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Parents will eventually leave us.
Parents are here, there is still a place to come in life, parents go, life is only the way back!
When parents grow old, siblings become a person's last thought of the former "home":
The truth that is unwilling to admit brothers and sisters from the bottom of my heart is the transition of relatives to relatives will always be like a long thorn, piercing into the skin and into the bone marrow, which is unbearable!
However, if you don't want to admit it, you have to admit that brothers and sisters are just halfway "family", not lifelong "relatives".
Therefore, in real life, we see the phenomenon that people in the relationship between brothers and sisters are different from each other!
In the relationship between brothers and sisters with different relatives near and far, we see too many brothers and sisters who have become "enemies" for the following reasons:
1: People who have been extorted excessively and kidnapped by morality have started a powerful counterattack of self-protection;
2: People who are favored or neglected by their parents open up a distorted psychological state, taking everything unreasonable for granted;
3: Comparison, jealousy, I hope you are good, but you must not cover my light;
4: The division of family property and the support and feeding of parents in their later years highlight the ugliest side of human nature.
When the parents are still alive, the majestic coercion of the children to complain and pretend to be a ball of harmony, when the parents leave, the original contradictions and the acquired contradictions will make the harmony between siblings become a luxury!
Any kind of relationship, after the feud, can never go back to the past!
So, what can be done when brothers and sisters have a feud with each other?
When your parents are old and your siblings are at odds, remember to do 3 things:
1: Don't always "rehash the old thing"
Some people are really too ignorant!
So much so that in the face of the feud between brothers and sisters, I can't let go!
In order to alleviate his "uneasiness", he is accustomed to finding every opportunity to reason with his brothers and sisters, break black and white, and tell the past of enmity over and over again with relatives and friends who know each other, trying to find recognition from this process......
However, the result of revisiting the old story is nothing more than infinitely magnifying the feud itself, and there is no real benefit at all!
Breaking black and white with brothers and sisters is the foolishness of people at both ends of the relationship, each standing in his own position to prove his innocence.
Think about it, if brothers and sisters can really understand empathy and empathy, how can there be a past of enmity?
Talking about past feuds with relatives and friends who are known with brothers and sisters not only does not bring a positive solution to the incident itself, but also raises the level of enmity between brothers and sisters to a higher level because of "rumors"!
Fundamentally speaking, "revisiting old things" itself is a clear manifestation of a person's poor character and cultivation.
Whether you're a real wrongdoer or an unaware person, you just need to remember:
With a clear conscience, it's enough, there's no need to say anything at all!
2: Don't be nosy
In real life, there is such a group of people who obviously do not buy their own accounts and are not grateful for their contributions, but they continue to be "good people" after they have made enemies.
In this case, "being a good person" becomes a typical meddling!
If you are a good person and meddle, you will not be grateful if you are a good person, you will be nosy, and you will be defined as "pleasing yourself" on a natural basis.
Being a good person and meddling in affairs, but bringing a "negative impact" to brothers and sisters, will naturally be hated even more, and will be defined as "not having a good heart and collaborating with outsiders to do things that lack morality and conscience".
When there is a feud between brothers and sisters, pay attention to the snow in front of your door, and don't care about the frost on the tiles of your brothers and sisters!
The four words blood is thicker than water, many times it is just the best ideal expectation of people's halfway "relatives", rather than representing that every compatriot can deduce the family affection that blood is thicker than water!
Between brothers and sisters, if they can't really love each other from the heart, then being nosy can keep each other a last decent place!
3: Stop expecting siblings to help you, feel sorry for yourself, and empathize with yourself
Life is your own, no one will take the road of life for you, and no one will really solve the problems encountered on the road of life for you!
Life is full of joys and sorrows, never at different frequencies.
Instead of pinning your hopes on others, it is better to always find the focus of your life and pave the way for the rest of your life!
Especially after the enmity between brothers and sisters, there are still too many expectations, just looking for an opportunity to superimpose themselves on the stabbing!
In the face of human nature, your expectations for your brothers and sisters are often responded to by "relieving hatred" during the trough of your life!
People live for a lifetime, and the most rare sobriety is not to be their own enemies!
When you have expectations for the sibling relationship that has been feuded, you have already formed a bond with yourself and become your own enemy!
Because, you never know, protecting yourself and loving yourself starts with staying away from the wrong relationship!
Look down, look forward to less, how can someone who really loves you know that you care, look forward to it, and still oppose your enemy?
Finally, I want to say to those who have a feud with their brothers and sisters:
After making a feud, a smile and enmity that goes both ways is a rare luxury. If you can't do the two-way enmity, it's enough to live yourself!
Life is not easy, don't add blockage to yourself, it is a topic that will not stop in a lifetime!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, the right time and the right person can achieve positive results!
I am an author in the field of high-quality emotion, a professional counselor, and have provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
Topic discussion: Do you think there is still value in reconnecting with siblings after they have a feud? Let's talk about it in the comment section.