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Marriage, the complication lies in the fact that it is not two people who are united by love, but that people from both families have to be involved, and anyone has to say a few words, which disturbs the peace of the young couple.
If none of us can get rid of the influence of the original family, we must do everything as soon as possible before marriage, so as not to have chicken feathers after marriage.
Smart people know that before marriage, they plan for themselves and ask each other for three things, and it is not simple to have this kind of wisdom and foresight, which is more effective than how much bride price is tangled in, and it is very accurate.
01: You need to know the other family's educational philosophy for their children
Through the other family's educational philosophy for their children, we can see what kind of influence the other family's children grow up under and what kind of values and outlook on life they will have.
If the other party's family education is mercenary, even if the children do not do things according to the wishes of the parents, the young couple will inevitably listen to the nagging and persecution of the other party's parents after marriage, and even cause conflicts and disputes.
Moreover, after the birth of the next generation, the in-laws have begun to educate their grandchildren, and it is inevitable that they will be affected by it.
This is not only related to the lives of two young couples, but even affects our lives and family atmosphere.
Children who grow up under a healthy educational concept are usually independent, confident, kind, and generous, and when they are united with their lovers, their future marital status will be stable and harmonious, and there will be few trivial disturbances, which is why it is important to explore the attitude of the in-laws.
We all want our children to have a happy marriage, and if both parties can reach a consensus at the parental level, the happiness of the two young couples will be reduced by many obstacles.
02: To know the exact view of the other family's view of marriage
In today's society, women are no longer attached to the home, and men are no longer a family.
Men and women are combined and get along on the principle of equality, and there is no distinction between superior and inferior.
However, many elderly people are influenced by traditional concepts, and still advocate "male dominance, female dominance", forcing women in marriage to give up their careers and return to their families.
If there is a disagreement between the parents of the two parties on this matter, it will lead to quarrels and conflicts between the young couple after marriage, so that they will be bound by the ideas of their elders, and even cause a crisis in their relationship.
Moreover, the in-laws have this idea, and the son of Bao Buqi will also have this idea, but he didn't show it before marriage.
You must know how many men show their lazy and macho side after marriage, which makes their wives feel like two people.
What's more, not only does the wife need to have a reasonable income, but she is also required to be able to take on most of the housework, so that women feel that their quality of life and pleasure in marriage have plummeted.
This suffocating marriage will make everyone want to run away, enough to make a woman despair of marriage.
Parents don't want their children to be left alone after their parents leave, so they must do a good job of investigation before they get married.
03: You need to know the specific plans of the other family's future for the future
Family planning involves all aspects of a person, such as how the career is going, where the family settles, how parents and children are settled, and so on.
However, many people just think that marriage is one of the steps in life, and getting married is equivalent to helping, and then thinking about career, is a wise move.
In fact, this kind of thinking is very dangerous in today's society.
Many people don't know why, thinking that the in-laws are making the children emotionally important, but in fact, they just want to find a stepping stone.
Just like many parents ask their children to start a family first and then start a business, they often consider a marriage partner much higher than their own family, and will never nod their heads for relatively poor families.
If one parent is moved by only seeing the other person's sweet words, it will be a huge disaster for their own children.
Of course, parents who are too stubborn are not easy to get along with.
They will demand that their children live exactly according to the established trajectory, and even if the young couple has other plans, they will do their best to convince them, even order them, or morally kidnap.
Such in-laws, on the surface, are anxious to get married, but in fact, they regard marriage as an added value in life, because they simply feel that no one is worthy of their children.
Becoming in-laws with such a family, the best result is to get along and disperse, and the worst is that the family is in despair.
Before becoming an in-law, you should not only see the child's character clearly, but also understand the character of the child's parents.
This is the practice of villains first, then gentlemen, and it is the only way to ensure that their children are protected from the pain of marriage.
In fact, when it comes to the marriage of their children, there is very little that parents can do, but everyone does their best to pave the way for their children, for fear that they will have a hard time in the future.
Like the other party's parents, they want to know more about each other and give their children more protection.
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