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Today's topic for you:
Why is my mother never happy, and she easily takes away the happiness of the whole family?
Some of the real experiences shared by netizens below may give us some inspiration and insights
Some people are like that, you tell him I'm a little bad this time, and he'll say that's terrible, why are you so stupid. You tell him that you are doing well this time, and he will "encourage" you that you can be better. You'll never hear a word of pure you're awesome. Say don't be afraid to try boldly, if you make a slight mistake, call everyone to see your mistake and hahahaha.
You have to be careful of the bad people in this world, they are all holding back their efforts to teach you to learn well, and then they will make the bad ......
I once went to my mom's office to print something. That morning, she lost her temper and said that there are many things at home, and there are many things in the unit, and she has to go down to the grassroots level today, and you little rabbit cub is not worrying about death or something, saying that there is no rest for a day, I thought she would not be there, but when she pushed the door open, she was actually very leisurely and half lying on the chair alone, and I had a feeling of being deceived [tears]
Many people subconsciously think that pleasure is wrong, that it is based on the suffering of others, that happiness is lazy. Growing up, I heard gossip about who was at home all day long - that usually means that the person is lazy and gluttonous and does nothing. Therefore, many people have to find something to work hard to prove that they are not "enjoying happiness"
If you spend most of your life suffering a bunch of meaningless suffering, then you will become a clown? I had to beautify the suffering
Really, my mother is usually quite cheerful and an old lady, and she is 100% happy in her later years. Once I talked nonsense and said, look at you, you are good enough, blessed enough. She asked rhetorically, "Can I get by?" "My eyes were red.
is even poorer, so poor that he can't eat enough, once he is happy, even if he is spiritually happy, for example, spending a few hours watching a play may delay the agricultural time. The consumption is too great to afford.
That's a good explanation, it's true, everyone wants to stay in their comfort zone.
Misfortune to those who think that happiness begets disaster -> Woe to those who give happiness for the purpose of teaching or education -> Happiness begets calamity
Your mother is throwing the pot. Normal adults have the capacity to judge what is normal and what is harmful to others.
You're completely assimilated, that's why you use her perspective and approve of her ways. In fact, your mother is the one who has a problem and doesn't solve it, and goes to squeeze the unpleasant person. If you have difficulties, you don't say it directly, but you make others unhappy, so that you can be angry. This way of doing things is common in narcissistic personalities, where they are very purposeful and crave the approval and praise of others. So their behavior pattern is that they are very motivated in their own life circle and even rush to do something brilliant. But if you don't get the expected praise and attention, you will feel aggrieved or even humiliated.
Yes, my mother is like this, she is almost seventy years old, she is not happy all day long, nothing goes her way, she always sees the bad side of things, sometimes it is obviously a good thing, she just finds the bad side to complain, she is really depressed at home for a week during the New Year, the three of us sisters are enlightening her, now life is good, the children work and live well, she is still not going well [covering her face], she can't change it, that's her life, we strive to live our own life, not affected by her
My mom too, when I was a child, my brothers and sisters were very happy and cheered when the Chinese New Year came, and as a result, my mom could beat me to the bottom with a single word. Just when we were watching others set off fireworks happily, she said, people are rich so happy, our family is poor
Yes, being a father is invisible, as if there is no responsibility, but anyone with social experience understands: who benefits, who should fight.
It's not that mothers are unwilling or worried, it's that many family members don't have a sense of sharing, and moms occasionally go out, and they are urged by a bunch of phone calls, not to mention half a day a week [smile]
Because she is happy when she sees you unhappy...... Simply put, the dopamine receptors are reversed
Now many women are facing this situation. It's no longer "endure humiliation", but directly put it bad, such as me, when my husband wants to escape responsibility, I can put it worse than him, maybe because I still have a baby and a baby almost all of my own responsibility, I have experienced too many desperate moments, only to find that I have a comfortable life, far more important than anyone else who thinks you are doing right, as long as you abandon the so-called face in your heart, be a selfish person, no one wants to "press" me to do things that make me unhappy.
Thinking too much about this kind of mom will complain all the way about how to spend so much money, a ruined thing, and then this crime can be repeated for a long time, don't do it
Prove that you haven't met such a mom. My mother has a pension, and I pay my mother back every month, find my aunt to do housework, and give her the rent of the old house. Still depressed, take her out to play, the weather is too cold, the weather is too hot, the food is not appetizing, motion sickness, too sun, the attractions are not interesting, sometimes I am not happy to find a toilet and walk two more steps. There's no way I'll give you a smile.
The most terrible thing about a family is not poverty, but having a person who often creates internal friction and constantly creates contradictions and quarrels. Living in such a family, everyone's nerves are very tense, for fear that making a small mistake will lead to a family war.
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