My husband is a typical rich second-generation entrepreneur, who lost money, and he didn't tell his parents, because he lost a lot because his brother started a successful business.
Before I got the license, because I opened an online store and used his business license, the payment could only be paid to the bank card of the legal person, which was the bank card of my husband (who was still my boyfriend at the time), and as a result, he transferred my money 25,000 yuan in order to fill his hole.
At that time, I was afraid of hurting his self-esteem, so I was embarrassed to ask him to get it, because as soon as the online store was opened, the funds were transferred away, and the online store was directly paralyzed.
On May 20, 2020, he got the certificate, and on November 17, 2020, he held a banquet, until a week before the banquet, he didn't think about taking me to buy three gold, because we wanted the groom to buy the three gold, his parents didn't know that he had no money, and he didn't know that he didn't buy it for me, my dad couldn't stand it, so he told his parents very euphemistically that he would be laughed at by others if he didn't wear a little gold when he got married, and his parents knew, so they transferred money to him and asked him to take me to buy, because the gold price was more than 400 at that time, and it kept rising, I was embarrassed to let him spend too much money when he lost money, and only bought three gold for 8,000 yuan, picking the thinnest necklace, the thinnest ring, and the thinnest bracelet.
His parents gave him 20,000 yuan for the woman's wedding dress, he stole 10,000 yuan himself, and gave me 10,000, I didn't know at the time, my parents were also very strange, how according to tradition, there should be 20,000, why only 10,000, I thought it was their custom, let me not worry too much, and this matter passed.
After marriage, because I have to go to work, and I have to cook, pay all kinds of utility bills, let him pay 1000 a month as food, he said, why don't I take out my bride price to spend, I haven't saved a little money for so many years of work before marriage? Although I can bear it, but refuse to let him PUA, you not only didn't save money, but also owed money!!
Before, I thought that he had taken tens of thousands of yuan from me to fill the hole before marriage, and now I shouldn't owe much, but I peeked at his mobile phone and found that he owed 70,000 yuan on his credit card, as well as online business loans, which are known to have owed more than 100,000 yuan, and there are many credit card loans that I haven't found, online loans, married in November 2020, and quarreled during the New Year, my in-laws only knew that he owed a lot of money, and paid him off, I don't know how much he repaid, and my in-laws didn't tell me...... Debt-free and light.
So I got pregnant in March 2021, and I asked him again to get living expenses during the period, but his answer was still no, the reason was that although his parents paid him back, they didn't give him more money, and he still had to start a business, so I couldn't give me living expenses, so I started to earn money to support my family and live a prenatal checkup, and my life was more uncomfortable than before I was pregnant, because he didn't pay a penny.
On November 30, 2021, my daughter was born, and the birth of the child did not cure me, because at the end of the year, I found out that my husband owed more than 100,000 yuan, and I went to tell my in-laws again, and my in-laws went to pay him back again. In 2022, I asked him to give me 2000 a month, because he needed to raise a child, but he didn't have any money, give a month, stop for a month, an average of 1000 yuan a month, and give me 1000 yuan a month, my mother-in-law knew that her son was incapable, so she spent money to hire an aunt to bring me a baby, and I went to start a business.
So for the whole year of 2022, it became, my husband was busy with his, I was busy with mine, he didn't care about anything after he paid 1000 living expenses, I was buying the child's food and clothing, and the baby was easy to get sick, 7 days after birth high jaundice hospitalization, 2 months neonatal pneumonia hospitalization, 7 months of febrile convulsions, 8 months of acute laryngitis, etc., anyway, in the winter of the second half of the year, 2 months, I had a month in the hospital, laborious to take care of the child, and the hospitalization expenses are still out of my pocket.
Chinese New Year in 2022, the good news is that my husband finally doesn't owe money, but he doesn't have money for me, and he promised that he can give me 5,000 living expenses a month in 2023, because I gave him 20,000 yuan to continue to do, he thinks he can do it, and in the first half of 2023, he does give me 5,000 a month as living expenses, I think I don't have to be so tired, so I am ready to have a second child, but the pregnancy test found that there are polycystic ovaries, and the road to infertility treatment has begun , In the first half of the year, he gave me 5,000 a month, which made me mistakenly think that he could do it, but he didn't give it to me in the second half of the year, so in the second half of 2023, I started to earn money by myself again, support my family, raise a baby, and treat infertility.
23 years is not good, so I came to 2024, because of polycystic ovaries, stimulation has not been conceived, the doctor began to suspect that I have intrauterine adhesions, so I began to do surgery again, during the operation, I found that I was severely adhesions, severe full score of 12 points, the doctor gave me full marks, because most of the intrauterine adhesions are caused by abortion, but I have no abortion, and there is no tuberculosis, the doctor can only suspect that it is my fetus caesarean section inflammation caused by severe adhesions, if it is just simple polycystic, it does not cost much, but severe adhesions, the cost is very expensive, and we can't do it locally, we can only go to Shanghai to do it, even if we do it, there is a high probability that we can't give birth.
When I asked him to marry again, he replied that it was not that he went to his parents to get the money, and was silent, even considering the feasibility. In the past three years of marriage, I have to not only support myself, but also have to raise my child, and I have to support him, and I am tired, so why do I want to get married?
I don't know if my marriage is unhappy, the current state is, my husband transfers me 5000 a month, this is unstable, it is very likely to be cut off for a few months, my mother-in-law spends 6000 a month to my mother to let her take care of my children, I open my own online store, sometimes I earn 10,000 or 20,000, sometimes the inventory is large, the money is pressed into the goods, my husband does not give much money, but he will change the child's diaper, feed the milk powder, and take the child out to play at night, and I am making money, surgery, raising a baby.
I have thought about divorce, but reason tells me that divorce will be worse, because our local mother will not give her daughter a child, that is, after my divorce, I have to take care of the baby by myself, go to work, child support in accordance with the law, and our local minimum wage standard, child support is 1000, and I don't have a house, my parents have a suite in the county town and a building to demolish, all of which are my brother's, not my share.