Preamble:
With the continuous development of society, people's ideas are also quietly changing, especially in the concept of marriage, the traditional "life-long" concept of marriage is gradually fading, and people are more inclined to pursue their own true feelings.
As they grow older, many people begin to reflect on their married life, perhaps once thinking that the closest person is their wife, but as time goes by, they find that the closest person may be their children, friends, or even other family members.
Recently, a report about the dearest person in old age has resonated with many people, let's take a look at what makes people in old age find out that the closest person is not a wife.
1. The closest person in old age may be relatives rather than spouses
1. Children are more able to care and accompany
In many people's impressions, life in old age should be spent hand in hand with their spouses, but in real life, there are many people who are not like this, and even feel lonely and helpless in their later years with their spouses.
In fact, the closest person in old age may be children rather than spouses, because children know how to care for and accompany them, and give them more spiritual support and encouragement, which is also what many people will have in their later years.
2. Marriage is not just about taking care of each other
In the real society, many people's original intention of marriage is not to take care of each other, but for material conditions or other purposes, which is also the reason for the lack of real emotions between couples in later years, as they grow older, they will slowly realize that marriage is not what they imagined, but they need real understanding and support from both parties, and when they find that they can't get such emotions, they will begin to reflect on their married life.
3. Cherish friendships and friendships more
In later years, people may cherish friendship and friendship more, because they slowly find that friends are more able to understand and support themselves than their relatives, even if it is a trivial matter, friends will listen and help them with their hearts, such emotions may not get the same experience in their married life, so they will have such a feeling.
Second, there is a lack of real affection between husband and wife
1. Aunt He feels that she and her wife have become strangers
In real life, there are indeed many such examples, such as how aunt, she only found out after her wife retired that the lifestyle between the two is so different, and it can even be said that it is completely opposite, which makes her feel that she and her wife have become strangers, and the two people who originally thought they could enjoy their old age together are now estranged and contradictory because of such reasons.
2. Ms. Hao is just a woman who inherits the lineage
For Ms. Hao, she found out in her later years that in the eyes of her wife, she was just a woman who passed on the family lineage, not the real wife in his mind, which made her feel very lost and helpless, and also made her begin to reflect on her married life.
3. Uncle Yang hopes to leave this world as soon as possible
There is also an Uncle Yang, he found out in his later years that his wife's attitude towards him was so cold, and he even had such thoughts, hoping that he could leave this world earlier, which was undoubtedly a huge blow and hurt to him, and also made him begin to re-examine his married life, what kind of problems had arisen.
Epilogue:
In fact, in old age, we should look at marriage and family affection more rationally, perhaps the closest person is not necessarily the wife, but children, friends, and even other family members.
I hope that every couple can feel real emotion and companionship in marriage, instead of estrangement and contradiction due to some unnecessary reasons, so that they can truly enjoy a happy life in their later years.