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As people get older, they will become more and more "life-saving". After all, with the aging of the body and the chill of old age, I will feel more or less anxious, afraid of aging, afraid that I have not enjoyed life well, and will leave in a hurry.
To cherish life is to respect life. Only by cherishing life can we love life more.
When people are over 60, the most advanced way to cherish their lives is to be a retired old man who "4 don't want to".
01. I don't want to think about money, in fact, how much wealth a person has in this life, in fact, there is a fixed number.
If you are over 60 years old, if your current financial situation is okay, then try not to think about money anymore.
As the saying goes, people die for money, and birds die for death. Many people are busy for money all their lives, and even for the sake of greedy money, they can give up their lives.
In fact, we must understand that making money is for a better life, and we must not put the cart before the horse. If you are insatiable, sacrifice your physical health in order to make money, and make your life very tiring and miserable, then there is no point in it.
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After the age of 60, if you have not achieved financial freedom, then you should not envy those who are rich, we just need to live our own lives.
If we don't have a spacious mansion, then we live in an old house of 6 or 70 square meters, and if we don't have the financial strength to travel all over the world, then we can go to the park for a walk and play chess, which is also very good. As much ability as possible, what kind of life you live.
Don't compare, accept the fact that you are an ordinary person, and face the real life calmly.
02. Don't want to live and die, forget about age and go with the flow.
Many old people around me feel that they are old after the age of 60, and there is only a way back in life, and life has lost its goal, they are afraid of aging, they worry about this and that all day long, and even they can't sleep with anxious insomnia, and the state of the whole person is getting worse and worse.
In fact, even when people are old, we should not think about life and death. Because everybody will grow old eventually, it's a natural law.
Even if you are the richest man in the world and how prestigious you are, you have to face the problem of life and death, and it is inseparable from the natural law of birth, old age, sickness and death.
So, since everyone's "terminal" is the same, the most important thing for us is to enjoy the scenery along the way.
So forget about your age, just go with the flow, and most importantly, I cherish the present life.
The world is impermanent, be at peace with what happens, and accept the uncertainty of life, this is the only way to truly live transparently!
03. I don't want to do too much about my children, my children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and when we are old, we can support our old age with peace of mind.
Many retired elderly people confided in me that their life after retirement is busier than when they go to work, because they have to help their children with housework, take care of their children, and take them to and from school all day long. It is simply a 24-hour "full-time nanny" for children.
In fact, as the elderly, we also have to have our own lives, never put all our time and energy on our children, and don't think too much about our children.
There's an old saying that says –
When we are old, one of the main priorities of life is to take care of our lives with peace of mind.
After the children have grown up and started their own family, we have completed the task again and are about to retire.
You can't take care of your children's lives, we will all leave one day, and our children will also have to carry the burden of life and let them grow up on their own.
Moreover, if you worry too much, your children may not appreciate it, and they will accuse you of managing too much and too strictly, which will inevitably affect the relationship between each other. Therefore, it is good for parents and children to keep an appropriate distance from each other.
04, I don't want to do things in the past, whether it's brilliant or regretful, let them all go!
Some old people always live in the past, and in the process of chatting and talking with others, they often show off their glorious "achievements" in the past, proud, complacent, and enjoy the envy of others.
Yes, it is true that some old people were very powerful when they were young, such as a neighbor in our community, who was the regional general manager of a company before he retired, managing thousands of employees, and made proud achievements in his career.
But now that he is retired, he is now an ordinary retired old man, and no one will come to give gifts, and no one will come to invite you to dinner.
Therefore, whether it is the glory of the past or regret, let it all go, people cannot live in the past forever, the wheel of history is rolling forward, and our life must look forward after all.
No matter how many regrets there are in the past, time will not go back, and an imperfect life is a real life.