When two people live together, how can they not afford to quarrel? Especially after having children, the little trivial things in daily life can become the "fuse" for the husband and wife to quarrel!
I recently read a post. A netizen went out to live in a hotel because of a quarrel with her husband and threw her 11-month-old baby who needed to be fed at home.
She didn't know if she was right or wrong, but this move made netizens quarrel in the comment area.
➤ There are many netizens who support the poster and say that she is doing the right thing! As a woman, she is herself first, and then the mother of her children. Isn't it normal for you to go out for a walk when you're unhappy? You don't have to think about this and that internal friction of your own mind.
▽Why do you have to forcibly bind the mother and the child together, who stipulates that the child is to be brought by the mother? The rest of the family has no hands and feet to take care of the child? And the child of the post owner is eleven months, not a month! Such a big child, if the family can't even watch it for one night, then you can imagine what kind of "cow and horse" life the post owner usually lives at home!
➤But at the same time, there are many netizens who feel that the poster is irresponsible! The poster's child is eleven months old, but the child is still drinking the mother! The child who has been drinking the mother's ru will have diarrhea when he drinks milk powder, right? The poster is patronizing to vent his emotions, and he really doesn't think about the child at all!
▽ If the husband of the post owner and other people in the family usually belong to the shopkeeper, and the child's affairs are not helped at all, then the post owner is angry and leaves the house and suffers from the child!
➤ Although I don't know the specific situation of the poster's family, I am a little sympathetic to the poster in my heart, or to be more accurate, I sympathize with all mothers who work hard to bring up their children.
In the past period of time, I have seen many news stories of mothers with postpartum depression out of control, especially those who jumped off the building and walked away. It's really distressing.
I think responsible fathers (families) should know that they can't make their mothers angry during the feeding period, because women at that stage are still fragile and sensitive. And when the mother is angry, she will run out of milk, which will also affect the child.
If the owner of the post has already thought about and arranged for the child to eat, drink and Lazar, then there is really no need to criticize her for going out to live in a hotel in anger.
➤ I once asked my female friends who are married and have children: What do you think is the biggest change after becoming a mother?
Several people have told me that it is difficult to be myself after becoming a mother, and there is a feeling of being tied up by children and family.
When you don't have children, you can go out with friends from time to time, come to whatever beer barbecue you want, and play until the early hours of the morning without psychological burden.
But having a child is like having a follower, and the child follows wherever he goes. Mom goes out to party without ta, try it, and immediately give you a show to lie down on the spot and cry.
Even if I reluctantly say goodbye to my children and go out, I feel very free, but I am worried about my children all the time: are you crying, are you hungry, are you sleeping, are you not used to having a mother at home? It's hard to sit still, and you can't enjoy your rare leisure time at all.
▽Sometimes I can't bear to take the child (a child of a small month), but it is really inconvenient to go out with a child! The pressure of large bags and small bags is overwhelming, not to mention that children have to "hold their mothers" from time to time! This is really a feeling of distress and happiness!
The end result is that people go out, but they don't eat well, they don't play well, they don't talk well!
➤ Regarding the quarrel with her husband, one of the friends said that when she quarreled with her husband, she also had the idea of leaving the child to her husband and going out alone. But every time she saw the child when she wanted to leave, she would hold back, and then close the door to digest the negative emotions and control herself not to make any more noise in front of the child.
She smiled and said that it was nothing, no matter how angry she was with her husband, as long as the child smiled at her and called her mother, it seemed that it was all right.
➤ Overall: Being a mother and being yourself do have conflicts, but that's the case with the real life of ordinary people. Hopefully, we can all work hard to make ourselves stronger and stronger, so that we can confidently answer this question: I can have it all!