"Xiao Ming, it's been a long time!" As soon as my sister-in-law saw me, she greeted me warmly, her face filled with the joy of reunion after a long absence.
"yes, I haven't seen you in eighteen years, right?" I smiled a little embarrassedly, "How are you doing?"
"Divorce?" I was taken aback, "What's the matter? Aren't you doing well?"
I saw that she was obviously depressed, and hurriedly comforted: "Don't be sad, speak slowly, I'll listen." "
My sister-in-law looked at me with a hint of resentment in her eyes: "If you hadn't introduced my brother to me back then, we wouldn't have come to this point." "
It was the year before we graduated from junior high school, and my sister-in-law's brother and I were in the same class. He is tall, handsome, and has good grades, and is a well-known top student in school. We have a very strong relationship and talk about everything.
One day after school, we had nothing to do and just walked around the playground. My sister-in-law suddenly walked in from the school gate and ran over when she saw us.
"Brother, get to know me, this is my best buddy Xiao Ming. My sister-in-law's brother nodded at me.
"Xiao Ming, your class is really promising, you study so well!" The sister-in-law said enviously.
"Where, where, your brother is the real scholar. I quickly smiled modestly.
In this way, the three of you talked to me and chatted. The sister-in-law's brother looked at her with a gentle look in his eyes as if he were looking at his beloved girlfriend.
The sister-in-law's brother was stunned for a moment, and then quickly reacted and waved his hand again and again: "No, no, no, we're just ordinary friends." "
"Ouch, look at you, how old you are and how shy you are. Seeing this, I quipped, "The girl is so beautiful, if you take a fancy to her, I will be happy for you!"
And just like that, it all started at that moment. The three of us met in this way, but at that time, I could never have imagined that this seemingly unintentional joke would lead to today, 18 years later.
"Later, you went on a blind date and got married?" I asked my sister-in-law curiously.
The sister-in-law nodded, her eyes gloomy and sad: "Yes, the three of us were ordinary friends from the beginning. But I don't know when my brother started to have other thoughts about me. "
"Yes, that's what you think. The sister-in-law's voice trembled a little, "My brother began to have a crush on me, and asked my mother to be a matchmaker for him, and we went on a blind date and got married." "
I was a little dumbfounded, and I didn't know what to say. It was true that I had caused everything back then, and if I hadn't told that joke at the time, my sister-in-law and her brother would not have come to this point.
"In the first few years, we were quite happy. The sister-in-law continued, "My brother is very good to me, we have a worry-free life, and our life is quite comfortable. "
But just five years ago, my brother started cheating. The sister-in-law's tears suddenly welled up in her eyes, "He hooked up with a junior in the unit, and the two of them often steal outside." "
My heart sank suddenly, and I couldn't believe my ears. A strong sense of guilt and self-blame came over me, and I almost ran out of breath.
Later, the sister-in-law found out and began an endless quarrel. The two of them are arguing every day, and I'm really heartbroken!" The sister-in-law cried so much that she was incoherent.
I looked at the once lively and lovely sister-in-law in front of me, and suddenly felt like a knife in my heart. I gently stroked her back, trying to share some of her pain, but found that my hands were trembling slightly.
My sister-in-law raised her head and looked at me, her eyes full of resentment: "Yes, it's all your fault! If it weren't for you, my sister-in-law and I wouldn't be so miserable!"
"Xiao Ming, you must help me!" My sister-in-law suddenly grabbed my hand tightly, her eyes were earnest and eager, "You must persuade my brother, don't divorce easily!"
I was taken aback by her sudden move, and I was at a loss for a moment. My heart was in a tangle like never before.
On the one hand, I do feel deeply guilty and feel that the failure of this marriage has a lot to do with my decision back then. If I hadn't introduced my sister-in-law's brother to her, they wouldn't have come this far. I was responsible for my decision and did everything I could to save this marriage from breaking down.
On the other hand, I don't feel that I have the right to interfere too much in other people's family affairs. The marriage of sister-in-law's brother and sister-in-law has reached the final step, and it is entirely up to them whether to divorce or not. I'm an outsider, although I used to pull the strings by chance, but now I can't do anything about it.
