Hello everyone, today I will tell you about the problem of "fake baby" for the elderly.
Recently, many fans have privately messaged me, saying that they don't have time to bring the baby on weekdays, and they are all handed over to the elderly.
But not all grandparents are willing to take the baby, they also have their own hobbies, and they also want to play chess and square dance occasionally.
So a lot of moms and I complained that their parents were "fake with babies", and they looked at the old people with babies, but they didn't seem to be bringing babies.
As the saying goes, "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure," the physical and mental health of children and the elderly is the most important thing for our family, so how can we avoid "fake baby"?
The old people "fake the baby", and the daughter-in-law dares to be angry but dare not speak
On the busy city street, Xiaoli had just gotten off work and hurried home.
She thought in her heart that she must go home early today, accompany her children, and make up for the parent-child time she missed because of overtime in the past few days.
However, when she pushed open the door of the house, the scene in front of her made her heart sink to the bottom.
I saw my three-year-old son Xiao Ming, sitting on the floor of the living room, with a bunch of colorful toys in front of him, but he was at a loss, looking at his grandmother's distant back with empty hands.
Xiaoli's heart hurt like a pinprick, and she walked over quickly and hugged the child.
"What's the matter, baby, do you miss your mother?" asked Xiaoli softly.
Xiao Ming raised his head, looked at his mother with teary eyes, and said in a slightly choked voice: "Mom, I'm so bored, grandma always lets me play alone." ”
Xiaoli dared not speak out in the face of such a problem, after all, there are still a lot of mortgages and car loans at home, and she takes care of the baby full-time, not to mention that the living expenses are not settled, and she has to cut off the supply, which is very stressful.
For the phenomenon of "fake baby", we need to deeply explore the reasons behind it and seek corresponding solutions. This is not only a problem within the family, but also a problem that the whole society needs to pay attention to and solve.
The reason for the "fake baby".
It is undeniable that many grandmothers still care about their grandchildren, and they have contributed a lot of money and efforts.
However, there are also some grandmothers who have the phenomenon of "fake baby", let's dig into the reasons.
First of all, some grandmothers may not be able to spend a long time with their children at high intensity due to physical reasons, hobbies or social activities, and can only provide the most basic care.
Some grandmothers may have differences with young parents in parenting styles due to differences in educational concepts, resulting in friction and contradictions, resulting in their reluctance to take care of their babies.
In addition, changes in the modern family structure, such as the increase in dual-income families, have made many young parents tired between work and family, and lack enough time and energy to personally participate in the education and care of their children, which has invisibly increased the pressure and burden on grandmothers in the family.
The direct consequence of "fake baby" is that the child's growth environment is seriously affected.
Children are the future and hope of the motherland, and their healthy growth is related to the well-being of every family and even the whole society.
However, when grandmothers are unable to provide adequate care and guidance due to age, physical strength or other reasons, children are prone to a series of adverse effects such as emotional deficits, behavioral problems and even declining academic performance.
When a child who lacks parent-child companionship grows up, he or she may have personality problems and become extremely clingy or extremely cold.
Therefore, for the sake of the growth of children, we must refuse to "fake with a baby".
So, how do we avoid "fake baby"?
The baby's growth is only once, and we can't "adulterate, so how can we avoid it?"
Although we must be considerate of the elderly, we must also have reasonable ways to help the child's growth get on the right track.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Promote Family Awareness:
Strengthen parent-child education and encourage parents to build deep emotional bonds with their children.
Family members should communicate regularly with each other to develop a parenting plan together to ensure that the child receives a balanced care and education.
2. Optimize the working environment:
Businesses can offer flexible working regimes, such as telecommuting and flexible working hours, to help parents better balance work and family.
Governments can develop policies to support working parents, such as more parental leave.
3. Improving Elderly Care Skills:
Conduct care training courses for older adults to teach modern parenting knowledge and skills to help them better understand and support their grandchildren's development.
Through the media and public service announcements, promote the correct concept of parenting and eliminate the intergenerational gap.
4. Encourage men to participate in parenting:
Promote the concept of gender equality in child-rearing, and encourage men to actively participate in household chores and child-rearing work.
Adopt laws and policies to protect men's paternity leave rights and reduce the lack of family time due to work pressure.
5. Strengthen education and awareness-raising:
Strengthen parenting education for young parents through schools, communities, media and other channels to help them realize the importance of growing up with their children.
The release of a research report on the negative impact of "fake baby" has aroused widespread concern and discussion in the society.
Epilogue:
As long as each of us can start from ourselves and actively participate in the action to solve the problem, I believe that in the near future, we can jointly create a family environment full of love and responsibility that is conducive to the healthy growth of children.
After all, children grow up only once, and we can't let them spend in the shadow of "fake babies".
Does this phenomenon of "fake baby" exist in your family? Leave a message in the comment area and let's discuss it together!