After seeing the advice of a mother to her daughter, I found that a wise mother can really make her children's lives much smoother:
Dear daughter, you are about to enter a new stage of your life and start a new family with your beloved.
As a mother, I am full of joy to watch you grow up and find your own happiness.
Before you leave home, Mom wants to give you a few words of advice that she hopes will help you in your married life.
Daughter, don't treat your mother-in-law as your own mother
When you marry into your mother-in-law's family, you may naturally think of your mother-in-law as another mother, but your mother wants to make it clear that your mother-in-law is not your biological mother after all.
You lack the inseparable blood relationship between your biological mother and daughter, and this unique bond allows the biological mother and daughter to show their true emotions without reservation, because they know each other that no matter how emotional fluctuations, mothers will always tolerate and understand their daughters.
But you need to be more careful when dealing with your mother-in-law. A mother-in-law is an elder who has her own life experiences, values, and habits.
Therefore, you can't be as casual and headstrong as you are in front of your biological mother. Learn to be respectful and polite, don't touch her bottom line easily, and avoid showing your personality and emotions too much in front of her.
At the same time, be clear about your roles and relationships. Your mother-in-law is not your biological mother, and she will not be as unconditionally tolerant of all your actions and thoughts as your mother is.
You need to maintain a certain degree of independence and autonomy, don't rely too much on her care, and don't expect her to care for you like a mother. In front of your mother-in-law, it is very important to maintain proper distance and independence.
The "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" needs to be carefully managed
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very complex and sensitive part of married life. This relationship is not a simple "mother-daughter" relationship, but a special relationship that requires the joint efforts of both parties to maintain. When it comes to managing the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you have to pay more patience and wisdom.
First of all, learn to empathize.
Since your mother-in-law and you have different life experiences, educational backgrounds and values, it is inevitable that there will be some conflicts and frictions in the process of getting along.
When there is a disagreement between you, try to put yourself in her shoes and understand her concerns and expectations. This will help you better cope with and deal with conflicts with your mother-in-law.
Second, maintain an appropriate sense of distance.
While mother-in-law and daughter-in-law need to care for each other, excessive intimacy can be uncomfortable for both parties.
Maintaining a certain amount of privacy will help you better maintain your lifestyle and personality.
At the same time, learn to respect each other's privacy and personal space, and not interfere too much in each other's lives.
In daily communication with your mother-in-law, learn to listen and express.
Listen to her thoughts and opinions, give her enough respect and attention.
When expressing your opinions, you should try to be objective and rational, and avoid emotional words and actions. Through effective communication, you can better understand each other's needs and expectations, which can lead to fewer misunderstandings and conflicts.
In addition, when dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can take the initiative to seek common ground and interests with your mother-in-law, and try to establish a common language and understanding.
This will help you better integrate into each other's lives and strengthen your relationship. At the same time, we must also learn to make concessions on some non-principled issues in order to maintain family harmony and unity.
Finally, let your husband play an active role in it. He is the bridge and bond between you, and his attitude and behavior are crucial to the harmony of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Encourage him to mediate and communicate between you to help you better understand and accept each other.
Be grateful and cherish your mother-in-law's dedication
As an elder, although she is not a real mother, her mother-in-law will still lend a helping hand when you need help and provide support and care for your family and marriage.
Therefore, you must learn to be grateful and cherish her efforts, and recognize her efforts and kindness for your common happiness.
Also express your gratitude and appreciation to her at the appropriate time, and let her know that her efforts are recognized and respected by you.
Of course, be clear about the boundaries and responsibilities between you. Your mother-in-law is not your real mother, and she will not devote herself to the family responsibilities and obligations that you should have.
While enjoying her care and help, you also have to take on your own responsibilities and obligations as a family member. This will not only reduce her burden, but also allow her to enjoy her old age with more peace of mind.
Dear daughter, married life requires both partners to work together to maintain and manage. When dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must learn to empathize, maintain an appropriate sense of distance, communicate effectively, and be grateful and cherish the dedication of our mother-in-law. Only in this way can you create a harmonious and happy family atmosphere together.
Hopefully, these tips will help you and make you happier in your future married life. No matter what difficulties and challenges you encounter, you must believe in the power of love and family and move on firmly. Mom will always support you and bless you!
At the same time, I would also like to remind you that marriage is not just a matter for two people, but also a union of two families.
In your dealings with your mother-in-law, it is important to focus not only on your relationship but also on the harmony and balance of the family as a whole.
Respect and understanding are the foundation of a good relationship, whether with your mother-in-law or other family members, and treat them with kindness and tolerance.
Also, don't forget your husband's role in the process. He is the bridge between you and your mother-in-law, and his attitude and behavior have an important impact on your relationship.
Maintain good communication with him, face and solve possible problems together, so that your married life can be more stable and happy.
Finally, dear daughter, no matter where you go, no matter what difficulties you encounter, your mother will be your strongest backing.
I believe that you will be able to manage your married life with wisdom and love, and build a harmonious relationship with your mother-in-law.
I wish you a happy married life and spend every beautiful moment of your life hand in hand with your lover.