Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
It is said that men are visual "animals" and are easily attracted by women's beauty.
However, in true love, beauty is often just a "stepping stone", and what can really make a man fall into it is often some "traits" of women.
In particular, some of the traits that seem to be "shortcomings".
Many times, the more obvious the three "shortcomings" in a woman, the more deeply the man will love.
01
Occasional "mini-works"
There is a kind of woman who occasionally likes to be coquettish and lose her temper.
This kind of "small work", in the eyes of men, has become a symbol of cuteness.
Of course, the "little work" here must not be vexatious, but a woman at the right time to show a man that she is very weak and needs to be cared for.
For example, when a man is busy with work and neglects you, you can pretend to be angry and deliberately pout, saying, "You ignore me, don't you like me anymore?"
This kind of little hypocrisy, in the eyes of a man, is that you care about his performance, which will make him want to coax you and spoil you more.
As Shakespeare said, "A woman falls in love with her ears, but a man, if he falls in love, with his eyes." ”
Women's "small works" just meet the psychology of men who want to be needed and depended on. Then in his heart, he will naturally love you a little more.
02
Moderately "clingy"
Some women are clingy in love and always want to stay with men. In the eyes of men, this kind of "sticky" is actually attachment and trust to him.
Of course, the so-called "sticky" here is not entangled all the time, eager to stay together 24 hours a day, and even on call.
Instead, at the right time, it expresses its reluctance to love a man.
For example, when a man is going on a business trip, you can tearfully say, "You have to come back early, I'll miss you." ”
This moderate clinginess will make the man cherish the time with you more, and it will also make him more willing to work hard and return to you sooner.
As Rousseau said, "I would rather sacrifice my own happiness a thousand times for the happiness of those I love." ”
A woman's "stickiness" is the embodiment of her love for men, which will make men feel warm in their hearts and be willing to give.
03
Inadvertent "stupidity"
Some women will always make some "little fools" inadvertently in love, such as forgetting to bring the key, putting salt as sugar, etc.
But these seemingly "stupid" behaviors have become synonymous with cuteness in the eyes of men.
Because, these "stupidity" of women is precisely their real and unpretentious side.
For example, when you're in the kitchen struggling to cook, you may put too much salt or forget to put a seasoning, and you may laugh awkwardly and say, "Oops, I think I'm getting it wrong again." ”
This kind of inadvertent "stupidity" not only does not make a man feel bored, but will make him think that you are very real and cute.
Mark Twain once said, "Love is easy, but the difficult thing is how to endure." ”
Women's occasional "stupidity" is exactly their true side in love. Such an undisguised will make a man love her as she is.
In a woman, if there are these three "shortcomings" mentioned above, in the eyes of men, it is often not shortcomings, but cuteness.
Because this is a woman's truth and weakness, and it is also a trust in a man, which makes men want to protect her and spoil her more.
Therefore, in love, women do not have to deliberately hide these "shortcomings" of themselves. Instead, be bold and show your truest self!
Because a man who truly loves you will know how to appreciate every side of you.