Practical summary of 10,000 compound cases on the Internet: What will be the performance of the ex who has truly loved you? What behaviors indicate that he has let you go?
Recently, a lot of people have urged me to publish an issue: about the content of the ex's compound performance, let's talk about it today, maybe you have also read a lot of tutorials on the Internet.
Many bloggers will tell you, which performances represent that your ex still loves you, which performances represent that your ex has given up on you, and what is the probability of you getting back together? Would you like to be honest about this? Let's be honest: it's all on paper.
In a sense, there will indeed be some behavior that the ex hints at being able to get back together.
But there is no standard answer to these behaviors, and what can effectively give you advice is that you test the performance you observed, and then use the feedback to advance the relationship.
Here I have summarized a few more conventional reference standards for you, see how many of them you have won?
Again, if your situation is more special, or you can't observe the details of your ex, or you can't infer his mental activity from his performance, then you should spend five minutes backstage talking to me.
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Manifestation 1: Remain silent
A powerful indicator of whether your ex is letting go is whether she will still talk to you.
If you break up, but she still talks to you every day, that's a good sign, even if she talks to you harshly every day, it's better than being silent.
If months have passed and she hasn't heard anything and doesn't want to know how you're doing, there's no way you know when you'll hear from her.
If she's been behaving like this all along, then congratulations, she's let go now and you're relieved.
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Performance 2: New love for more than six months
The person who doesn't talk to you and doesn't reply to your messages can think that he is not interested in you at the moment, but what about the ex who is still chatting with you if there is a new love?
What does this mean? Bounce back relationship.
If you don't understand this term, you can search for it, nearly half of the people in the new love relationship are in the rebound relationship, assuming that your ex has a new love, she can't get what she wants from you.
Entering a new relationship with anticipation because she believes that the new love will better meet her needs, but after the relationship, she quickly realizes that the new relationship is not satisfactory and starts to miss the days with you, at which point she will start to "bounce back".
But I have to remind everyone that this rebound relationship generally only happens within six months of the breakup, and once the rebound period is exceeded, he will put you down.
At this time, if you want to get back together with your ex, it's not a reunion, but a new relationship with your ex.
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Performance 3: Chat will be quarrelsome
We are all attracted to people and things that make us feel good and avoid those that make us feel bad. Seeking advantage and avoiding harm is one of the most common human natures.
What if you get impatient and lose your temper every time you speak?
This will create a bad feeling, and the ex will associate this bad feeling with you, and the result is to hide away from you, in this case, the ex will only quickly clear the past after the breakup.
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Manifestation 4: Lack of feeling for memories
What would you think if you saw that your ex's circle of friends still had photos of the past?
The general idea should be: think that the other person is still in love with you, you will feel more at ease, after all, you still have a group photo, right?
In fact, if the ex deleted the group photo just after they broke up, it was actually a good thing, indicating that her emotions were relatively high. I often tell people who want to redeem that the most fearful thing about redemption is that there is no emotion, and having emotions proves that the other party has been emotionally invested.
If you see that she still has a group photo in her circle of friends, so you think that she can't let go like you, and she has been rejected when she gets back together with him, or even if he officially announces his new relationship without deleting the group photo, you may be very angry and question him.
His answer to you is: I forgot that there is still a group photo, or "It's okay, I don't care anyway, and it doesn't affect me much whether I delete it or not." ”
This shows that he is indifferent to the shared memories of the past, so when you are moved by some memories, don't put your ex in the bag.
You can use the "old love indicator" to gather feedback, and if she doesn't feel the memories anymore, then don't be sentimental.
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Performance 5: Completely delete the block
Under normal circumstances, a breakup will not lead to a complete deletion of the block, and it will generally come to this point when it causes secondary damage when it is recovered.
In this case, there is no way to reach her or get any response. Not only that, but she's also completely blocking you in her sphere of influence, which makes the situation even worse.
The sphere of influence here refers to the trusted people around her, including family, co-workers, people she admires, and even siblings and girlfriends.
So if she has completely deleted and blocked you, then you should stop harassing her family and friends, otherwise you will only cause her extreme discomfort and vigilance.
But this situation can also show one thing, his negative emotions towards you are super big, if you still want to turn over and get back together, you need a complete set of operating procedures.
Specifically, you can review the relevant content I posted before, but remember, act carefully, you will have to say goodbye to him if you are not careful.
Here I would like to share some more thoughts about feelings, if there really is a standard answer to feelings, then there will not be so many people who are full of doubts about feelings.
I once encountered a case of completely deleting a block,
But fortunately, he didn't continue to make mistakes and didn't harass the girl's family and friends.
He began to realize his own problems, so he began to improve himself, whether it was emotional management, or realistic conditions, or the ability to empathize with girls, all of which were comprehensively improved.
Three months after the breakup, he still hasn't let go of his ex-girlfriend, and at this time the window appeared, the two met by chance at a mutual friend, and the girl found that he hadn't seen each other for a few months, and he changed a lot and became confident and humorous.
And he also took advantage of the situation to add back his contact information, changed his previous emotional approach, let the girl experience a different feeling, and finally hugged the beauty.
I want to tell you that there is no fixed standard answer to feelings, and people will change, so don't copy other people's models.
It's okay to copy the answer, but you should pay attention to the review and collect feedback, the relationship between the sexes is an interaction that comes and goes, not unilateral kneeling and licking and speculation, how can there be any real letting go in the relationship, it's just that the accumulation of enough disappointment!