This tragedy, caused by the purchase of a house and the high bride price demand, is a wake-up call for each of us. It not only reflects the problem of high-priced bride price in some regions at present, but also reflects the distortion of certain concepts in society at a deeper level, as well as some cognitive biases of people on marriage and family. The impact of this event on society and every family is very far-reaching.
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The root cause of the phenomenon of high-priced bride price cannot be attributed entirely to individuals or parents, and high-priced bride price is a social problem intertwined with many factors. The imbalance in the level of economic development in some areas, the failure to eradicate bad habits such as preference for sons over women, and the continuous comparison of marriage expenses are all triggers. However, in the final analysis, it is caused by rampant materialism and people's increasingly distorted values of marriage and family.
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Marriage is supposed to be based on mutual understanding and sincere love, but nowadays many people simply equate it with a transaction of buying and selling, and regard material conditions such as real estate and bride price as the primary or even only consideration. Some parents think that giving their daughter a dowry is all the dowry for her, and hope that the man will unconditionally meet all his requirements, otherwise it will be disrespectful to his daughter. This is actually a departure from the essence of marriage.
The damage to the family is undoubtedly enormous, and everyone who longs for a happy marriage should be vigilant. The high price of the bride price often means a heavy financial burden and inevitably puts pressure on both families. What's more, if there is an estrangement between the two parties after marriage, it may affect the relationship and even break down.
Married life requires mutual understanding and support from both parties, and high consideration in cash and material things will only bring the hidden danger of family disharmony. Money can't buy sincere love, nor can it buy a long-term marriage. On the contrary, if both parties recognize and appreciate each other's moral character, and have a common philosophy and pursuit of married life, it is more conducive to building a happy family.
The high price of bride price also has many negative effects, such as exacerbating gender inequality, vulgarizing and monetizing marriage relations, and promoting the involution of marriage and childbearing. In the long run, if this phenomenon intensifies, it will damage the ethics and morality of the entire society and the marriage and family system.
What should be a reasonable bride price? We should not completely deny the meaning and value of the bride price because of choking. The bride price originates from traditional Chinese culture, which means beauty and has the blessing of the newlywed Yan'er. However, with the changes of the times, the scale of the bride price should keep pace with the times, should not be extorted too high, and the economic strength and voluntariness of both parties should be respected.
The amount of the bride price can be reasonably determined according to the economic situation of both families, the level of regional consumption and other factors. But in any case, it should not be too high to put pressure on the life of either family, otherwise it will go against the original intention of the bride price. At the same time, both parties should conduct friendly negotiations in good faith, understanding and respect, and must not be blindly passive or coerced, let alone simply equate the bride price with a sale.
People really need to regain the correct understanding of marriage and family. Marriage is not a transaction, but two people who have a heart-to-heart relationship and spend a lifetime together; Home is not a commodity, but a welcoming haven. Money is important, but married life is far more than just money, but more about two people's understanding and tolerance for each other, mutual love and support. Sincere love and commitment are the greatest fragrance.
Only by reversing the irrational concept of marriage and treating marriage and family with a standardized and rational attitude can our society be truly happy and contented, and can individuals and families develop healthily. Otherwise, a tragedy like this one, albeit extreme, but caused by a distorted concept, may be repeated somewhere in the future.
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We must respect every life and take care of the harbor of happiness. Looking forward to the newlyweds celebrating all over the world, they can enter the marriage hall on the basis of true love; It is expected that every parent can use wisdom to assist their children, instead of blindly asking; I also hope that our whole society can achieve the original source in the cognition of marriage and family, so that happiness and harmony will become the norm.