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As the saying goes, "Rely on others and get yourself into trouble; God help those who help themselves. ”
When we are young, we often crave to cling to the strong; After the years of precipitation, the true meaning is realized: the only thing that is ultimately reliable is self.
Everything given by others will eventually have to pay the price, and the happiness won by one's own hands is truly reassuring.
In the journey of life, self-help is better than others.
Only by going through the dark valley of life alone and bearing the relentless blows of fate with tenacity can our hearts be tempered stronger.
Wise women know that life's bills need to be signed for by themselves. In the second half, they did not bet on clinging to men, but focused on these three treasures:
This is not only the pursuit of wisdom, but also the in-depth excavation and realization of self-worth.
Healthy and energetic body
In his book The Wisdom of Life, Schopenhauer emphasized: "A healthy body constitutes the cornerstone of happiness." ”
For women, there is nothing more valuable in life than to have health and vitality.
There are many things that can be missing on the journey of life, but health must not be missing; I can bear all kinds of regrets, but I can't afford the invasion of disease.
When faced with wealth, status, and honor, without the support of health, all these auras will lose their luster and appear pale and powerless.
Because health is not only the cornerstone of life, but also the premise of a happy life and a solid guarantee for the pursuit of a high-quality life.
Zhang Yunhe, the partner of the famous linguist Zhou Youguang, has a legendary life.
At the age of 39, she was hit hard and diagnosed with heart disease, and doctors pessimistically predicted that she might not live beyond 50 years.
This is undoubtedly a hammer for her, who is middle-aged and immersed in happiness.
She was unreceptive to the news at first, but then remembered that her grandfather had also died of a heart attack, and realized that this might be the fate of the family. However, she refuses to give in to her fate and is determined to redeem herself.
She set a "three noes" philosophy for herself: "Don't blame yourself for the mistakes of others, don't hurt others with your own faults, and don't punish yourself for mistakes." At the same time, she started from two aspects: regulating emotions and enhancing physical fitness, and insisted on action.
Walking has become a daily routine, supplemented by a variety of exercises such as cycling, hiking and long-distance hiking, and her pursuit of health never stops.
Miraculously, she passed away at the age of 93 despite her doctor's predictions, and a heart attack did not take her life early, but witnessed the second half of her life becoming more and more exciting.
In her later years, she was not only active in the promotion of Kunqu opera and academic lectures, but also devoted herself to public welfare, and every day she spent with her husband and son was full of happiness and satisfaction.
Aristotle's proverb in the Conversations reminds us, "The value of health transcends strength and beauty." ”
Health is the strong backing of the spirit and the manifestation of vitality.
Life will inevitably encounter difficulties, feel tired and take a proper rest, overwhelmed and brave to pause, do not be yourself.
Remember, physical overdraft is the biggest loss, and only by staying healthy can we embrace more joy and happiness.
Peace of mind
The book "Amazing Woman" outlines the magnificent life trajectory of Audrey Hepburn.
Hepburn, a descendant of the Belgian aristocracy, has been obsessed with dancing since childhood, dreaming of becoming a bright star on the ballet stage.
However, a twist of fate struck her when she was ten years old. The smoke of World War II engulfed her childhood paradise, and she and her mother hid in an abandoned house, finding a gap in a desperate situation.
In a dark and cramped basement, mother and daughter live in fear and hunger day after day, feeding on grass roots and tulip bulbs. Even so, Hepburn never gave up, set up a dream stage for dance in a humble space, and insisted on dancing in adversity.
With extraordinary tenacity, she laughs at suffering, illuminates the bleak years with the dream of dance, and forges inner peace and tenacity.
After the war, when his ballet dream was shattered by reality and he was told that he would not be among the top dancers due to his age and size, Hepburn did not fall into despair and quickly turned around.
Under the guidance of her teacher, she stepped into the world of acting and finally became famous with "Roman Holiday".
On the set, she met Mel Ferrer, and the two quickly got married and entered the temple of marriage, which seemed to be a fairy tale come true.
However, this marriage was not the expected safe haven, and Hepburn's meekness and sacrifice were exchanged for the control and infidelity of the other party.
After emotional ups and downs, Hepburn's two marriages failed to be consummated, until the age of 53, she calmly ended her last relationship and chose the journey of self-redemption.
Since then, she has become an angel on earth, traveling all over the world, pouring her deep affection into those children in distress, and living out the splendor and depth of life.
As Dale Carnegie said in The Weakness of Human Nature, peace of mind comes from a change of mind, and embracing a natural peace of mind is a necessary lesson in life.
Fate is impermanent, everyone is the protagonist of its twists and turns of the script, in the face of the pressure and challenges of life, only with a peaceful heart to meet each other, can usher in the dawn of life.
The journey of life is a one-way ticket adventure, whether the scenery is bright or wind and rain, the inner calmness and calmness are the best companions to enjoy this trip.
Take care of yourself
In a popular discussion on Zhihu, the question was asked, "Should we love ourselves more or be more generous to others?" ”
A high-voted reply elaborated: "The journey of love begins with self, and those who do not understand self-love are easy to lose their course in the ocean of love." ”
As Bi Shumin said wisely in "May You Embrace the Warmth of the World II": "It is better to take the initiative to embrace yourself than to expect others to love you." ”
Loving oneself is the highest manifestation of female wisdom.
Back in 1927, Meng Xiaodong, who was in the prime of his cardamom years, married 33-year-old Mei Lanfang at the age of 18.
She thought that this was the destination of love, but unexpectedly, she was not officially accepted as "Mrs. Mei" by the Mei family.
The place where she lives is just an emotional haven that Mei Lanfang has built outside. Mei Lanfang occasionally visited once in half a month, and in the face of her retention, she also resolutely left. Meng Xiaodong neither set foot at the main gate of Meifu, nor did she get her husband's affectionate stop.
After awakening, she began to reflect on the true meaning of this marriage.
She gradually realized that it is far better to be kind to herself than to blindly cater to others, and only by loving herself with all her heart can she hold the sunshine of happiness that belongs to her.
So, she chose to lead the practice, returned to the world after her inner perfection, and publicly announced her break with Mei Lanfang through the press.
With unremitting efforts and self-improvement, she has climbed to the top of her career one after another.
Every time she stands on a new height, she does not stop, but sets off again, constantly looking for a higher level of technical improvement.
At the age of 31, she worshiped under Yu Shuyan's door, which once again brightened up her artistic career and made her reputation as the "Winter Emperor" resounding all over the world.
At the age of 43, she married Du Yuesheng, although she was not married to Ming Media, but she won the favor and respect of this influential figure.
Meng Xiaodong's life, although he has experienced the pain and twists and turns of marriage, has also witnessed the glory of personal struggle and dream persistence.
Her story reminds us that valuing oneself is a lifelong necessity.
Someone put it succinctly: "If you want to make love, make a living first; If you want to love others, you must first love yourself. ”
As a woman, never sacrifice yourself in the process of pleasing others. Whether before or after marriage, put yourself first in order to find the compass of happiness in the chaotic life.
Sanmao said: "Wise women should be fully responsible for their past and future." ”
Entering the second half of life, women should be more self-reliant and self-reliant, rather than relying on external support.
Temper the body, cultivate a peaceful mind, and cherish yourself day after day.
With a solid foundation based on the world, there is no lack of brilliant blooming energy, and the flower of life is still in full bloom despite the passage of time.
Touch "Follow", may you rely on your own strength to encounter the most beautiful scenery in life, and make the journey of life full and colorful.