Author: Wen Qiusheng
Original article, plagiarism must be investigated
01. Introduction
Marriage gives two people a clear boundary to protect each other's feelings and isolate them from the temptations of the outside world.
A married man, when getting along with the opposite sex, if he doesn't pay attention to it, he will lose his sense of proportion and cross the line.
His heart will also begin to waver with his words and deeds, step by step out of the original track, and fall into a dangerous whirlpool.
It can be seen that men have no boundaries or not.
Your man has crossed the "rails" by doing the following things to a woman outside of marriage.
02. Respond to the affairs of women outside of marriage
Manmohan Singh said, "When you betray others, you also betray yourself." ”
A man without boundaries will care too much about a woman outside of marriage and respond to her various things.
He has unconsciously thrown himself into the life of an extramarital woman, using his own responses to accelerate the development of the relationship.
He will try his best to meet the requests and help made to him by women outside of marriage, and give enough patience and response.
As long as it is a message from her, the man will definitely check it as soon as possible, put down the matter in his hand, and respond.
For example, if a woman says that she gets off work too late and is afraid to take a taxi alone, the man will drive there immediately.
For another example, if a woman says that she has not received flowers from others for a long time, the man immediately places an order to meet the woman's expectations for romance.
Although there is no substantial development between men and women outside of marriage, his words and deeds have deviated, and everything is exuding ambiguity and intimacy to women.
His heart, in fact, has long been lost in the response to the woman outside of marriage.
03, and a woman outside of marriage, when talking together, it is very ambiguous
Lin Hao in "Shining Her" is married to Chen Xuanxuan, but he still subconsciously conceals the fact that he is married in front of his colleagues.
After he was promoted with the help of his father-in-law's connections, he took a woman named Xiaoyun in the unit as the goal of developing an extramarital relationship.
He often hinted in front of Xiao Yun that he and Chen Xuanxuan were not doing well, saying that she was an empathetic woman.
When Lin Hao and Xiao Yun get along, they will deliberately create an ambiguous atmosphere. He always looked at her with a meaningful look and proposed a tryst to her after a party.
In front of Xiao Yun, he always insisted that he and Chen Xuanxuan no longer have a relationship, and the two will divorce soon.
Lin Hao's various behaviors have long indicated that he is an irresponsible man, and he is destined to turn his back on his marriage to Chen Xuanxuan.
Ambiguity is the first manifestation of breaking through boundaries.
Married men cross the line and will talk ambiguously with women outside of marriage. In the words, there is a deep meaning, which makes women outside of marriage constantly associate with it.
When he gets along with an extramarital woman, he makes no secret of his admiration and desires, and uses words to test her principles.
Men and women outside of marriage like to joke without boundaries, and if they speak ambiguously, they are already deviant.
04, and women outside of marriage, there are no physical boundaries
A reader named Zhao Ying confided in me:
She said she once had coffee with a friend and saw her husband with a woman. He held an umbrella in one hand and the woman next to him in the other, and the expression on his face was very natural.
When he arrived at the door, the husband took the umbrella and helped the woman fix her hair. Brushed the raindrops off her body and scratched her nose affectionately.
Seeing this scene, Zhao Ying's heart was like being beaten with a stick, and she was completely speechless.
She rushed up to her husband to confront him and see what he could explain.
Unexpectedly, my husband was ashamed to say that he was just helping this customer hold an umbrella and did nothing wrong.
Instead, he accused Zhao Ying of not being able to get off the stage in front of the public, and completely ignoring his face, which was simply a shrew.
Zhao Ying no longer believed anything he said and began to pay attention to his actions, eventually finding evidence of his transgression in his phone.
If a man has no boundaries in physical contact with a woman outside of marriage, and always unconsciously behaves inappropriately, it proves that his heart has long been unable to hold back.
Physical contact between people of the opposite sex always makes people think about it.
Men and women outside of marriage have no physical boundaries when they get along, which is equivalent to having no bottom line.
He had long since left his fidelity to his marriage behind and allowed lust to occupy all his sanity.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
It's easy to betray a marriage, as long as you indulge your heart a little, you will break through the boundaries of marriage and be caught in the whirlpool of marriage.
However, when people are controlled by their own desires, they have to suffer the consequences of indulgence.
If you cross the line in your marriage, you may have to face the dissolution of your marriage and the broken relationship.
On the road of life, we must know how to protect our marriage with our hearts, maintain our original intentions, work hard to manage each other's feelings, and grasp our own happiness.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.