Text: Vinesh Editor: Jia Fangfang
Source: Marriage & Family Magazine
In "Sister 5", Miao Miao is eye-catching.
On the first stage, she danced the theme song "Velvet Flower" of "Fanghua" again.
Although she has given birth to 2 children, she still dances beautifully, has a graceful posture, and has difficult movements at her fingertips, and there are no traces of time on her face.
Some netizens commented: After watching Miao Miao's state, I finally believe that she is well nourished by marriage.
No, just a while ago, Zheng Kai sprinkled a handful of dog food on the show.
In the latest issue of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", when Huang Lan said that men who can't cook are not very popular in today's blind date market, Zheng Kai immediately answered, "Fortunately, I'm already married", with a happy smile written on his face.
#郑恺幸亏我和苗苗结婚了#喜提热搜.
When the two got married, many netizens sighed: The two are just a combination of a prodigal son and a good girl, and when the novelty is over, it will inevitably end in a breakup.
Miao Miao also said on the show that she married Zheng Kai completely out of the mentality of "breaking the jar and breaking it", and felt that she couldn't find the right person anyway, so she simply gave it a try without expectations.
After marriage, Miao Miao temporarily left the stage, gave birth to 2 babies in a row, and was a full-time mother for 4 years, and was ridiculed as a "brainless wife".
"Passive" and "weak" used to be the public's impression of Miao Miao, but in fact, Miao Miao is not only a more calm and determined party in marriage, but also more three-dimensional and powerful than everyone imagined in real life.
Their marriage is not as fragile as everyone imagined, but it healed Miao Miao's childhood wounds, and the more she passed, the happier she became.
01
"He Xiaoping" in a different world
When "Fanghua" was released that year, Miao Miao wrote a letter to He Xiaoping:
"It's a place of indifference, maybe for others it's a flower-filled grassland, a pasture in early spring; But for me and you, it's just a lifeless mess. ”
At that time, Miao Miao's background was still pessimistic.
Compared with the joy brought by becoming "Feng Girl", she feels more about the difficulty of withdrawing and releasing after entering the play too deeply.
In the letter, she said:
"For a long time afterward, I was still willing to be alone...... To be honest, I don't know what's wrong with me, maybe it's because you're gone, but Miao Miao hasn't come back yet. ”
The extreme similarity with He Xiaoping makes it difficult for Miao Miao to distinguish: which is the character and which is herself.
Miao Miao was born in Henan and was brought up by her grandfather since she was a child.
In her recollections, her parents were always so busy, so busy that the family couldn't sit down and have a good meal.
However, before the missing pieces of the puzzle could be put together, her parents sent her to Beijing to learn dance.
In this way, the immature Miao Miao started her journey to the north without relatives and friends.
Although she feels unfamiliar and frightened of the new environment, Miao Miao has never changed when it comes to dancing, and she has been fighting to the extreme for several years.
She once recalled: "Under the cross, the teacher sat on my ass every day, and (I) cried while practicing. ”
She admits that she is a very "axial" child. If you are considered by the teacher to have average talent, you will practice again and again until you become a "child standing in the center of the stage".
Because of the excellent performance, after the age of 13, as long as the school selects students to participate in the competition, there must be Miao Miao on the list.
It's just that the other side of excellence is not pride, but the cowardice and lack of confidence caused by the lack of family affection.
In addition to the regret of getting together less and leaving more with her parents, in Miao Miao's heart, there are always doubts that her parents deliberately "abandoned" her after her sister was born.
"It seems that if you give birth to another person who doesn't want me, you may have this feeling in your heart."
Because she thinks she is not loved, Miao Miao becomes more closed-minded, and she is misunderstood and doesn't know what to justify.
This is also the similar part between Miao Miao and He Xiaoping, at the same time, "I don't fit in, I can't fit in, and I'm very alienated from everyone."
02
The gloom before fame
Miao Miao originally planned to dance for the rest of her life.
During her years in Beijing, she put almost all her mind on dance. Not only was he successfully admitted to the Northern Dance, but he also got his wish after graduating from university and entered the General Political Song and Dance Troupe and became a dancer.
I thought she was getting closer and closer to her original dream, but an accidental injury in 2015 forced her to accept a cruel reality: her knees were highly worn and she was no longer suitable for high-intensity dancing in the future.
It was an extremely difficult time.
Seeing that Miao Miao was anxious and depressed, her best friend did not recommend her to become a dance teacher. Miao Miao's uneasy current situation, as well as the "axis" energy she had since she learned to dance, made her best friend vaguely believe that she would always find her own path.