I fell into deep contemplation, weighing the pros and cons repeatedly. The anxious eyes of my sister-in-law were like an invisible arrow, nailing my heart firmly to the spot. I clenched my fists, struggling in my heart.
"Well, I promise you. "In the end, I made that decision anyway.
The sister-in-law's eyes lit up, revealing a long-lost smile: "Thank you Xiao Ming, I knew you would definitely help me!"
"But first, I'll meet your brother alone to see what he thinks. I added, "After all, this is a matter of his life, and I can't jump to conclusions without knowing anything." "
The sister-in-law nodded, and seemed to think that my approach was very reasonable. We parted like this, and I secretly resolved that I must take responsibility for the decision I made 18 years ago and do everything I could to save the marriage.
A few days later, I went to my sister-in-law's brother's company, hoping to talk to him in person. What I didn't expect was that when I met him, he looked very resolute and seemed to have made up his mind to divorce.
"Xiao Ming, I know you are well-intentioned. My sister-in-law's brother looked at me and said in a sincere tone, "But it's better not to meddle in the matter between me and my sister-in-law." "
I was stunned, I didn't expect him to reject me so bluntly. I thought he would be like my sister-in-law, begging me to come forward and persuade him, but I didn't expect him to be so resolute.
My sister-in-law's brother shook his head and interrupted me: "Xiao Ming, you don't know the whole thing. The reason why I was with my sister-in-law back then was actually out of impulse and wrong judgment. "
"At that time, I was just fascinated by my sister-in-law, and I didn't really know her as a person. After getting married, the personalities and living habits of the two of us are too different, which is why there are so many contradictions. "
I looked at him in shock, speechless. It turns out that things are not as simple as I always thought, and my sister-in-law's brother has not always loved my sister-in-law so much.
"I'll admit that it was my fault that I cheated. But between me and my sister-in-law, there is no real affection for a long time. The sister-in-law's brother sighed, "Instead of barely maintaining a marriage that is destined to end without a problem, it is better to divorce happily and start a new life separately." "
I was silent, suddenly realizing how naïve and naïve my previous decision was. I thought that saving a marriage was all about persuading the person involved, but I didn't get to the bottom of the whole thing.
"Xiao Ming, I know you have good intentions. My sister-in-law patted me on the shoulder, "But there are some things that are destined to be unchangeable." Instead of reluctantly, accept reality. "
I let out a long sigh and felt that he had a point. Some things are really involuntary, even if it wasn't for my joke at the beginning, my sister-in-law and her brother might not be able to grow old together.
"Well, I respect your decision. "At the end of the day, that's all I can say.
The sister-in-law's brother smiled slightly, as if he had finally relieved himself of the burden in his heart. I fell deeper into contemplation and began to reflect on whether I had made the right decision.
"Xiao Ming, you just gave up like this?" When I told my sister-in-law what her brother thought, she couldn't believe it.
But he seemed to have made up his mind to get a divorce. I tried to explain, "We can't force people either, can we?"
"How can you say that?" The sister-in-law's eyes were full of disappointment and anger, "You didn't do your best to persuade him! If it were me, I would never give up!"
"I'm sorry, sister-in-law. I lowered my head, my tone extremely painful, "I was confused back then, and it was only then that I introduced your brother to you, which led to today's result. Now I'm also guilty of myself, I'm guilty. "
"But what if you feel guilty?" The sister-in-law's tears burst out of her eyes, "You didn't really want to save my marriage with my brother at all, you just felt sorry for yourself!"
I was speechless, she was right. The reason why I tried to persuade my sister-in-law and brother was more out of guilt than out of a genuine desire to help them. When he refused, I gave up and didn't make any further effort.
"Sister-in-law, I'm sorry. I looked up and said in a sincere tone, "I'll try again, and I'll definitely put myself in your shoes and do my best." "
As the "culprit" of the failure of this marriage, do I have the responsibility and obligation to do my best to save it? But on the other hand, marriage is often easier said than done, and requires sincere dedication and compromise on both sides. As an outsider, even out of guilt and guilt, it is difficult for me to influence other people's decisions.
