Story Title: "Know How to Respect"
My name is Wang Yu, an ordinary man living in the hustle and bustle of the city. My family is not wealthy, but it is also a well-off family. His father was an ordinary worker, and his mother was a hard-working housewife. I was the only child in my family, and I was pampered by my parents from a young age, but it also cultivated my paranoid personality because of this.
After I graduated from university, I went to work for a large company. While I was busy with work, I also started to try to find my other half in heterosexual relationships. However, I am not a good communicator and always put my own ideas first.
One of the top 10 stupidities: self-righteousness. I always think that my ideas are the most correct and I am not willing to listen to other people's advice.
I remember one time, I asked a girl out for dinner. Her name is Zhang Yu and she is an intern in my unit. I thought she was beautiful, so I offered to ask her out. During the meal, I kept talking about work and didn't pay much attention to how she felt.
"Wang Yu, do you really only care about work?" Zhang Yu asked me with a frown.
"Of course, work is my focus." I replied without hesitation.
She was silent for a moment, and then said, "Maybe you should pay more attention to the people around you, and don't always put your own affairs first." ”
I didn't pay much attention to her words at the time, and I felt that my lifestyle was the right one.
Two of the top 10 fools: lack of communication. I always felt like I was able to solve problems on my own, rather than sharing my problems with others.
Once, I had some trouble at work and felt irritable. I didn't tell Zhang Yu, but I endured all this silently alone.
"Wang Yu, what's wrong with you? Something doesn't look right. Zhang Yu asked me with concern.
"It's fine, it's just that I have some problems at work." I replied perfunctorily.
She looked at me and sighed softly, as if she understood something.
Part 3 of the 10 Stupidities: Controlling. I always try to control everything, including my love life.
My relationship with Zhang Yu didn't progress, and I started to feel a little anxious. I tried to control her in various ways in the hope of getting her to behave according to my expectations.
"Wang Yu, I don't think we should be very suitable for each other." Zhang Yu said to me.
"Why? I think we're a good fit. "I tried to convince her.
"You always try to control me, and I can't stand it." She said firmly.
I felt a little angry and disappointed, but I didn't realize that it was my actions that caused all this.
4 of the 10 Stupid Behaviors: Disrespecting the other person. I always ignore other people's feelings and only pursue my own interests.
After my relationship with Zhang Yu ended, I began to reflect on my actions. I realized that I had indeed made a lot of mistakes, did not respect Zhang Yu's feelings, and did not give her enough space.
"Wang Yu, you should reflect on yourself." My friend said to me.
I nodded and began to re-examine my lifestyle.
Five of the top 10 stupid behaviors: not knowing how to listen. I always like to speak for myself rather than listen to other people's opinions.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I rarely listened to her ideas, and always thought that my own ideas were the most correct.
"Wang Yu, why don't you always listen to me?" Zhang Yu asked me a little angrily.
"I think my idea is more reasonable." I replied disapprovingly.
She sighed, seemingly disappointed in my stubbornness.
Six of the top 10 stupid behaviors: poor emotional control. I always couldn't control my emotions and often showed an unstable side in my life.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I often lost my temper over small things, which made her feel very hurt.
"Wang Yu, why are you always so irritable?" Zhang Yu asked me.
"I don't know, maybe it's because of too much work pressure." I tried to make excuses for my actions.
She looked at me with disappointment and helplessness in her eyes.
Seven of the top 10 stupid behaviors: Unwilling to change. I always felt like I was living the right way and was reluctant to make any changes.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I didn't try to change my behavior, but continued to do the same thing.
"Wang Yu, why are you unwilling to change your behavior?" Zhang Yu asked me.
"I don't think I'm wrong." I replied stubbornly.
She shook her head helplessly, as if disappointed by my attitude.
Eight of the top 10 stupidities: overconfidence. I always felt like I could do anything and overestimated my abilities.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I always thought that I could solve all my problems, and I was reluctant to ask others for help.
"Wang Yu, why don't you want to confide in me?" Zhang Yu asked me.
"I feel like I'm able to solve problems on my own." I replied confidently.
She sighed, as if frustrated by my stubbornness.
Nine of the top 10 stupid behaviors: not knowing how to be considerate. I always focus on my own feelings and ignore the feelings of others.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I rarely considered her feelings and always only looked out for my own interests.
"Wang Yu, why are you always so selfish?" Zhang Yu asked me angrily.
"I don't think I'm selfish." I replied disapprovingly.
She looked at me with disappointment and helplessness in her eyes.
10 of the 10 Fools: Lack of responsibility. I've always been reluctant to take responsibility for myself and put it on to others.
In my relationship with Zhang Yu, I was often reluctant to accept my own mistakes, but instead shifted the blame to her.
"Wang Yu, why are you always so irresponsible?" Zhang Yu asked me.
"I don't feel irresponsible." I replied disapprovingly.
She sighed, as if frustrated by my attitude.
Finale:
Through my relationship with Zhang Yu, I gradually realized many of my problems. I started to try to change myself, learn to respect others, listen to others, learn to control my emotions, and pay more attention to other people's feelings. Eventually, my relationship with Zhang Yu improved, and our communication became smoother. I learned to respect others and to be more mature about my life.