My mother has three sisters in the family, the second oldest in the family, and she also has an older brother.
In the words of their grandmother, who was once alive, the four children said, "The one she worries about the most is my mother." "
Because among her children, my mother has the lowest education, and she didn't graduate from the second grade.
The others all graduated from high school and all had serious pensionable jobs.
In the first year of her death, when her mind was still relatively clear, my grandmother once said to me: "I, as a daughter, must take good care of my mother and use my own ability to help my mother live a good life!"
At that time, my grandmother cried to me, saying that if my mother had some culture, she would not be so worried, and she might not be able to close her eyes when she died!"
Until now, my grandmother has been dead for 20 years, and if she knows about it, she will be very surprised.
My mom is now the happiest of all her children in her later years.
The three of us are independent, and we are all in charge of our own families, and the careers we are engaged in are all our own favorites, and they are quite promising.
She and my dad are in good health, living alone in a first-floor house of more than 100 square meters, with a small garden in front and back to meet their desire to grow vegetables.
Although my brother and brother and I don't stay in the same city as them, everyone has a surveillance camera app on their phones, and they take turns chatting with them when they are idle.
Although they can't see us often due to their busy schedules, they usually chat for a word or two from time to time to make them feel that we are there for him. They are not lonely spiritually.
The first half of a person's life is to live themselves, and the second half of their lives are to live children, and in this regard, my mother has too much advantage compared with my aunt and uncle.
They all have retirement salaries, but their children are not worried and are trying to spend their money, and although my parents do not have retirement salaries, they give 2000 to each of the three of us every month, which has been given for almost ten years.
The two of them usually pay attention to their physical health, and after being diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, and hyperlipidemia, the two of them can change their lifestyle habits for decades in a very short period of time.
Their original eating habit was to eat meat in the morning, noon and evening, and for them, the only vegetables were cucumbers, eggplants, cucumbers, potatoes.
After being diagnosed with the three highs, they began to eat bitter gourd, cucumber, persimmon, chicken, and fish, which my parents had previously disdained to eat.
They said that they would change it, and Dad had smoked for decades, and he also said that he would quit.
It is said that people who can quit smoking are ruthless, and I think that's exactly the case.
My parents often said, "The biggest enemy in this life is yourself!" So if you don't be cruel to yourself, you will definitely not be able to."
It is precisely because of this particularly strong self-discipline that parents who are almost 80 years old are still able to live independently and cook their own three meals a day.
The old couple is idle and has nothing to do, my brother and I have caught up, chatting with them in the surveillance camera, when they quarreled, we felt annoyed at first, and persuaded them on the camera, try to help them with a bowl of water, say this and say that.
But after a long time, we knew that the fight between them was purely idle and had nothing to do to grind their teeth, in my mother's words: "In fact, they are also exercising brain cells and the ability to speak, otherwise if they don't speak, people's heads will be rusty, and they don't know how to speak!"
"It's better to treat each other like this like this as an emotional trash can and vent to each other than to hold it in your heart. This is good for health. "
Let's put it this way, the reason why my mother is in a particularly good overall state now is because on the basis of her children's peace of mind, she is relatively healthy, and she has a relatively correct way to channel negative emotions, and she has money.
There are a few other points that should not be overlooked:
First, they have a special sense of boundaries
Whether it's a son or a daughter, if we have something to worry about, they never ask unless we take the initiative to say it. They believe that their children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and they do not make horses and cattle for their children and grandchildren.
The children have a family and a career, have their own way of life, and try to interfere as little as possible in anything, unless they encounter difficulties, they can help as much as possible, and if they can't help, they will let it be.
Second, they take a very light view of their relationship with other relatives and don't want to move around ineffectively.
There have only been two hospitalizations in recent years, one for two people and one for each person, and they both told us not to tell our old relatives and friends at home.
It's not that I'm afraid that they will toss and spend money, but I really don't think it's necessary.
They think that life is a long journey, and at the beginning, when everyone was still walking together, you were crowded with me.
But with the passage of time and the increase of age, more and more old relatives and young friends can no longer live a lively life in one place as they did at the beginning, but there are east, west, north, south and middle, and there is no great significance in connecting or not contacting.
Third, they don't show their wealth, the three of us sisters and brothers have given over the years, plus their savings in the early years, there are still a lot, but our three sisters never know the specific amount, and they don't tell us.
It's just that it's their pension money, and when they leave, we'll divide it evenly.
But in the years when the three of us were struggling, my parents didn't lose a penny of money.
We are also convinced: the money is nominally their pension reserve, but in fact it is our ultimate support. We children are full of gratitude to our parents.
It can be regarded as a peach and a li, our parents help us when we are in trouble, and we do not hesitate when they need us.
My parents were hospitalized several times, and our sisters and brothers took turns to take care of them, and they did their best in the hospital, serving feces and urine, without any dislike.
Compared with the uncle's cerebral infarction, the cousin and cousin fought in the hospital because of the problem of care; There is also my aunt's gallbladder cancer surgery, and I want to drink some black chicken soup and say that the healing is fast, but my cousin-in-law said: "In fact, it is just gluttony", my parents are also very satisfied with our performance.
They never came to be like my aunt, who went to my son's house and said that her daughter and son-in-law were not good, and that her son and daughter-in-law were not good, and that her son and daughter-in-law were not good, but her son and daughter did not like her.
To our respective partners, except for praise is praise, never say a word.
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It is precisely because of these that no matter which small family we have, we treat my parents like gods and Buddhas!
The sunset is infinitely good, and the sunset is different red!
Old age is the last stage of life, and happiness in old age is true happiness.
My mom and my dad did it!