Everyone wants to live a good life in their own home, but the reality is never like this. Poverty hovers like a shadow in most people's lives, and there is nothing we can do to change it, but there are ways to avoid becoming poor.
Everything in this world is changing, and there is no best or worst in everything, only better and worse. If you can't change the status quo, then accept it calmly, don't break the jar, and simply give up everything in life.
If a person is a tree, then the family is the soil around the roots of the tree, the family provides support and nutrition to the individual, and the quality of the family environment can greatly affect the direction of the individual's life.
Some people may say that the quality of the family environment can only depend on the will of God, and there is no way for the individual as a family member to turn the family situation around on his own. In fact, as long as the individual as a family member regulates his own behavior and habits, he can effectively avoid the decline of the family.
It is not a good sign that these kinds of people often come to the house, and they are poor.
Idle friends
There is a cloud in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty: "There are still many fertile fields today, and they have not been cultivated." He knows and gives to the poor, gives food, and does his best to make the land useless. This passage is a suggestion to give fertile fields to the poor, and to give some seeds, so that the land will not be wasted, and at the same time people will have work and not be idle.
Obviously, a loafer is a person who has nothing to do.
Whether in ancient times or in modern times, as long as people do not have something to do, they will have crooked thoughts, which is due to human nature, which can be regulated but difficult to change.
When interacting with people, you must see if the other party has something to do, try not to make friends with idle people, not only because "things gather in kind, people in groups" The other party will affect you, but the more realistic reason is that idle people have no rules in their hearts, and the more contact with them, the easier it is to get into trouble.
Idlers are not only lazy, but also fond of causing trouble, and if such people are often haunted by the house, it is inevitable that they will become poor.
Relatives with incorrect views
A person's three views are not something that can be formed in a short period of time. People with incorrect views often have a very poor living environment. Dealing with this kind of person not only has to face the embarrassment of talking with chickens and ducks, but also faces a long period of mental wear.
If it is not too difficult to stay away from people with wrong views, then it is too difficult to stay away from relatives with wrong views.
People who can carry it clearly will not open up because the other party is a relative, and in the face of people with wrong views, no matter what identity the other party is, they should keep their distance.
People with wrong views always live a very awkward life, they not only have problems with their own thoughts, but also try to lead the people around them crookedly. This is the real reason why we should stay away from people with wrong views.
The goal of people with three wrong views is never at the same end as normal people, and under normal circumstances, they can't communicate happily with others, if this kind of person is a relative, try to avoid the other party often coming to their home, because the more often they come, the more likely the family atmosphere is to change.
Classmates of misconduct
Everyone wants their life to go well, but everyone can't avoid a thorny society. Truly intelligent people will always have a trace of sobriety, and only those who are confused will gradually lose control of their choice in interpersonal interactions.
Zeng Guofan Youyun: "Life or failure is all about the merit of friends, don't be careful." "When making friends, you must look at the other person's conduct, and people with bad conduct are likely to ruin the lives of those around them.
Classmates is a beautiful word, although its beauty is not too obvious when studying, but as it gets farther and farther away from campus, people's impression of classmates will gradually be complete.
However, there is no perfect person in this world, not all people who belong to "classmates" are simple, they also have other social identities, and they are ordinary people who cannot escape the weakness of human nature.
In the face of classmates with misconduct, you should keep your distance, and if you can break off friendship, it is best to break off friendship directly. After all, it is easy to get closer to people in the relationship between people, but if you forcibly distance yourself after the distance is close, it will lead to unpleasantness.
Men and women with ulterior motives
People are emotional animals, so no matter what, they can't escape the ties of feelings, some people can treat emotions clearly, and some people can't treat emotions clearly. Those who can carry it clearly can keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex no matter what the environment is and what their mood is, while those who can't carry it are often dragged into the abyss step by step by others by the nose in "ignorance".
As the saying goes, "Home and everything prospers." "If in a family, the husband and wife do not trust each other, then it is impossible for the family to be harmonious, and it is even more difficult for it to be stable.
Maintaining a sense of boundaries is something that everyone should understand and must do. If there are often men and women with ulterior motives in the family, then the family is doomed to be rich.
Men and women with ulterior motives always wear the cloak of "love", and in the end everything they do is for the sake of greed for money.
Beware of those of the opposite sex who approach actively, they can't have no other purpose, and never think about taking advantage of others, those who take advantage will suffer.