My name is Lin Fang, I am 39 years old, and I am a middle manager of a large enterprise. I was born into a traditional family, and my parents were hardworking and simple workers. Since I was a child, I have been instilled with the idea that girls should be independent and self-reliant, and that they should not rely on others. So, I've been studying hard and working hard in the hope that one day I'll get ahead.
On my life path, I have always been an excellent student and an excellent employee, but I am not an excellent social person. Because I'm still single, it's an incomprehensible thing in the eyes of others. Whenever someone asks me about my love life, I always smile faintly and say, "I'm waiting for the right person." ”
However, as I got older, I started to feel anxious. I knew I couldn't wait any longer. So, I accepted my family's advice and started a blind date.
My first blind date was a man named Wang Ming. He was two years older than me and was a middle manager in a company. We met at a café and he was well-dressed and spoke elegantly, giving me a good first impression.
However, as the conversation deepened, I found that the gap between us was getting bigger and bigger. He always talks about his work, his accomplishments, and I'm not interested in that. I tried to change the subject and talk about something in my life, but he seemed a little impatient.
I was a little disappointed, but decided to give him another chance. On a second date, he took me to a fancy restaurant. I thought he would do better this time, but it turned out to be a big disappointment for me.
He ordered a table of food, but he only cared about eating it himself, completely oblivious to my feelings. As he ate, he gushed about his work and accomplishments. I tried to interrupt him and talk to him about something else, but he ignored him.
I felt immensely embarrassed and angry. I stood up and said to him, "Wang Ming, I don't think we're suitable. You're a good man, but I don't need someone who only cares about myself. With that, I turned and left the restaurant.
Since then, I have developed a fear of blind dates. I feel like I can no longer find someone who really understands me and cares about me. Until I met him - Li Qiang.
Li Qiang is an ordinary programmer, two years younger than me. We met at a gathering of friends. He doesn't look good, he doesn't talk much, but I think he has a special charm.
We began to keep in touch frequently, and I found that although he was not good at words, he was a careful and considerate person. He knows what I like to eat, what movies I like to watch, and always surprises me inadvertently.
We started dating and I found him to be a very interesting person. He took me to places I had never been before and allowed me to experience things that I had never experienced before. I started to like him slowly.
However, I didn't tell my family. I know, they won't accept an ordinary programmer. They want me to find a good man, a man who can give me a good life.
So, when my family arranged for me to go on a blind date again, I didn't refuse. I thought maybe I could meet someone better.
My second blind date was a man named Chen Wei. He was the general manager of a company and was five years older than me. He looks mature and steady, giving him a sense of reliability.
We met at a restaurant and he behaved very gentlemanly. He ordered a table of dishes, but he kept serving me dishes and asking me about my tastes with concern. I felt a little flattered, but I didn't forget the lesson I learned last time.
I tried to talk to him about things in life, but he always shifted the conversation to his work. I started to get disappointed that I didn't feel like we had a common language between us.
Just as I was about to end this date, he suddenly said to me, "Lin Fang, I know you may think that we are not a good fit. But I think we're all adults, so we should be realistic. I need a woman who can help me manage the housework, and you need a man who can give you a stable life. We can try, and maybe we can find a common language. ”
I was stunned, I didn't know what to say. I suddenly realized that I didn't need a man who could give me a stable life, I needed someone who could understand me and care about me.
I stood up and said to him, "Chen Wei, thank you for your sincerity. But I don't think we're the right fit. I need someone who understands me and cares about me, and you're not that person. ”
With that, I turned around and left the restaurant. I knew I might never find someone to keep my family happy again. But I'd rather be single than compromised.
I went home and told my family that I had decided to be single. They were very shocked and asked me why. I said, "Because I need someone who understands me and cares about me, not just someone who can give me a stable life." ”
Since then, I haven't gone on a blind date. I decided to go with the flow and wait for the right person to show up. I know that I may never find a perfect person again, but I believe that as long as we understand and care for each other, we can live happily ever after.
This story teaches us that love is not a transaction, but a feeling. We should not be compromised by external pressure, but should stick to our principles and wait for the person who really understands us and cares about us. As long as we persevere, we will surely find true happiness.