#头条创作挑战赛#
Marriage is a legal and social agreement between adults, which represents a solemn commitment by both parties to choose to live together based on love, mutual understanding and respect. This union is not only about a deep emotional connection, but also about the transformation of social roles and the possible parenting of children, and is an important milestone in the life of the individual, as well as a fundamental unit of social structure and cultural inheritance. Marriage is recognized and protected by law, providing a stable environment for partners to face life's challenges together and share joys and sorrows. Not superstitious! The breakdown of a marriage is nothing more than 7 reasons, 8 mistakes, 9 signals, and 10 culprits!
"7 Reasons Why Marriages Break Up"
1. Can't talk together: that is, the two of them don't speculate, they either quarrel all the time, or no one pays attention to anyone, and after a long time, the heart is far away.
2. Different ideas: At first, you may think that small differences are quite fresh, but later you find that you have too many different views on big and small things, such as how to spend money and how to raise children, and slowly feel that you can't get together.
3. Distrust: Once there is deception, such as hiding private money or someone outside, trust is like a broken mirror, and there are cracks when it is repaired, and it is difficult to trust the other party as before.
4. Weakened relationship: It may be sweet at first, but slowly, when you are busy with work, can't take care of each other, or don't bother to manage your relationship, you feel less like a husband and wife, more like roommates.
5. Domestic violence: Hitting people or always swearing and insulting people is unbearable, and many people will choose to leave for the sake of safety and dignity.
6. Something is wrong with intimacy: Intimacy between husband and wife is like a lubricant, and if there is disharmony in this area, the knots in the heart will grow bigger and bigger.
7. If you have problems in your heart: For example, if you are in a bad mood and are stressed and don't know how to solve them, these problems will be brought to the home, and the other half will not be able to stand it, and you may end up scattering.
"8 Mistakes" of Marriage Breakdown
1. Neglect of communication: Failure to share feelings and avoid discussing problems, believing that avoiding conflict will keep the peace, only to accumulate problems.
2. Criticism more than praise: often find fault with the other person, ignore the other person's strengths and efforts, and over time, the other person will feel denied and lose confidence and motivation to love.
3. Lack of understanding and empathy: Ignoring the other person's feelings and needs, resulting in emotional estrangement.
4. Evading responsibility: When encountering problems, you always want to push them on the other party, and you are unwilling to admit your mistakes or take responsibility, which will exacerbate the conflict and reduce the chance of solving problems together.
5. Loss of personal boundaries: Losing oneself in marriage, being completely dependent on or controlling the other person, and lacking healthy personal space and independence, make such relationships difficult to last.
6. Disloyalty: Infidelity, whether physical or emotional, can wreak havoc on trust, and once it collapses, it is extremely difficult to rebuild.
7. Neglecting the harmony of sexual life: Sex is an important part of a couple's relationship, and long-term neglect or dissatisfaction can affect intimacy and satisfaction for both partners.
8. Refusal to change and grow: People are always changing, and if one or both partners refuse to adapt to the change and are unwilling to make adjustments and efforts for the relationship, the marriage will stagnate and may eventually disintegrate.
"9 Mistakes" of Marriage Breakdown
1. Never communicate: When I get home, I have my own business, and I have very few basic daily conversations, and I feel like I live with my roommates.
2. Always quarrelling: small things can also be quarreled, it feels like a little bit, and the atmosphere at home is so tense that people can't breathe.
3. You no longer care about the other person: You no longer care about the other person's joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and you can't afford to care about the other person's illness or sadness.
4. Avoid physical contact: Intimate gestures such as hugging and kissing are becoming less and less common, and even beginning to repel the other person's touch.
5. Sleeping in separate rooms or going out frequently: I'd rather sleep on the couch or come home late for various reasons than feel more alone in the same room
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6. Financial independence: Begin to quietly manage money separately, no longer negotiate big expenses, and even be indifferent to each other's financial situation.
7. Not including the other person when referring to the future: Always use "I" instead of "we" in the planning future tense, as if the other person is not in your future.
8. Find solace on the outside: Whether emotionally or physically, begin to rely on someone other than your partner for your needs.
9. Don't be afraid to think about divorce: Even start thinking seriously about the details of divorce, thinking that separation might be better than it is now.
The "10 main culprits" of marriage breakdown
1. Ignoring each other: It's like strangers living under the same roof, no longer willing to share their hearts, and slowly becoming more and more strange.
2. Always quarrelling: big and small things can quarrel, the house is full of smoke and miasma, and there are no peaceful days.
3. Infidelity: One party has someone else outside and betrays the trust of the other party, which is the most direct blow to the marriage.
4. Saying hurtful things: Bitter words, mocking and insulting each other, breaking hearts and leaving scars, feelings are worn out little by little.
5. Money issues: There are often disputes over money, such as who earns more and who spends more, or debts are overwhelming, and the pressure is high.
6. Bad relationship with family members: especially when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or the other party's family intervenes too much, the family often stages "splint gas".
7. Incompatible living habits: from how to squeeze toothpaste, to how big is the work and rest time, the difference is too big, and I am angry about small things every day.
8. Work and stress: Too busy at work to take care of the family, take it home when the pressure is high, and home is no longer a place to relax.
9. No sex: Physical intimacy is becoming less and less, as if becoming roommates, and there is no longer the spark between husband and wife.
10. There is no longer a feeling of love: The love that used to be has slowly faded, and there is no longer light in the eyes of the other person, and the heart feels empty.
Marriage is like a boat sailing on the ocean of life, and both parties need to work together to paddle the oars. Poor communication, differences in values, lack of trust, emotional estrangement, infidelity, neglect of the other party, frequent conflicts, financial problems, incompatible living habits, family tensions, and disharmony in sex life are all "culprits" that can cause the boat to run aground. We must be vigilant against these signals, take the initiative to communicate, grow together, and maintain loyalty and respect, so that the boat of love can move forward smoothly. Remember, marriage is a process of working together to create a warm haven in the face of wind and rain.
#头条创作挑战赛#