A Kochi family should be full of laughter and infinite hope, but on a bright Sunday, a mother strangled her 12-year-old son, which is shocking! We all know that it is difficult to be a parent, especially the education and cultivation of an only child, and it is a great responsibility.
But no matter what kind of difficulties and challenges you encounter, you must never do anything to your child! This tragedy reminds all parents that they must learn to control their emotions and treat their children with reason and love.
On May 6, 2012, police in Wucheng, Jinhua, Zhejiang Province, received a heart-wrenching report of a 12-year-old boy who had been strangled to death in bed by his mother. And what is even more surprising is that this mother turned out to be a teacher at Zhejiang Normal University! A scholar couple should have used their knowledge and wisdom to give their children a happy and perfect family environment, but the reality is so cruel.
According to the investigation, at around 9 a.m. on the day of the incident, Jiang urged his son to get up for breakfast, but his son was reluctant to get up. She was so angry that she choked her son's neck. In the past, when her son was lying in bed, she would also pinch her son's neck, but she didn't expect that this time, because she was angry, she used too much force for a while, and she actually strangled her son to death.
You know, what parents need most is patience, love and responsibility. Educating children is a long process, and it cannot be expected to be achieved overnight, let alone in a violent and hurtful way.
Henry Hall, a well-known American expert on children's education, once said: "Children are God's most precious gift to us, and they are the hope of the future." We need to care for them with respect, understanding and love. "
As a Kochi family, Jiang and her husband are both university teachers, and they should be the most qualified to give their children the best education and care. However, it seems that the requirements for children who are too strict and do not empathize with their children's thoughts and feelings eventually lead to irreparable tragedy.
Each of us has a temper to a greater or lesser extent, especially in the face of disobedience in children, it is easy to lose control of emotions. But we must know that beating and scolding will only keep children away from us, and understanding, encouragement and guidance can win children's trust and growth. As the educationalist Sukhomlinsky said: "The art of education is not to impart knowledge, but to inspire, awaken, inspire." "
After the incident, Jiang and her husband were taken back to the police station by the police for investigation. It is reported that Jiang may face a sentence of 3-5 years in prison. However, the loss of a child has left a wound in this family that can never be erased.
We can learn a lot from this case. Parents must learn to look at problems from the perspective of their children, and when children are still young and ignorant, they need our guidance and patience. Harvard University has done a 75-year study that tracked the growth of 724 children, and found that the parenting style is the key factor that determines the future development of children.
In daily life, we often see many parents getting angry, beating and scolding their children, and often disappointed in their children. But in fact, every word and deed of the child is asking for help and telling the parents.
As parents, we must learn to listen, learn to respect, learn to encourage, let there be less criticism, let more praise. Lindgren, a well-known expert in children's education, said: "Love and encouragement can make a child's heart bloom like a flower." "
This tragedy reminds us that no matter how good parents are, they must continue to learn the methods of family education, learn to empathize, and learn to care for their children's growth with love. At the same time, you should also learn to control your emotions, and when you feel angry and out of control, you may wish to take a deep breath, drink saliva, or even go out for a walk, and wait for it to calm down before communicating with your child.
I believe that the arrival of every child is a gift from God. They need our love and guidance, and they need a home full of warmth. Let us work together to care for children with love and educate children with wisdom, so that every child can thrive in love and bloom the most beautiful flower of life.
Therefore, parents and friends, you must remember that no matter how busy and tired you are, don't forget to give your child a hug and a word of encouragement, because a smile of yours can light up your child's whole world. Let's work together to build a harmonious family and warm the world with love. If this heart does not move, who else will it be?