, a smile on her face, and a stable heart.
Such a man is the man who really has a prosperous wife!
04. Mei Niang said
Yang Lan once said:
"A woman should not be just a tool for inheritance, or a number in the social equality index, her value is not based on what position she has achieved, how much money she earns, how many children she has had, but as a living individual, she has a full and abundant life."
Yes, in fact, "prosperous wife" does not necessarily mean that the wife can achieve success in her career, but can also mean that the wife can grow up and be happy to be herself.
There is no fixed standard for the husband and wife to have the ability to fight for the career, and for whoever is suitable for taking care of the family, there is no fixed standard, but now that machismo is prevalent so far, it is rare to be able to allow and support his wife to fly high in her career, and to let her choose whatever she wants to be without any prejudices, but this is a necessary pattern for a man who is a "prosperous wife".
In the end, Mei Niang wants to say that a good husband and wife should achieve each other, the wife is prosperous with her husband, and the husband is prosperous with his wife, so that a family can truly prosper.
The rest of your life is short, please love a man who can prosper you! Then you can also prosper him!