Until one day, Miao Miao said that she wanted to transform into an actor. At this time, it was about 3 years before the crew of "Fanghua" found her.
Being protected by the school and the song and dance troupe for too long, Miao Miao felt the helplessness and bitterness of the real world for the first time.
She used the word "exhausted" to describe the experience. ran the group, auditioned, and was rejected every day, the most one, ran 3 crews a day, tried 8 scenes, and finally there was no news.
"It lasted about two years, and I would cry until four or five o'clock in the morning every day before I could fall asleep." She began to become disillusioned, unsure if she was fit for the job.
But the magic of fate lies in the fact that it will always quietly turn the corner when people fall into a dead end.
When she received the interview notice from "Fanghua", Miao Miao was still Xiao Qi in the crew of "The Legend of Chu Qiao". Although the role was small, it was not easy for her at that time.
On the day of the interview, Miao Miao put on her practice clothes as required and came to meet the director with her face facing the sky. After the two dances and a song "On the Golden Mountain of Beijing" ended, she was left behind.
After standing out from the 1,000 candidates, Miao Miao did not leave much joy for herself, she continued to retain the "axis" energy when practicing dance, and did not want to relax at all.
The crew of "Fanghua" once released a special video of "Pingshui Meeting". There is a story in it that Miao Miao is filming a difficult dance in Shangri-La.
While inhaling oxygen, she rehearsed this dance scene repeatedly, and finally, the filming was completed beautifully.
Feng Xiaogang saw all this in his eyes. He once asked Miao Miao: "Do you know why you were chosen?" After a long groan, he said, "Tell you when it's finished." ”
Feng Xiaogang would not have thought that Miao Miao, who seemed to be quiet, had already gone back and silently pondered this sentence countless times.
03
The inevitable fate of driving high and going low
In 2017, "Fanghua" was released and finally ended successfully with a box office of 1.423 billion.
Everyone celebrated, but only Miao Miao described herself as a "walking dead".
After leaving the crew, she nestled on the sofa at home day after day watching movies and TV series, like a withering plant. Sometimes, she recalls standing alone on the seventh floor of the hotel on the day of the finale, "really wanting to jump."
Later, Miao Miao forced herself to stuff the script of "Fanghua" into the bookcase and forced herself to withdraw from the role.
Although she still often misses the girl who seems to have grown up in her life. Because they are similar, they understand; Because I understand, I can't forget.
In the silent days, she was alone to dissipate the pain that was difficult to get out of "He Xiaoping", while hiding at home to paint oil paintings. Sometimes I paint for hours on end, and I don't even realize that time has passed.
She remembered the sentence Director Feng once asked, "Do you know why you were chosen". After the finale, Director Feng didn't tell her the answer.
But Miao Miao can probably guess that it is because she and He Xiaoping are almost dependent on each other. The pain under that scenery is only known to them.
After that, it was found that Miao Miao seemed to have "disappeared". Although there was a brief highlight moment, compared to the other two heroines, her popularity is obviously plummeting with the naked eye.
The media used "high open and low go" to describe Miao Miao. Some people attribute it to her ignorance of the world and her inability to do things.
And just when people were lamenting, Miao Miao stepped into a new stage of life.
04
Welcome new possibilities for happiness with marriage
In May 2020, Miao Miao and Zheng Kai officially announced their marriage.
The first acquaintance was at the Zhejiang Satellite TV New Year's Eve party in 2018, and the two sang together on stage. The tacit and successful cooperation laid the groundwork for further contact between the two.
It's just that although the love scandals have come one after another, the viewers would never have thought that the two got married after knowing each other for less than two years and gave birth to two children in a row.
For a time, the whole network criticized Miao Miao's "love brain", giving up a good future, and running to get married.
But only Miao Miao knows that marriage is not a cage for her, but the beginning of a close connection with happiness.
After marriage, Zheng Kai, who seemed unreliable, put away his playfulness and really took on the responsibility of a husband.
When recording "Wife's Romantic Trip", it was just in time for Miao Miao's recovery period of 3 months after giving birth, Zheng Kai was worried that this amount of exercise was too big for her, so she took the initiative to carry his wife to climb the mountain, and did not shout tired during the whole process.
Later, when the program team arrived at the prairie, everyone else was eating, but he noticed that the wind was a little strong for the first time, and he was worried that Miao Miao would be blown a headache, so he hurriedly took an umbrella to block the wind for her, and deliberately changed positions with her.