I was in deep contemplation and struggle. On the one hand, I felt that I should take responsibility for the decision made 18 years ago, and I couldn't just give up. On the other hand, I was repeatedly weighing whether I should respect my sister-in-law's brother's decision and not interfere too much in other people's household affairs.
And so, I thought about it over and over again for a night. It wasn't until it was slightly white that I made a decision: I was going to try again, even if it was the last time, no matter what.
"Sister-in-law, I know you must be disappointed and angry with me right now. "But trust me, I'm going to do my best to save your marriage with your brother." "
The sister-in-law was silent, her eyes full of suspicion and distrust.
"You said it lightly, but you have never experienced the ups and downs of marriage. She said coldly, "How can you really understand our situation?"
"But I'm going to at least give it a try, don't I?" I stubbornly said, "If you give up even me, the original 'culprit', what hope is there for your marriage?"
The sister-in-law was slightly stunned, and seemed to be moved by my words. Eventually, she nodded, and seemed determined to give me another chance.
And just like that, I began the long lobbying process. I first made an appointment with my sister-in-law's brother again, and this time, I sincerely apologized to him, hoping that he would give myself and my sister-in-law another chance to start over.
"Xiao Ming, I understand your kindness. My sister-in-law looked at me in a tired and helpless tone, "But do you really understand the conflicts between me and my sister-in-law? "
I was stopped by his words, indeed, all kinds of conflicts in marriage require long-term mutual understanding and compromise between both parties. As an outsider, it's hard for me to really appreciate that.
"Then did you just give up?" I asked helplessly, "18 years of affection, just like this?"
The sister-in-law's brother shook his head, his eyes full of exhaustion: "Xiao Ming, you don't understand." There has been no affection between us for a long time. Instead of barely maintaining a marriage that is destined to end without a problem, it is better to divorce neatly and start a new life on their own. "
I was silent, and suddenly realized how naïve and naïve I was. I thought that persuasion could save a marriage, but I didn't realize how complicated and intricate the entanglements of marriage were.
Just when I was about to give up, my sister-in-law's sister-in-law suddenly came to the door. She looked haggard, her eyes full of pain and helplessness.
"Xiao Ming, I know you are well-intentioned. She said to me, "But do you really understand the conflict between me and my sister-in-law's brother?"
I was stopped by her words, and could only shake my head sincerely.
It turned out that the contradiction between the sister-in-law and sister-in-law and the sister-in-law's brother has been going on for a long time. In the beginning, the reason why they got married was largely due to impulse and wrong judgment.
"At that time, I was obsessed with your brother and thought he was my ideal other half. The sister-in-law said, "But after we got married, I found out that the differences in our personalities and living habits were too great." "
My sister-in-law's brother is a rather pragmatic and rational person, who pursues an efficient and regular life schedule; The sister-in-law and sister-in-law are more casual and romantic, and she likes to do something heartfelt in the dead of night.
"In the beginning, the two of us were able to tolerate and understand each other. However, as time passed, these small contradictions accumulated more and more, and eventually evolved into irreparable rifts. The sister-in-law said bitterly.
And the derailment of the sister-in-law's brother made the relationship between the couple even worse. After the sister-in-law and sister-in-law found out that the sister-in-law's brother had a lover outside, the two began endless quarrels and cold wars.
"I know he's wrong, but there's no affection between us anymore. The sister-in-law said, "Instead of barely maintaining a marriage that is destined to end without a problem, it is better to divorce neatly and start a new life separately." "
Listening to my sister-in-law and sister-in-law, I began to understand that the contradictions between them were far more complicated than I imagined. This can no longer be solved by simple persuasion, but requires long-term mutual understanding and compromise between the two sides.
Just when I was deep in thought, my sister-in-law and sister-in-law suddenly spoke: "Xiao Ming, I know that you have good intentions. But there are some things that are destined to be unchangeable.
