In the words handed down by our ancestors, there is a saying that is good: "If you don't do it, you don't do it, you don't do it, and you don't want to be a matchmaker for three generations." This sentence seems simple, but it contains a profound truth, like an ancient proverb of life wisdom, today let's talk about the meaning of it.
First, let's take a look at the "don't do" part. In traditional Chinese society, "zhongren" refers to a person who mediates disputes and mediates the relationship between the parties, such as acting as a witness or guarantor in a purchase and sale transaction. This proverb tells us that by avoiding getting involved in other people's disputes and contradictions, and staying neutral, we can avoid unnecessary troubles. As the ancients said, "Wise people protect themselves from danger and avoid suspicion", which means that wise people will choose to avoid situations that may bring danger. A person who is a middle-of-the-road person may fall into a whirlpool of right and wrong because of too much involvement, affecting the peace of himself and his family.
Next, "no guarantee" further emphasizes this point. A guarantor is usually a person who provides security for the debtor in a loan or contract, and the guarantor is jointly and severally liable if the debtor defaults. It's like standing on the edge of a stormy ship, which can be swept up in unknown risks at any time. The ancients Li Yu once said: "Light promises must be trusted, and we must be cautious from the beginning to the end", reminding us to be cautious about our commitments, especially when it comes to our own interests.
As for "not being a matchmaker for three generations", it is from the perspective of the family, the matchmaker is the role of matchmaking between men and women, and if you frequently participate in other people's marriages, it may bring unnecessary pressure and expectations to your own next generation. This is just like Mr. Zhu Ziqing said: "Life is like a play, it all depends on acting skills", but sometimes, the best acting skills are not acting. Harmony between the three generations often benefits from clear boundaries between family members and the fact that they do not easily get involved in the private affairs of others.
In general, this proverb teaches us that we must know how to keep our distance and avoid excessive involvement in the affairs of others, so as to protect the peace of ourselves and our families, and make life more peaceful and harmonious. This is not only the wisdom of the individual, but also the wisdom of the continuation of the family. When we understand and follow such principles, we can not only earn the respect of others, but also create a more relaxed and pleasant living environment for ourselves and our families.
The experience of the older generation is always so precious, so we might as well recall these words from time to time and let them be a compass in our lives. Remember, sometimes, the best option is not to choose, to keep a low profile, and to enjoy your little world. This proverb is like an old ballad, simple but full of meaning, worthy of being passed down from generation to generation.
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