Everyone did the handicraft together, and everyone else finished it, leaving Miao Miao alone and not finishing, and the mood was not very beautiful. After Zheng Kai noticed it, he immediately sent a warm comfort: "It's okay, do it slowly, I'll accompany you." ”
I have to say that Zheng Kai's love for his wife can be said to be integrated into every detail of his life.
In the show, other guests expressed their envy. Zheng Jun even commented on the couple, he said: "Miao Miao is pretending to be confused, so she is wise and pretending to be confused; Zheng Kai just wanted to show his cleverness, but he was wisely held up. ”
After a little observation, you will find that in getting along with Zheng Kai, Miao Miao's dependence and weakness are just the appearance, and more often, she plays the role of "overcoming rigidity with softness".
is also in "Wife's Romantic Trip", although Miao Miao also complained about her husband with her wives, saying that marrying Zheng Kai was "breaking the jar and breaking it", she would quickly add: "I didn't expect it to be so reliable, and it can be regarded as a collision." ”
In a few words, it not only enlivened the atmosphere, but also gave Zheng Kai enough affirmation.
Zheng Kai once shared Miao Miao's "remote control theory" in the variety show "Brilliant Forward".
Once, he was in a hurry because he couldn't find the remote control, but Miao Miao waved his hand and said that he didn't need to look for it, and it would come out by itself in a few days. Zheng Kai was skeptical, but it turned out to be true.
Miao Miao used this incident to hint to Zheng Kai that some contradictions do not need to be resolved now, let time resolve them.
He commented on his wife: Miao Miao looked simple, like a blank piece of paper, but after marriage, she found that she was full of content.
Indeed, Miao Miao's way of loving is as gentle and natural as water.
Zheng Kai was stuck in the throat by a fish bone, and she solved it for him with a few gadgets at home;
She never asked Zheng Kai what time he would go home or what he had to do, but she would pull him to play Baduanjin together, grow vegetables together, and play games with the baby.
This is why it is said that marriage is a new possibility for Miao Miao to be happy.
Her water-like inclusiveness and fluidity may not be a weapon to gain fame and fortune in the entertainment industry, but in ordinary life, she can moisturize things silently.
05
To be loved, and at the same time to love yourself again
In addition to regaining happiness, this marriage also greatly made up for Miao Miao's regret that she was not loved and seen, and made up for the sense of security she lacked since she was a child.
What moved Miao Miao the most at the beginning was Zheng Kai's sentence: "It doesn't matter if the world doesn't like you, you still have me." ”
Miao Miao recalled that when she heard this, tears fell like rain in an instant.
Maybe it's because it's not only Miao Miao who hears this sentence as an adult, but also Miao Miao in her childhood and adolescence who doesn't want to believe that she is worthy of love no matter what.
Even though the sensitive and fragile little girl still did not disappear, Miao Miao also found that she seemed to be much more relieved and happier than before.
The love, attention, companionship, and care that she didn't get as a child have all been found back at this moment.
At the same time, it is precisely because of the scarcity that I will cherish the current family life more.
People will find that she does put Zheng Kai first in everything, and when asked about Zheng Kai's shortcomings in the show, she will answer "no" without hesitation; will also smile instantly when he hears the sound of Zheng Kai opening the door when he goes home.
When her husband is around, she gives enough emotional value; When her husband is away, she can also plunge into her own little world and indulge in hobbies.
In Zheng Kai's eyes, his wife "has a wide range of interests": she can paint, do pottery, love sports, grow vegetables, and can also repair the lawn and take care of the garden by herself......
In Miao Miao's vlog, in the ordinary daily records, her freedom, truth and vividness are everywhere.
It is not difficult to understand why Miao Miao will be so free and shine on the stage of "Sister 5".
Because the girl who can shine in the center of the stage is the most real side of Miao Miao.
Such a relaxed and comfortable state has already answered for her "Is marriage a happiness or a mistake".
Bless Miao Miao. I hope that in the days to come, she will still be able to walk freely on her own tracks.
As she once wrote on Weibo: "People are always lonely sometimes, I hope you can learn to enjoy it, and that kind of mood is like He Xiaoping's solo dance on the lawn, and the aftertaste is very beautiful." ”
Resources:
"Do Not Disturb If You Are Honest"
Miao Miao's personal Weibo
The sixth season of the variety show "Wife's Romantic Trip".
Variety show "Brilliant Forward"
Miao Miao's "Talking Heart Club" interview
"Fanghua" "Pingshui Meeting" special video
Sohu.com: "Feng Girl" Miao Miao: After Fanghua, it is no longer a blank piece of paper