I have read a very philosophical saying: "A shallow river should be crossed deeply." ”
It was originally a small fate, but if you grasp it, it will become a very deep fate.
The original meager strength, if used well, can also have four or two thousand pounds of wonderful.
Originally, by chance, if you take advantage of the trend, you can achieve a person's life.
Therefore, when we are at a low point, we should observe carefully, and the people who give you a little kindness are the ones who come to cross you, and don't dislike people for giving too little.
There are no unprovoked encounters, only inexplicable losses.
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The people in the book, Du Neng.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a person named Wang Yuyan, who was born in a poor family, and successively served as the right pick-up, the left secretary, and the bachelor of Hanlin, because he dared to speak out, he was degraded many times, and was demoted to Huangzhou in his later years, so he was called "Wang Huangzhou".
His method of becoming an official in the court is very simple, that is, to read more: "Harvest fireflies tirelessly, and forget tiredness at night." ”
He also took Bai Juyi as his idol and became one of the important figures in "Baiti" poetry.
Because of his outstanding literary talent, he was soon accepted as a disciple by Prime Minister Bi Shi'an.
One day, at the banquet, Bi Shi'an was stumped by a wine order: "Parrots can argue like the wind." ”
When he returned home, Bi Shi'an was still puzzled.
Wang Yuyan stood aside and said, "Although the spider is not as clever as the silkworm. ”
Life has ups and downs, but because Wang Yuyan is talented, he has always been safe.
Many years later, Su Shi passed by the Tiger Hill Temple, saw the portrait of Wang Yuyan, and said: "Therefore, the king of Hanlin was the first to be the world. ”
Coincidentally, when Su Shi admired Wang Yuyan, he was also degraded again and again because he dared to speak out, and the first time he was degraded, he went to Huangzhou.
Yes, when you study, who you admire and learn, then your destiny will have something in common with him. At least each other's spirits are similar. Reading is a conversation with the people in the book.
Since ancient times, books have been the ladder of human progress. This ladder was given by the person who wrote the book, and it was also given by the protagonist in the book.
When you are at a low point, maybe outsiders don't want to see you, but books will treat you well.
Books will not be poor and love rich, as long as you are willing, books are your nobles, always helping you.
As the writer Wang Anshi said: "Reading is not expensive, and reading is ten thousand times more profitable." Read ancient books in front of the window, and look for books under the lamp. The poor are rich because of books, and the rich are expensive because of books. ”
If you can't afford to buy a book, you can borrow a book, or go to a public place to read a book, it will give you infinite spiritual wealth.
Of course, if you read more, material wealth will also come quietly. But anyone who is good at reading can always be looked down upon, and there is a chance to test his fame.
If you read a book thinly, your life will become thick and solid.
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People who have the same experience, cross love.
Su Shi of the Northern Song Dynasty, when he was demoted to Huangzhou, the people who were once very close to him were scattered. For example, Shen Kuo.
When a person reaches a low point, no one wants to pull you, and he is afraid that you will ask him for help.
After all, people have a habit: respect Luo Yi first and then respect others.
When he arrived in Huangzhou, Su Shi was pleasantly surprised to find that there was a person named Chen Jichang, who was very friendly and often invited Su Shi to his home as a guest.
Chen Ji often talked with Su Shi, often in the middle of the night, still drinking and chatting. This also caused Chen Jichang's wife to be dissatisfied and knock pots and pans in the kitchen.
When you are at a low point, there are still people who are friends with you, not because you are handsome, but because the other party has a similar experience and can empathize with you.
Chen Jichang's father used to be Taichang Shaoqing and the waiter of the Ministry of Works. But in his generation, it declined, and he studied a lot, but he didn't get fame, so he simply "ruined his clothes, abandoned his cars and horses, and escaped to the mountains and forests".
Bacon said, "Compassion is the highest virtue of all morality." ”
Don't reject those who sympathize with you, who have been through similar experiences, so knowing your hardships can comfort your heart. If the other party comes out of the trough, it can also give you a lot of ways and experience to rise.
In life, if you want to lose weight, you won't succeed if you are with thin people, because people don't need to lose weight. You're going to be with fat people, and fat people who want to lose weight.
Two people who are plagued by obesity, encourage each other, supervise each other, and talk to each other about their feelings, and their dreams will soon come true.
If you fail in business, don't go around looking for people to complain. The people who can understand you are the ones who don't have a good business.
Of course, we should choose to associate with people who have entered the trough and are still positive, not people who lie still in the trough.
The combination of the weak and the weak does not necessarily have great achievements, but they can have spiritual strength and move each other.
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The one who hurts you, Watari.
Su Shi has been demoted many times because of the Wutai poetry case, but because of this, he loves literature more and is also keen on food, and has become a recognized gourmet.
Wang Anshi lived in seclusion in Jiangling because of the failure of the law change, and then worked hard to write, and also squeezed into the circle of "Eight Masters of the Tang and Song Dynasties".
Wang Yuyan has been degraded many times, and each time he has lived a more active life, and his poems are more hot and touching, so he has been objectively evaluated by Song Taizong: "Yu Yan's articles are unique in the world; However, the endowment is upright and cannot contain things. ”
The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said something very inspirational: "What does not kill you will make you stronger." ”
Too many people, afraid of hurt. Even in dodging the damage, escaping reality.
Too many people, after being hurt, immediately think of "a gentleman's revenge, ten years is not too late", put hatred first, and did not really think that people are suppressed and can bottom out.
Life is like a stream of water, when there is no reef, there is no improvement, and when you encounter a reef, there are waves and passion.
Whoever hurts you is forcing you to bounce back. Thinking about it this way, you will become more and more courageous, and look back and thank the person who hurt you, so that you can succeed in counterattacking.
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There is a couplet in the White Horse Temple in Luoyang: "Although the rain is wide, it does not moisten the grass without roots; Although the Dharma is extensive, it does not save people who have no fate. ”
But all the people you meet are destined people, if you don't cherish them, fate will be scattered.
But anyone who is worth a ride is a person who knows how to cross himself, if you are not inspirational, no one can help.
Don't waste all encounters, it is a force in your life, or press you, or lift you, or accompany you.
Read a good book and be full of energy.
When I meet a sympathy, I am full of warmth.
was suppressed once, and he was full of ambition.
People live all their lives, and going downhill is for the next uphill time, how can there be any absolute trough?
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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