"There are some things that are destined to not change. This sentence of my sister-in-law and sister-in-law was like a hammer, smashing my heart.
I suddenly realized how naïve and naïve I had been in what I had done before. I thought that with persistent persuasion, I would be able to save this marriage from breaking down. However, I underestimated the entanglements and contradictions in marriage, which require long-term mutual understanding and compromise between the two parties.
I was mired in deep contemplation and self-doubt. Perhaps, my sister-in-law and sister-in-law have a point, some things are destined to be unchangeable, and no matter how hard I try, I can't reverse this established fact.
Just when I was about to give up, my sister-in-law suddenly appeared in front of me. She looked at me with a complicated and conflicted look in her eyes.
"Xiao Ming, I know you are well-intentioned. She said, "But are you really qualified to influence my marriage to my brother, and how can you really understand our entanglement?"
Just as I was in a deep struggle, my sister-in-law's eyes suddenly softened.
"Still, I'm grateful for your kindness. She said, "It was because of you, the 'initiator', who were trying your best to persuade me, that I realized that maybe my marriage with my brother could still be saved." "
I was stunned, I didn't expect my sister-in-law to say this. It turned out that my efforts were not all in vain, but made her realize something.
"Xiao Ming, would you like to hear my story?" My sister-in-law looked at me with a firm look in her eyes, "Maybe you can really understand why our marriage has come to this point." "
I nodded, and decided to put aside my prejudices and listen to my sister-in-law with an open mind.
It turned out that the root of the conflict between the sister-in-law and her brother could be traced back many years ago. Back then, the sister-in-law always regarded her brother as her idol and thought that he was her ideal other half. However, after she actually got married, she found out that the personalities and living habits of the two of them were too different.
The sister-in-law's brother is quite a pragmatic and rational person, while the sister-in-law is more romantic and casual. At first, they were able to tolerate and understand each other, but as time went by, these small contradictions accumulated more and more, and eventually evolved into irreparable rifts.
"I know it's wrong for my brother to cheat, but there's no affection between us anymore. The sister-in-law said bitterly, "Instead of barely maintaining a marriage that is destined to end without a problem, it is better to divorce neatly and start a new life separately." "
Listening to my sister-in-law's story, I began to truly understand the entanglements between them. It turns out that this can no longer be solved by simple persuasion, and requires long-term mutual understanding and compromise between the two sides.
However, it was precisely because of my perseverance that my sister-in-law realized that maybe her marriage with her brother could still be saved.
"Xiao Ming, thank you. The sister-in-law looked at me with gratitude in her eyes, "It is because of your unremitting persuasion that I realize that maybe we should give each other another chance." "
At this moment, the sister-in-law and brother also walked in. He looked at us with exhaustion and struggle in his eyes.
"Brother, I know that there are too many contradictions and estrangements between us. The sister-in-law said to him, "But should we give each other another chance? "
The sister-in-law's brother was silent for a long time, as if he was weighing the pros and cons. Just when I thought he would refuse, he nodded.
"Okay, let's try again. "But this will be the last chance." If we still can't regain the relationship we had back then, then let's separate completely and start anew. "
The sister-in-law's eyes lit up and she nodded excitedly. I was secretly relieved and thanked God for finally giving them a chance to start over.
In this way, with all my persuasion, my sister-in-law and her brother decided to start all over again. I know that it will be a long and arduous road that will require sincere commitment and compromise on both sides. However, as long as they can truly cherish this last chance, there will be a good outcome.
And for me, this marital crisis has also given me valuable life experience. I finally realized that marriage was far more complicated than I had imagined, and that it would take a long time for both parties to understand and compromise with each other. As an outsider, it's hard for me to really appreciate the entanglements.
However, it was precisely because of my enthusiasm and perseverance that my sister-in-law realized something and gave them the courage to start over. This is perhaps the greatest remedy that I, the "culprit", can do.
From now on, no matter where my sister-in-law and her brother's marriage goes, I will sincerely bless them, hoping that they can let go of the past and cherish this precious opportunity. And myself, I will also learn from this incident and be more cautious and rational in my future life.