On a quiet morning, the sun shines on every inch of the campus lakeside, and the surface of the lake is sparkling like a jewel set in the earth. In this beautiful place, Xiao Xunlong and his wife Lin Wan'er often come together to enjoy this rare tranquility and warmth.
Xiao Xunlong and Lin Wan'er are a loving couple, they met in college and spent their youthful campus time together. After graduation, the two successfully entered the palace of marriage. Lin Wan'er is a gentle and considerate wife, she takes care of Xiao Zhuolong wholeheartedly and takes care of all the trivial things in his life.
However, as time passed, Lin Wan'er's over-care of Xiao Xunlong gradually revealed some problems. She not only took care of all the housework, but also kept an eye on Xiao Xunlong's diet and daily life, and even interfered too much with his work. In Xiao Xunlong's eyes, Lin Wan'er's love had turned into a heavy burden, and he began to feel suffocated and powerless.
Early one morning, Xiao Xunlong and Lin Wan'er came to the lake again for a walk. Xiao Xunlong looked at Lin Wan'er's busy figure, and an inexplicable irritability surged in his heart. He stopped, looked at Lin Wan'er and said, "Wan'er, can you not be so tired?" I want to handle some things myself. ”
Lin Wan'er was stunned for a moment, and then showed a gentle smile: "Turbidity Dragon, I just hope you can live a better life." I know I'm a little bit overwhelmed, but I really want to share it for you. ”
Xiao Xunlong sighed, he understood Lin Wan'er's hard work, but he also knew that going on like this was not a long-term solution. He began to think about the possible consequences of his wife being too nice to her husband.
First of all, over-care can make the husband feel constrained. Under Lin Wan'er's care, Xiao Xunlong felt like a child in bondage, losing the ability to think and act independently. He began to develop a dependence on Lin Wan'er, which made him feel uneasy and anxious.
Secondly, excessive care of the wife towards her husband can destroy the equal relationship between the husband and wife. In the family, husbands and wives should treat each other with respect and equality. However, Lin Wan'er's over-care made Xiao Xunlong feel that he was in a vulnerable position, and he felt that he could not talk and communicate with Lin Wan'er on an equal footing. This unequal relationship gradually erodes the foundation of their feelings.
Third, over-caregiving can deprive the husband of the opportunity to grow. Under the protection of Lin Wan'er, Xiao Xunlong rarely faces the difficulties and challenges of life. He lacks the ability to solve problems independently, which makes him seem inadequate in the face of life's stresses. He realized that he needed to learn to face life independently, instead of relying on Lin Wan'er all the time.
Fourth, excessive care of the wife towards the husband can lead to the husband's laziness and irresponsibility. Under Lin Wan'er's care, Xiao Xunlong gradually became lazy and lacked a sense of responsibility. He no longer cares about family affairs and his wife's feelings, but pushes everything to Lin Wan'er. This lazy and irresponsible behavior made Lin Wan'er feel tired and disappointed.
Finally, over-caregiving can leave the husband feeling stressed and anxious. Under Lin Wan'er's expectations, Xiao Xunlong felt that he had to become better and more successful in order to meet her demands. This pressure made him feel anxious and uneasy, and even began to doubt his own worth and abilities.
Xiao Xunlong told Lin Wan'er these thoughts. He told her that he needed space and time to grow independently, and hoped that she could give him more trust and support. After hearing this, Lin Wan'er pondered for a moment, then nodded lightly: "Turbidity Dragon, you're right, I should give you more space and time to grow. ”
From that day on, Lin Wan'er began to try to let go and let Xiao Xunlong handle some housework and work matters by herself. She no longer interferes too much in his decisions, but gives him more trust and support. Slowly, Xiao Xunlong gradually became independent and confident, and he began to enjoy the sense of accomplishment that this freedom and challenge brings.
After a period of adjustment and adaptation, the relationship between their husband and wife became more harmonious and harmonious. They respect each other, treat each other as equals, and face the challenges and difficulties of life together. Lin Wan'er understands that appropriate care and trust are important bonds to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, and Xiao Xunlong has also learned to cherish and appreciate his wife's dedication.
On the lakeside in the early morning, Xiao Xunlong and Lin Wan'er walked hand in hand, enjoying the tranquility and warmth. They know that if they understand and support each other, they can go through every stage of life together. This story teaches us that proper care and trust are important cornerstones of a relationship, while over-care can have unwanted consequences. Let us learn to cherish and appreciate the efforts of those around us, and at the same time give ourselves and each other enough space and time to grow and progress.