Have you ever noticed in a casual moment that the person who used to be with you is quietly leaving you?
When did you start to feel that the feelings that were once warm as spring are gradually becoming cold like winter?
There is a saying circulating on the Internet: "Start with a subtle change, start with a dinner you no longer spend together, start from the light in his eyes gradually fade out, start from no longer sharing daily chores...... These seemingly insignificant details are actually signals that the other party is about to leave you.
A person's departure is not achieved overnight, but after countless inner struggles and weighing the pros and cons.
They are beginning to realize that their lives might be easier without you.
This feeling may be difficult to accept, but it is the unforgiving truth of reality.
The emotions between people are like the cycle of the four seasons, sometimes they are full of flowers, and sometimes they are withered and yellow.
When a relationship comes to an end, those once beautiful memories seem to have turned into a cloud of smoke.
However, before a person decides to leave you, there are always some "signals" that remind you to be mentally prepared.
From selflessness to calculation
There is a good saying: "Love is like a scale, and both parties need to work together to maintain balance." ”
In the early stages of a relationship, we are always willing to give everything for each other, whether it is time, energy, or emotion.
We don't expect anything in return, we just want to have a good time with each other.
However, over time, when feelings begin to deteriorate, we will find ourselves starting to become calculating.
We began to calculate what each other was giving and taking, trying to find a sense of balance.
When the other person can't meet our expectations, we feel disappointed and dissatisfied.
When a person starts to think about gains and losses with you, it means that he no longer cherishes the relationship.
He is no longer willing to pay more for you and even begins to think about how to reduce his own losses.
This change is subtle, but it is enough to make you feel the indifference and detachment of the other person.
From intimacy to detachment
The two people who used to talk about everything have now become silent.
You are talking to each other less and less and even starting to avoid contact with each other.
This sense of detachment makes people feel uneasy and anxious because you don't know what the other person is really thinking.
When a person starts to distance themselves from you, it means that they are no longer willing to share their life and emotions with you.
He no longer cares about your joys and sorrows, nor does he care about your feelings and needs. The distance between you grows further and further until one day you lose contact completely.
This sense of alienation is gradually deepened, from the initial apathy to the eventual disappearance.
You will feel more and more alone and helpless because you have lost the person who was once with you.
From distressed to ruthless
The most beautiful part of love is the mutual distress emotion.
When the other person is hurt or sad, we feel distressed and are willing to do what we can to comfort and help the other person.
This heartache is the embodiment of love and the bond of emotion.
However, when love deteriorates, that heartache will gradually disappear.
We begin to become cold and ruthless, and no longer care about each other's feelings and needs. We may even deliberately hurt each other as a way to alleviate our own pain and resentment.
When a person starts to be cruel to you, it means that he no longer loves you.
He no longer values your dedication and love, and even begins to use your kindness and tolerance to hurt you. This kind of ruthlessness is terrible, because it will make you completely lose your trust and expectation of love.
In this world, no relationship can remain as good as it was forever.
When a relationship comes to an end, we have to learn to face and accept the reality calmly. Let's not be too attached and dwelling on the good memories of the past, but learn to let go and let go.
We must learn to cherish those who have accompanied us through the journey of life and thank them for the laughter and tears they have brought us.
Even if they choose to leave us in the end, we want to wish them happiness in the future.
At the same time, we must also learn to learn from the experience and lessons of failed relationships, and constantly improve our emotional intelligence and interpersonal relationship handling skills.
Only in this way can we walk more steadily and confidently on the road of future relationships.
In this uncertain world, we cannot predict the future and cannot control the choices of others.
But we can choose how to face the present and cherish the people in front of us.
Let's learn to let go of obsessions and entanglements, and embrace the future life with a more open and inclusive mind!