When I first set foot in the ocean of marriage, my heart was full of longing and anticipation for the future. However, as time went on, I discovered that this ocean was not as calm and beautiful as I imagined, but full of unknown waves and challenges.
I met my partner when I was young in school, and he was like a warm sunshine at that time, always bringing me endless comfort and support. But after we walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand, I gradually realized his deep concern and responsibility for his original family. His filial piety to his mother and his love for his sister have become almost the focus of his life.
In the process of preparing for the wedding, we had a dispute over the wedding room and the bride price. The bride price given by the in-laws is meager, and the wedding room is even more out of reach. Eventually, it was my parents who couldn't bear to see me regret and decided to use their savings to buy a wedding house for me. This heavy love makes me feel warm, and at the same time, it also makes me look forward to the future of my marriage.
However, life after marriage was not what I wanted. I found myself not only having to face the trivialities and pressures of life, but also enduring endless demands from my husband's family. Most of his salary is used to support his family and meet his sister's needs, while I have to shoulder the main expenses of the family. This unfair treatment makes me feel exhausted.
I tried to communicate with my husband in the hope that he would understand my situation and feelings. But every time he mentions this issue, he always uses the excuse that "my family needs me" as an excuse to shirk responsibility. He insisted that as a son and brother, he should do his duty and obligation to help his family and sister. However, this one-sided effort and sacrifice made me feel stressed and helpless.
What I can't accept even more is that my sister-in-law has to move back to her parents' house after the divorce. This already made our family atmosphere extremely tense, but my husband asked me to make room for my sister-in-law without discussion. When I angrily asked him if he had considered my feelings and needs, he insisted on his position on the grounds that "my family is in trouble."
This altercation brought our relationship to a freezing point. I felt isolated and misunderstood, and I couldn't find any sense of belonging and worth in this family. I began to question whether the marriage could go on or if it was necessary to continue the relationship.
Eventually, I decided to have an in-depth conversation with my husband. I told him what I was thinking and feeling in the hope that he would understand my position and situation. After some frank communication, we gradually found a solution to the problem. We decided to work together to develop a family financial plan, rationalize the distribution of household expenses, and set up a common account to achieve financial fairness and transparency. At the same time, we also began to pay attention to each other's feelings and needs, and strive to create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.
Although the road to this marriage is full of ups and downs and challenges, as long as we understand and support each other, we will be able to overcome all difficulties and move towards a happy future.