Preamble:
In recent years, with the development of society and the renewal of people's ideas, more and more people have begun to reflect on the negative impact of bride price on marriage and family. The existence of the bride price system may complicate marriage, but also bring heavy psychological burden and economic pressure to men. With the advent of the "foreign daughter-in-law" trend, some Chinese men have begun to choose to find partners abroad, perhaps because they want to get rid of the pressure of bride price and seek a new marriage model. However, the traditional "little fairy" expressed dissatisfaction with the "foreign daughter-in-law's" practice of zero bride price, which also sparked a discussion about the concept of marriage and the issue of bride price.
1. The psychological burden and economic pressure brought by the bride price to men
The bride price is a custom in traditional Chinese marriage, the man needs to give the woman a certain amount of property as a dowry, and in some places, the amount of the bride price is often very large, some even as high as hundreds of thousands of yuan, or even millions of yuan, which undoubtedly brings heavy economic pressure to the man, but also makes some families with economic difficulties worse, many people in order to raise the money for the bride price, have to bear heavy debts, and even affect life and work.
In addition to financial pressure, the bride price issue may also bring psychological burden to men, they may feel inferior and frustrated because they cannot afford the high bride price, which also makes their view of marriage have a certain impact, feeling that if they cannot provide enough bride price to each other, they will not be able to get the family's approval and happy marriage, therefore, they may have to fight financially for the bride price, which also makes the marriage full of utilitarianism.
Second, the trend of "foreign daughters-in-law" has brought a new impact to China's marriage market
Compared with China's bride price customs, the concept of marriage abroad may be more open and equal, and there will be no excessive material requirements, therefore, some men think that "foreign daughters-in-law" are more likely to fall in love with themselves, and pay more attention to the feelings and inner qualities of both parties, and do not care about the amount of bride price.
In addition, some men also feel that "foreign daughters-in-law" are more independent and have their own careers and lives, they are not with them for the bride price and marriage, but really like themselves, which also makes them have a certain good impression of "foreign daughters-in-law", and feel that they may be the partners they really want to find.
The emergence of the trend of "foreign daughter-in-law" has undoubtedly brought a certain impact to China's marriage market, and has also made people begin to think about the issue of bride price and marriage concept.
3. The conflict between the bride price and the "zero bride price" and the concept of marriage
With the emergence of the trend of "foreign daughter-in-law", some men began to choose to find a partner abroad, which is the so-called "zero bride price", in their view, "zero bride price" does not mean that there is no love and commitment in marriage, but a reflection on the bride price, but also an update of the concept of marriage, they hope that through the practice of "zero bride price", more people begin to pay attention to the emotional exchange and inner communication in marriage, and also make the bride price in marriage no longer become an exchange of money and material.
However, the traditional "little fairies" expressed dissatisfaction with the practice of "zero bride price", they felt that "zero bride price" was just the man's wishful thinking, did not represent the woman's wishes, and may also make the woman face more unfair treatment in the marriage, therefore, they began to call for the bride price to face up to the problem, rather than simply resisting, and should fundamentally solve the negative impact of the bride price on the marriage, so that the bride price in the marriage is more reasonable and equal, and should not become a hurdle in the relationship between men and women.
Epilogue:
Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful thing, it should be based on the mutual understanding and mutual respect of both parties, rather than the transaction of money and bride price, the existence of the bride price system, may make marriage complicated, but also bring heavy psychological burden and economic pressure to men, and "foreign daughters-in-law" Perhaps, the real marriage should be a process of emotional exchange and common growth between the two parties, and the concept of materialism should be abandoned, and the pursuit of true love and inner satisfaction should also make marriage more beautiful and harmonious.