Ask a question, who is the baby in your family? grandparents, grandparents, or yourselves?
In our subconscious, grandparents should be the "main force" with a baby. However, China News Network once launched a survey called "Who takes the baby in the family", and the results of the survey surprised many netizens.
The results showed that 43.9% of the families were grandmothers with babies, 27.5% of the families were young and young, and the proportion of grandmothers with babies accounted for only 14.7%!
Obviously, grandpa and grandpa have become the main force with babies.
In response to this phenomenon, Youmi's mother asked several colleagues around her who had just given birth, and found that without exception, it was grandma who was helping to take care of the baby.
A colleague even said bluntly: If it weren't for my mother, I wouldn't dare to have children.
Another colleague said that his family conditions are average, and her husband's family is also an ordinary family, so she took her grandfather over after considering whether it was cost-effective to invite a confinement wife.
I have 5 meals a day in confinement, and except for my own mother, no one else wants to suffer from this. Mom makes all the food she loves, and she feels very happy.
Not only that, but when her colleague returned to work after maternity leave, her grandmother became her big rear. Not only to help take care of the family, but also to take care of the children.
A colleague said: Among the more than 20 mothers who gave birth to children in the same batch as her, more than half of them were grandmothers who were helping to take care of the baby.
My daughter hurts herself
I have read a joke on the Internet: If you look closely, you will find that the person who looks anxious in front of the delivery room and the red eyes must be the grandmother, and the grandmother who is happy and happy must be the grandmother.
As a person who has come over, grandma knows what it means to be a mother. Their children are in pain, and as mothers, they will try their best to do more in order to help their daughters reduce their burden.
Colleague Xiaoli told her own experience: her child is 4 years old this year, and she has always been taken by her grandparents and grandparents in turn.
Now that the child is older, it is better, when he goes out to eat when he is young, the bear child has to stick to his mother, and the difference between his mother and mother-in-law is especially obvious at this time.
When eating with her parents, her mother would rather be hungry than coax the child first to let her eat first.
But with my in-laws, although my mother-in-law said, "You eat first, don't worry about the children, I'll take it first", but every time they are full, they have the opportunity to eat.
Not only that, during the time when grandpa took the baby, when she came home from work, not only did she have her favorite dishes, but grandpa would try not to let the child disturb her rest. But when her grandparents are at home, taking care of the children after work becomes her own business.
Indeed, the mother's instinct will make the grandmothers pity their daughters even more, and it will also prompt them to give everything for their daughters.
Grandma is worried about the relationship between her daughter's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
As a person who has come over, Grandma knows that after her daughter becomes a mother, she not only needs to adapt to her new family role, but also has to face a complicated and trivial life, especially in the years when she becomes a novice mother, women will become extremely sensitive.
Although most mothers-in-law in today's society are reasonable, and they can also treat their daughters-in-law as their own, we must admit that there is no deep emotional bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, just because they love a man together, and they form a family.
Therefore, when two women with different living habits get together, it is very likely that a series of family disputes will be caused by different ways of interacting with each other and behavioral habits.
If you ask your grandmother to help take care of the child, she will not only do her best to take care of the child, but also pay special attention to the mother's physical condition, such as postpartum recovery and daily rest.
Even if there is an occasional argument between the mother and grandmother, the deep mother-daughter bond between them will quickly reconcile with each other.
Therefore, the grandmother and the baby actually reconciled the possible contradictions between the daughter and the mother-in-law, and won a buffer opportunity for the daughter to get along with the mother-in-law.
Sister Tang, a neighbor, once asked the elderly at home not to give candy to the child because of the child's tooth decay. However, their children love candy too much, and they will always pester the elderly to buy it.
Facing her own mother, Sister Tang can still turn her face and say a few words. But to her mother-in-law, she could only endure her temper and say it well.
However, even if she was depressed to the point of collapse, after her mother-in-law returned to her hometown, she still complained to the villagers: her daughter-in-law couldn't get used to the way she took care of her baby.
Since then, Sister Tang has not dared to ask her mother-in-law to come over to help take care of the baby.
Grandma loves the house and Wu
Grandma takes the child, in fact, not only because she feels sorry for her daughter, but also because she loves the child very much.
In 1980, researchers at New York University conducted a study of families who lost their children. They found that when a child had an accident, the saddest thing for the elders in the family was the grandmother, followed by the grandfather and grandmother.
This means that among the 4 elderly people in the family, the grandmother who loves the child the most is actually grandma.
From the perspective of loving children, grandma will also be more willing to help take care of the baby.
Conversely, the researchers also found that although grandmothers are also very loving to their children, they are more likely to scatter some of their energy on their sons.
Of course, in addition to the above reasons, there is also a very important point about the feelings of the daughter-in-law. It is not excluded that some young mothers and mothers-in-law do not match their aura.
Even if the mother-in-law has no big problems, but the two just can't live together, in this case, even if the grandparents want to take the baby, but the two sides will be uncomfortable together, and the old man has no choice but to give up.
So you see, sometimes it's not the grandparents who want to be the shopkeeper, most of the cases are forced by the situation.
Today's topic: Will you let your grandparents take the baby, or will your grandparents take the baby?